Grief…
We’ve all experienced it in some way, and we’re sure to experience it again…
It’s part of the ebb and flow of life.
But sometimes, it seems like too much to handle.
Whether you are experiencing some current grief from a recent loss, or have a past experience that you haven’t fully resolved, this audio is sure to change your life.
Jessica had the opportunity to conduct a beautiful, informative, and powerful interview with Carol Look on how to use Tapping to process grief.
It was originally meant to be a Tapping Insiders Club exclusive, but so many people have asked for information on this subject, that we made it available to everyone.
Block out the time to listen to it right away. It’s that important.
Here it is:
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Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
Nick
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I lost my wife of 49 years in March of 2009. I can’t think of a greater hell to live through than the one I’ve been plunged into by the passing of my wife. What Carol says about grief affecting one’s body is very true in that I am enveloped by a state of depression that I try to keep off of me by tapping. I feel the exercise has been helpful. Thank you for producing the interview with such a caring and knowledgeable person. Thank you.
Thank You! Thank You! Thank You! Jessica & Carol for making this available to us. I lost my daughter to breast cancer and she left behind her 10 yr old daughter and her 7 yr old son. It was so good to listen to the many, many similarities that Carol mentioned. I found tapping just after my loss almost 2 yrs ago and with the help of an EFT practitoner who has become a good friend to me now really helped me to get through it and feel peace.
It is as if Carol was speaking directly to me in this audio. I am so grateful. Everything you said was so good and the tapping too. Thank You again,
This is one of the most thoughtful, realistic and helpful discussions on grief that I have
heard. As a therapist of 26 years, I am very grateful for Carol speaking out so clearly and articulately. There is NO one right way. Also, she has helped people understand that
simplyl expressing their concern and sympathy is enough. Also, she’s made people
aware that death is a loss at any age and we should not minimize it because people
are old when they die. Kudos to Carol Look for this talk. As osmeone who works
extensively with forgiveness, there is much of this talk that overlaps with my work
in this area. Robbie Engelmann
What a treasure to give. Thank you. My Sweetie passed away one week ago. He had multiple health issues and was in poor physical condition, but the actuality of his death is still hard to deal with. I appreciate the gift of these tools to assist right now when I need it most. Thank You so much. I am so fortunate to have known him, to live at this time when gifts of spirit and the true nature of mankind are emerging. When I deny myself the stupid luxury of self-pity and focus on core essence of who he was, what remains is what a great person he was and how LUCKY I am to have known a man like him.
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Thank you Carol, Today was the seventh anniversary of my fathers sudden and unexpected death from undiagnosed lung cancer, even though he was under medical care. The grief just got stuck in me like a heavy undigested meal. So many emotions tearing at me in every direction. The crass betrayal of my sister who was more interested in what she could take and go back to her life. It was so unexpected when I was expecting us to grieve together. It was lonely and I ended up with a massive case of shingles . The physical pain and the emotional pain co-existed together. Its only now that I can step back and look at it and say I’m an overcomer. I’m not the same but I understand myself better and this journey into grief has enlarged my capacity to understand and be a compassionate listener for others. Tapping brings peace to my body. God bless you and many thanks.
This was so powerful and important. Is ther any way that this can be downloaded to listen to over and over again? I have had so losses in my life that I was never able to grieve and I know it would be very helpful for me to be able to have this to use again in the future to be able to grieve for those losses. I would be willing to purchase an mp3 version of this and I think that others feel the same way. PLEASE consider doing this for the many people who are frozen in their grief. I thank you for this wonderful interview regardless of your decision.
Thank you Ladies! 29 years ago, when I was 21, we learned that my Dad was terminal. His illness and death were swift and painful in a way that I would not wish on anyone. Having found tapping last year, through the 2009TWS, I had focussed on more current issues. This Spring, I took my teenage daughter to see The Last Song and found myself plunged back into the emotions of a daughter’s grief, with tears streaming down my cheeks and choking up as I tried to explain to my concerned sweet girl why I had this reaction. This week, I learned that a former co-worker took his own life, leaving behind his family to try to weave his loss into their lives. The timing of this discussion and tapping could not be better for me, I cried again during it. Yet another item for my LOA gratitude journal. I so much appreciate your sharing Carol, it was much more meaningful because I know that you truly understand. Your words and comments really resonated within me. I know that I will be able to clear the blocks and at last relieve the shock and pain of loss that losing a parent can bring if you don’t allow yourself to weave and process in your own way. Blessings to all of you!
Would love to listen to this. Sent the link to a friend who had four people close to him die over the last few weeks. There is no file to listen to. I love Carol Look and the work Nick Ortner is doing to spread the good of EFT. Is there a plug-in program needed for it that I need to install? I would really like to hear this interview because I am in the process of deep letting go and know there is much for me to mourn as I celebrate moving forward with my life. I hope to have access to the program soon. Thanks for all you do.
Excellent resource! Unfortunate that it will only be available to nonmembers for a few days only. Would love to share with others who have along with me just recently experienced a friends suicide.To early in their process to integrate now. Hopefully we can have continued access if possible. Thankyou so kindly for sharing!
Dear Nick & Carol,
I am a believer in tapping though not very successful.
I am so deaf even with hearing aids that videos and audios are incomprehensible to me. I did once cure a very bad headache just by copying the actions on one of the early videos, and having read some cases managed to find the phrases that worked for me.
We lost my beloved son-in-law of 40 years last October, to a second cancerous brain tumour, my daughter, a wheelchair user and deaf too, is bereft, as are all the family, there have been repercussions from nearly three years of stress and enormous financial family problems, still ongoing. We need tapping HELP !
When I read your email re grief and saw that it was audio my heart sunk!
Would it be possible to subtitle the videos and text for the audios?
I’m sure that there are a good many deaf people who would really appreciate that. I have given quite a few people the website address when they confided to me that they had problems, some have told me they are still tapping on anything! I do hope you will be able to help us as you have helped so many others. Thank you for the emails which I pass on to friends and family. God bless you for passing on the knowledge.
Sincerely,
Jill
As usual Carol has done an amazing job at outlining what grief is really like. There is no one recipe for everyone, although understand what the most common stages are is helpful. Carol’s own personal experience is one I can relate to, as I too have lost many loved ones in a short period of time & have experienced extreme grief. Acknowledging the feelings we have is so important to our healing. As Carol says the pain doesn’t ever go away completely but it certainly becomes more bearable. Using EFT in my life is certainly a real blessing & has helped me immensely. Thanks Carol & thanks Nick & Jessica for the wonderful work you do.
Nicole
I am truly grateful for this chance to reconnect with the deep and complex feelings of loss I have experienced over the last 6 years following the untimely death of my wife.
Carol Look’s experience and expert and heartfelt guidance with tapping somehow made the difference for me in re-connecting with the trauma surrounding my personal loss and in helping me to move a further step beyond that loss.
Listening to this audio really helped me tonight.
Thank you Jessica & Nick
Jessica and Carol, Thank you so very much. I lost my mom a week before Thanksgiving in 2009. She had been quite sick for a long time, so I was surprised at the huge sadness that overwhelmed me. I went back to work after three days, and did perform ok on my job. Since I was in administration, I did not have to deal with people directly, so that helped. I did not cry at work, but I did not smile either. Just before Christmas my boss called me in the office and told me “That I had been through a rough time, but it was over now.” Then he, not very nicely, followed that up by saying that he did not want any unhappy people in the office. I left that meeting crying. Three weeks after Christmas I was fired. I have been processing the grief from the loss of my mom and the loss of my job since last holiday season. The way my boss did that, actually made me feel so guilty about grieving for my mom. I was really an emotional wreck. Thankfully I found out about the Tapping World Summit and took the time to listen to all ten days of the audios of the event. That helped me so much. Tomorrow I have an interview and I feel like I can get though it this time, with relative ease. Since I have been tapping I have felt my old confidence coming back. Today’s “gift” of this audio on grief was exactly what I needed. I plan to listen to it again before my interview tomorrow and tap away some of that anxiety I feel from grieving my old career. Your right, my life will never be the same. It will get better!
2001 was a hard year for me as well with 3 difficult events – the death of my father, the end of my marriage when my husband moved out and then 9/11. Then just last week my exhusband passed away unexpectedly and I am trying to support our two children through this process while dealing with my own emotions about the man who I was married to for 16 years but who never paid child support and felt entitled to everything and responsible for nothing. This audio is a gift that arrived at the perfect time. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you so much for this amazing talk. I uncovered grief I’d never processed over my own younger sister’s sudden death almost ten years ago. & the tapping work seemed to unlock grief over the Gulf oil spill, as well as over aspects of myself that are dying now because of what are actually positive changes in me and in my life. Loss is loss and sometimes we forget, in our desire to grow, that there are things we may love about certain ways of being that no longer serve us. Maybe my own unwillingness to feel the loss of some of the joys of an old way of life has been delaying the change. After listening to Carol, I know how to allow all the feeling of loss to come & be honored, so I can move with an undivided heart into a new way of living. Thank you all for putting this together and making it available to everyone.
This was just SO appropriate Nick – the Universe is just working with me at an amazing level right now. And Carol is just SO RIGHT . . . death, loss and grief is just so complicated.
And without going into the story this is going to help me move on . . . . slowly . . . or fast. Whatever is appropriate.
Again – thank you, thank you – ALL.
Especially the bit about playing it over and over . . .
Thank you.
Sooooo needed! Thank you for your wisdom, generosity, expertise, and skills. I would love to have this recorded to download to use for myself and my clients. Please advise if it can be downloaded.
THANK YOU for this interview. It’s been almost two months since my husband died. Although I knew he was critically ill, it was still a HUGE shock when he died. Since then, I have been living as if I were under water. I do what I have to do to move through the day but I really just want to curl up in bed and cry most of the time. It is good to know that my not having a need to “do” something at this time is OK. There are SO many questions and I am gratified to know that NONE of them have to be answered today!
This was such a glorious lifesaver, as my 64-yr-old husband suddenly and abruptly passed away only five months ago (only 16 days in hospital)…and she is sooooo right, every cell was affected by my loss…he was my love, my heart, my air…I had to be strong for our 3 children and grandchildren, close his law practice, pay all the bills now, deal with everything myself…and while I’m grateful he didn’t have to suffer long, the Universe did make it easy on him and us ultimately no matter how quick it all transpired….so to get this at this phase of my mourning was ideal…it is now that I can mourn him, miss him as before I had to simply deal with what needed to be done…now I can work on my feelings as best I can so I can be more resiliant, happier and not be depressed and count my blessings and to know I’m not alone and there is truly no manual or rules on how to grieve, how long…TAPPING on the shock, the helter/skelterness of it all….has been a godsend…life won’t be the same…life is ever-evolving and I am finding gratitude amongst all the change….Thank You for what you are doing!
As a Holistic Health Counselor it is so helpful to be amongst others who corroborate ways to “appreciate/accept the job I’m doing”!
This was a very insightful and completely informed lesson on grief and grieving.
Thank you!
Thanks for letting me work thru one of the worst experiences of my life. I just turned 65 and decided to retire and volunteer in Belize for two years.Well that’s where the good part ends. I was put in jail for what they said I didn’t have proper I.D. which I did . I actually prayed that I would die ! In the end It was the greatest experience I could ever have. I have written 5 parts so far about my experience. So far do not have a happy ending .I need help. I have to let this go and nothing is working. But I have found things to be grateful for. But something is still missing. Still Alive with a void THANKS JIM KASZYNSKI theideaman@netzero.net
May 10th 2010 I had a total knee replacement, along with the physio, I noticed some aspects of the grief process. Then June 10 2010 my 32 year old son died in an accident, we hadn’t seen him for 7 months and he was a few days from coming home. He left a 10 year old son, a teen daughter, a sister who was like a twin to him, his father, myself and many many people who loved him. This interview came at such a wonderful time for me, I have been going through so many of the stages, guilt and anger are huge for me.
Thank you so much!!!
the recording is not working for me either….
Thank you for this “Tapping Session” on grief. Even though I’ve tapped often since my mother died in March, it helped greatly to tap while being led and hearing Carol and Jessica’s kind voices saying the phrases. I was able to relate to the guilt and heartbreak phrases and especially the way the body reacts to grief.
Excellent. I used the material to deal with the loss and confused feeling I am having about necessary challenging surgery. I will miss my memberhship. Thanks Karen
Hi Nick & Carol …
thank you for this …letting people know its ok to feel deep grief …. and to show it@
love and blessings to you all
PS:- I am an affiliate & would love to share this wonderful interview with my Wisdom Community using my affiliate link .. is there a way I can do this ??
I will still share it, but it would be great to have my affiliate link attached to it as $$s help to keep my website up and running. 🙂
Very special…….thank you so much for sharing this with us.
I lost my 4-year old son in a car accident some years ago. I truly do not know how I processed the grief at the time. I was numb. Then, a few years later, my father died, I went through a divorce and I lost another son in an accident all within a few months time. What can I say, it gets so multi-layered how does one process it all. An emotional stew of feelings. A lot probably gets buried away to come up and haunt later when triggered. Thanks so very much for this process.
Thank you so much for sharing this interview. I lost my husband 4 years ago and was just having a weird day. I just asked out loud for a little help to come my way and when I opened my email, there was your email just waiting for me. It helped me so much just to hear the words I know and feel about grieving, and to have them validated was amazing. And then to get to tap on them was a gift in itself. Thank you so much for helping me today… in the days and years ahead.
Thank you!
Thank you for making this discussion on grief and grieving freely available. It is something that touches all of us. I feel the most important part is to allow it to be- I didnt feel it was ok to allow these feelings to be. So it is such a blessing when someone says it is ok , go with it , allow it to be – wether its days ,weeks , months or years after the loss.
This message touching the hearts who hear it,will in turn touch the hearts of those around them.
So Thank you agian
What a precious gift this was for me today. Thanks so much for the deep feeling that you understand my grief. Our sweet youngest son years of 5 years old passed away suddenly in Oct. 2008. There are no words to describe my grief. I loved how you shared how it’s ok to feel heart broken and to feel the way I feel and to be myself. I love to feel the truth and to feel faith in God that we are all in His hands. I cried continuously through the whole call and am grateful for this time to be myself and to express the grief I still feel over the loss of my precious son. It has given me insight into how to assist my husband and children through all of our loss. Thank you Carol. It is so true that losing one’s own child is indescribable.
My son died when he was 20. A few years after that I did tapping to help with the feeling of guilt that I was somehow responsible and could have stopped it. Logically I wasn’t and couldn’t, yet the consumming feeling of self hate and the need to punish my self for this was there. After tapping for some time, I woke up one day and discovered that part of the guilt I felt was gone. It was an impowering relief! The areas of painful greif, guilt and shock you covered, are amazing because I feel them, just didn’t identify them. Thank you for a few more keys to unlock the confusion I have felt due to my paralizing sadness. Thank you
noreen
Jessica & Carol did a magnificent job of describing the grief process & how is IS different for each person,etc. Thank you Carol, foe adding that you may feel a little “crazy” because it’s been my experience (in my own as well as client’s grief) to feel like I was “losing it” because NOTHING is ever the same again & we have to re-establish our reference points. This takes time and is in uncharted waters, so to say. Thanks, C
Thank you Carol and Jessica for making this available to so many. My personal grief is multi-layered. In the past 2 1/2 years it’s been one thing on top of another… the loss of a 25 year marriage, a favorite pet, my now 26 year old son has not communicated with anyone for over 2 years then 3 months ago I lost my mother. I’m trying to trust the process and be O.K with this period of my life when I feel very unproductive, like a ship without a sail. I tap almost everyday for various things and I’m thankful to both of you for the many resources you’ve put together. Sometimes I think I’m feeling a global grief…. for the loss of animals in the Gulf and water quality there. Whatever the source of my grief I know tapping through the feelings is going to help. Thank you again so much.
Thank You for helping me realize that it is okay to grieve in the way I need to. Tapping is truely a great way to help myself. Thank You So Very Much!!!
Thank you. It is of such value. Thank you. thank you.
Practical, down-to-earth discussion. I learned a lot. Thanks!
Carol Look is always right on. I am always struck by her insight and compassion. I found Tapping after I lost my husband. I know it has been a tremendous help to me in the greiving process. Thank you again for this session.
Thank you Jessica and Carol,
I lost my husband seven years ago… this piece you shared was wonderful.
I felt a deep shift in each of the aspects you addressed and those magical
tears flowed with a sweetness I’m not sure I had felt before… it’s been a
long and difficult journey and this work you share is such a blessing of
healing and revealing …
thank you, thank you, joy
Wow, as I listened to Carol I realized I have been in a state of increasing grieving since 2006. And as more and more losses came such as; house I loved which I had to sell because I become allergic to, loss of a very deep friendship, my father dying, my cat being given away due to allergies, my son moving out and even more, I was just in a state of shock. I had no idea until I listened to this interview that I was in a state of grieving and had not processed the losses. I felt like I had to keep being the tough little soldier. What great timing for me to listen to this, thank you, thank you!
Firstly and simply thank you … In Sept 2000 I lost my Dad to cancer and then this year in April I lost my mother after a stroke after already losing her 3 years back to Alzheimer’s.
Really I have two reasons to say thank you, as just prior to my mothers passing I received an email invite to your World Tapping Summit which I decided to attend and purchase the recordings. This in it self opened a whole new world for me and gave me some tools to use during the loss of my mother and since her loss. The events around my mothers loss were hectic and draining and I know I coped better because of tapping, confirmed by my 6yr old telling me on our flight back to Australia from New Zealand that it was one of her best holidays :-). One thing I have learned about myself though this journey is after both my parents passing I create and attract chaos in my life :-). With my Dad it was a very destructive chaos, with my mum it has been creating the chaos of putting my life right and changing what I attract in this life. It has been a little crazy at times as many tears flow but I have never walked away with the same heavy load after tapping. Between 2 kids an incredibly busy job and tapping I have addressed many many things but my grief directly as I really didn’t know how without being a mess. This interview with Carol has come at perfect timing for me and as I tapped through opened my eyes to things I need to release and that I can accept myself where I am today .. thank you ..thank you .. thank you … for pointing me in the right direction to face and work through both my losses xxPaula
Thank you Carol and Jessica! As I write my own book about loss…I was totally blessed by your interview today! I work as a professional clown doing what I call being a “joy spreader”…in spite of years of many losses from deaths to divorces…career losses..etc. etc. …my mission is to be an encourager. Losing my husband and clown partner 34 hours after we renewed our wedding vows on our 15th anniversary …on his deathbed…has resulted in finding myself broken hearted and grief stricken beyond any previous loss. I attempted to move back to the U.S. from more than 3 decades in Canada since my husband’s family decided to “drop” me after he passed. That added more grief and loss. Even though I am in lovely new surroundings..near extended (but busy) family…I still feel overwhelmingly alone and isolated. When the announcement of your session came on e-mail today I knew it was a “gift” delivered on the right day. Physical ailments have cropped up, guilt, questioning in spite of knowing there are no answers, all of your descriptions are so true! I went back to clowning 5 weeks after he died…but…I will never be the same again. Starting my 4th year is different…I cry less…but I still need to cry…and I have lost many friends who admit they cannot “watch” me go thru this long process. I am reconsidering my move since I am even more isolated and lonely in my new location. Many things to consider…and I will keep on tapping and writing my “therapeutic” poetry and stories and believing I can continue to move forward even when I feel stuck. Bless you and Thank you for your candid and truthful sharing.
Thank you! I will be forwarding this link to several of my family members who are grieving the death of my 17-year-old nephew in a tragic car accident on the day he was to graduate from high school. It will hopefully help ease the depth of the pain to everyone (including me) that is dealing with the loss and many other layers of tragedy in the story.
very valuable
I found this interview and the tapping very helpful. I separated from my husband 4 years ago. But I still miss him and all the family things we no longer do together. I miss being a wife and having the family home that our children would have gathered in with their friends. I am saddened by the fact that we wont see our granchildren together.
I am trying to rebuild my life in a different part of the country. And at times it has been difficult. Living alone is sometimes hard too. But we are stronger than we think. And with a little support from those around us, (namely you lot with your tap alongs) it has been made easier. And manageable.. Thank you .. All of you.
Another excellent piece of work by all involved. thank you so much for sharing : )
Its not working would love to hear it thanks Anallia
Dear Carol, Jessica, Nick and everyone else at The Tapping Solution,
Thank you so much for sharing this interview. Grief is a natural part of the cycle of life and having valuable tools, like those taught in this interview, are essential.
God bless you all.
Amanda
Thanks for this with all my heart. There is so much grief and we don’t even realize – just trying to keep standing up. We really need this. I see more and more people are going through so much change, grief, death in one sense or another. Especially radical changes. This is good for what is going on all around. We never know when we look at someone – just what they are under right now. Carol Look was so compassionate. We somehow need to care for ourselves …. and nurture just like we would our children.
AS ALWAYS I LOVE TO LISTEN TO CAROL. SHE ALWAYS KNOWS THE RIGHT THING TO SAY. CAROL SEEMS TO BE SPEAKING RIGHT TO ME. CAROL IS A BLESSING TO ALL US TAPPERS. I WOULD LOVE TO GET AN MP3 OF THIS INTERVIEW. I KNOW THIS WILL COME UP MANY TIMES IN MY LIFE, AND ALL OF US. JUST A THOUGHT….
THANK YOU FOR THIS OPORTUNITY TO LISTEN…BLESSINGS AND LOVE…..GAY