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Surrogate Tapping with Jessica Ortner

Written by: Nick Ortner

Oh… the many times, in my personal journey of growth and development that I thought…

“If (fill in name of your friend/family member/colleague) would just do (fill in name of the modality/supplement/seminar/book), then their life would be so much better!”

Have you had similar thoughts? Of course you have, because you care about those you love. You are on the cutting edge of exploring information that changes lives, and you just want more people to know this life-changing information, to make better choices, to find more happiness, joy, health, and abundance.

But I learned a lesson many years back that’s encapsulated in an old saying…

“You can lead a horse to water… but you can’t make it drink.”

It’s been my personal experience that the best way I can help others is to:

A. Do my own work first – BE the change!

B. Share with passion and enthusiasm, but WITHOUT attachment to the outcome – i.e. whether the horse drinks or not!

And there’s actually a Tapping process that I’ve used to support that path, called “Surrogate Tapping”.

Now, I often think Surrogate Tapping is slightly misunderstood, in that people think, “Oh, I can just tap for someone else and FIX them,” – i.e. “I can make that horse drink!”

Whereas, I believe the real power in Surrogate Tapping is to first help us clear our own emotional attachments, stress, anxiety and overwhelm about the situation, person, or challenge. What I’ve found to be really exciting about doing this is that when we do our own work first, THEN THE MAGIC HAPPENS.

I can’t fully explain it, but I’ve seen it again and again in my own life and in those who have done this process.

So if there’s a situation you’re struggling with, if there’s a person who you love that you are stressed out and anxious about, if there’s someone you want to help…

Then take a few minutes to try this free Tapping Meditation.

Watch this short video with my sister Jessica explaining the process, and then use the 16-minute meditation below:

Introduction to Surrogate Tapping Video

Press Play Below to Listen to the Surrogate Tapping Audio


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How did this process affect you? What insights or breakthroughs did you have? Let us know! Post your comments below.



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  1. Anita Aeschbacher says:

    Hi Jessica, this meditation was beautiful, thank’s a million!
    Even though, I still am a beginner only, I do love EFT and the work of you and Nick and your team! – Congratulations!
    I also want to start tapping with people around me, although, I first want to become a bit more secure myself, with EFT.

    Love and best wishes; Anita Aeschbacher – Switzerland (CH)

  2. Alison MacLeod says:

    Hi Jessica,

    I so appreciated your honest and wise introduction to the Surrogate Tapping- raising the two issues of self-tapping and the loving honoring of the other person’s process was a great blessing.
    I look forward to listening to the meditation. And will continue to savor the heart full wisdom in your opening words.

    Thank you!

    Alison

  3. Lisa says:

    Cool tapping audio! I actually did something like this last week for someone who was causing me a lot of sadness and grief in their inability to see how wonderful they were inside and how, well, spiteful they were being to me. I knew I had to get out of the situation…and this is how I did it. But it’s great having this script that allows me to just tap and I like the h’o pono pono in there (always good!) and prayer for love, peace and light at the end.
    I find the music a bit too loud and nervous in relation to Jessica’s voice…but I’m a musician. It probably doesn’t bother other people. The rushing water is good, but again, too loud for my taste.
    Thanks for this!

  4. Annette says:

    dear jessica , Iloved the meditation!! I feel very relaxed and peacefull! I love you tapping session in general very much! Thank you!

  5. Mary RZ says:

    Thank you Jessica. This really helped calm me down regarding a situation between my adult son and my husband. I feel more relaxed and hopeful that all will work out for the best.

  6. Novuyo says:

    Thank you Jessica,
    This is what I needed this morning, my youngest son is turning 18 in a few days and I’ve been worried as to how he will do in the world, he’s brilliant and yet doesn’t appear to have the skills to take care of himself. He lives with his father and has been told he will have to leave when he turns 18.

    This meditation has helped with the helplessness and guilt I have felt being a parent to him and my other children. I will continue to use this…

    Bless you and Nick for all you do
    Novuyo

  7. Mary says:

    Thank you this was wonderful. I can now see how you and Nick have such radiant smiles, and true joy behind them. Affirmations and meditation alone had not worked for me, I am so glad to have found The Tapping Solution. My life will never be the same!

  8. Lena says:

    Thank you just what I needed! Fortet at Times’ how great tappning is. You Jessica showed up like an angel. So powerful when we hold our Owner energy and stay within! This distorsion Of Good Will backfires on us. Love The Horse story. Great metaphore.
    Light Loving energies
    You got The Ho opponoppono into it great marriage! Transformation

  9. Asoki says:

    Thank you to the Ortners. What a blessing you are to me and many. I will use this to remind myself often that if I have faith, love will do the rest Many blessings to you.

  10. Doris says:

    Oh my good that was amazing Jessica!!
    Thank you sooo much, I feeld so much
    pressur falling down from my shoulders
    and love,light and peace was around me
    and the person I focused one!!
    Thanks agayn and agayn,
    Doris

  11. lynne m says:

    Thank you xx

  12. Shelley Skinner says:

    Bless you, this is just what I needed to help with my mother’s care.

  13. Rama Naidu says:

    Wow- just what I needed ……..bless the tapping team

  14. LA says:

    Thank you – this was very useful and I appreciate your generosity in sharing the audio and transcript. It’s a very powerful script I will use over and over 🙂

  15. KK says:

    I was doing well until you got toward the end, and I just can’t say that last part in this situation. The situation I tapped on has to do with the significant debt my ex-husband owes me. I’ve been to court and have an order of contempt, but the judge issues no punishment even after finding willful and deliberate contempt and an ability to pay. He is hiding assets, traveling all over, eating at expensive restaurants for at least 2 meals every day. I am living in poverty. I was doing well tapping on it and releasing him until you got to the part that says “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” I cannot say it. I was able to choke out the first three of those sentences, but I absolutely cannot say “I love you.” I don’t. I substituted “God loves you.” I need the money he owes, and it wasn’t like the court just ordered him to pay the amount, he agreed to the amount long before the trial date. I’ve forgiven him for his marital misconduct. I just want and need the money he owes and it’s like he’s taking pleasure seeing me in such dire circumstances. I cannot say I love him. Will that defeat the entire tapping on the situation?

  16. kathy r says:

    Jessica, Thank you for an amazing inspiring meditation. I fee wonderful. Love to you Peace to you, Light to you!

  17. Jean says:

    Thank you so much, Jessica. Dealing with a difficult situation today, this meditation has been a huge help! Bless you and the work you are doing!

  18. Patricia says:

    Thank you, Jessica for this beautiful and calming tapping meditation. I have been tapping
    for a couple of years now and feel blessed to have this opportunity come to at this time. I had
    a special person in mind as I did this meditation with you. Also, thank you for including
    Ho ‘oponopono as part of this meditation. I use it as well.

  19. Lanene says:

    Whoa……..I feel all the Love, Light and Peace tingling all through my body now! Thank you Jessica, this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear, do & be aware of …very healing for me….Nameste, Lanene

  20. Eileen says:

    Some weeks ago, you had a meditation related to stress. I cannot tell you how powerful I have found that to be and now here is a second one that truly hits another home run. It sends a healing balm for a “Black Belt Codependent” (A. LaMott!)and your meditations remind me of another woman whose writings I so admire: Marianne Williamson!

    Thanks so much for all the work that you and your brother have done regarding tapping and I see a book of “Meditations” in your future. Be sure to let me know-Congratulations on the response to your new book. How wonderful it must be to have begun this journey so young in life-better late than never for those of us way past our youth! Blessings!

  21. usha says:

    it was a beautiful meditation,felt the peace and the love,thankyou so much,jessica,i love you

  22. Caroline Corser says:

    That was beautiful! Thank you

  23. Jane says:

    Thanks. i feel powerful and in control. Like i have been set free from the burden of sorting someone else in order to sort my life. I am in charge of my life. i am healed.

  24. Cyndi says:

    This is wonderful and now my new morning meditation. It’s perfect for my “worries” about children and grandchildren who live 1600 miles away. Also, it’s a gr8 reminder that the only thing that I CAN change is me.

    I’m new to tapping and am very grateful for the tapping summit and the ability to purchase the audio files. By listening to and tapping with each speaker, (even those I thought that I didn’t “need”), I have discovered amazing things from the past that I’d forgotten. I am now starting to heal. Thank you both for sharing your light.

  25. Madeleine says:

    Thank you. Found it very comforting.

  26. Marlene says:

    THANKYOU Jessica you are a blessing of light and love to the world-love you! The surrogate tapping and medidation really shifted my judgement towards someone in my family to peace and faith and also reminded me of my own inner strength and gratitude that all is for our greater good.

  27. Linda Shumate former massage tech USA says:

    Well done Jessica!! Your voice is sweet and clear, very easy to listen to.

  28. Therese Caveney says:

    A very powerful and moving experience of true Love – which, of course, IS what heals all!
    Thank you so much!
    Therese

  29. Ingela says:

    Thank you Jessica! My heart is singing! After the surrogat tapping i felt so calm and joy in my heart! My husband often says to me: ingela dont say that to me, then i feel so sad when he doesnt want help. Now i had the tool to give me and other peace love and kind ess! I must let go of control! Thank you so much!

  30. Diane says:

    This may have brought me back to tapping. I have bought all the books, tried it, practiced it, and it just did not work the way it was promoted. Additionally, I am quite bored with all the focus out there on abundance, ie, money. I like the focus on healing perceptions. This was very moving.

  31. Joyce says:

    Thank you so much. Although I have had great energy breakthroughs from tapping and able to resolve some stagnant situations, I realized that I have not given enough time to tapping. I felt so hopeful, inoformed, insightful,and brave even before the end of this session with Jessica.

  32. c fike says:

    Several situations each of my loved ones are experiencing popped to mind as I tapped. Being so aware of their needs it felt good to be “Doing Something” about sharing healing love and quiet energy with them. This meditation struck a perfect balance within me to be able to watch as they struggle on their training wheels, to ride through their lives on their own. I can feel confident that as they bring their hurts and lack of success to me, over and over, that I can love them best by saying “You can do it” or “You have got what it takes to get past it” or “You are loved” or “You are forgiven.” I am at peace that this is sufficient (if only in my thoughts) because whatever the “it” is I know that I myself get through life because I am loved, and I am forgiven and can share that love and peace confidently with others in my heart.
    I am grateful for this tapping meditation reminding me what the focus is.

  33. Claudia says:

    So much relief, at just the right time. Thank you for your wonderful gifts to humanity!

  34. Neerja says:

    I just cannot thank you enough! I’ve been meaning to send you guys an email expressing my gratitude after the wonderful tapping summit that brought a subtle and deep transformation in my life, but kept waiting for the right moment. That mail is still pending but the timing of this meditation is extraordinary! It’s exactly what I needed and I felt my body and mind move from a state of confusion and anger to peace and love. I’m going to do this everyday! Thank you sooooooo much. Words really are not enough to express the power of your gifts to us. You are both angels! Lots of love and light to the ever-expanding tapping family!

  35. Amanda says:

    Hello Jessica

    I love! that when we let go of control…relax…. and follow our higher inner guidance, we find ourselves just where we need to be at this particular moment. You, your essence, your words, your vibration…were in perfect congruency today with exactly what I needed!!! I let go…and there you were! Your meditation has had a profound effect and I have downloaded it to allow my vibration can harmonise with it.
    I send you gratitude, light and love….and lots of laughter and smiles and authentic hugs!!!!

    Amanda x x

  36. Lesley says:

    So relaxing and soothing
    Beautiful Jessica
    Thank you so much
    Lesley

  37. Poonam says:

    The tapping makes one very peaceful ……… as though all the worries, problems, fears, anxieties, sadness, …….. have been released ……….. It feels wonderful …… and invigorated …. to take on life ! The smile returns ….. the twinkle in the eyes returns ……. it helps one keep one’s faith in the processes of life and one feels as though completely supported by the Universe. THANK U !

  38. pegah says:

    I have a friend who is struggling with depression because her boy friend left him 6 months ago. I tried to help her to forget him and go through the case. She visits a therapist also every week but it seems she does not want to move on and accept the reality. Any time I talked to her, I got anxious and bad feelings because I saw she was repeating the same stories and words without accepting that the case is over and she should love herself and let go.

    Some days ago I told her “it is not possible for me to tolerate this more because I get negative energy from you and I want my happy friend who I met first time and since I love you I want to see you glad and full of energy”. I asked her to call me when she is OK and until that time it is not possible for me to be in touch with her. I know this may be so selfish but I think I am committed to myself to be with people who make me happy not with who get my energy and fill me with negativity.

  39. frank says:

    im very gratefull for this surrogate i cry like child so moving thank you nik and jessica.

  40. Lila says:

    Thhank you! this is so good for the soul.

  41. Monique says:

    Thank you Nick and Jessica. Jessica you have a wonderful way of expressing wisdom in a gentle way at just the right pace to feel the peace instantly.

    This was a beautiful meditation. Bless you.

    Monique

  42. elise says:

    Did not listen to this particular video, but just heard you on Hay House on various topics. My girl, you are born to do this. I am not a follower of EFT or a fan,
    but you cut so beautifully though every issue. No ONE can miss the teacher you are.
    look forward to hearing more of you in the world. Namaste.

  43. Sherlyne says:

    Thank you Nick, Jessica, during and after the meditation I feel great I rfeel the light, peace, love. I am willing to let go of the need to control and trust the universe. Everything that needs to be done will be done through me not by me

  44. Adela says:

    Wow, what a beautiful and powerfull meditation. Thank you Jessica. I really needed this for my mom who lives far away and is in need of a lot of moral support and help. I am glad I was able, in this way, to surrogate tap meditate for her. Also gives me more peace. I am hoping for a positive follow up from my mom soon!

  45. Sue Callihan says:

    Dear Jessica,
    I have been struggling for so long with a mentally ill daughter, who has recently come to stay with me after being in rehab for 6 months. Your tapping script for surrogates has helped me enormously. I can’t do it without sobbing, but I feel so peaceful following the tapping, and that peace stays with me throughout the day. I am more grateful than I an say. I have faith that my tapping will ultimately bring healing for both of us.

    With love and gratitude,
    Sue

  46. Aine says:

    Jessica
    Thanks but where is the videp????????????????

  47. barb says:

    I read some of the below comments before I started and they all say it – in different ways but the same energy and respect and response: thank you! I am lucky to have a sort of personal trainer who has your DVD, Book and went thru the Tapping World Summit: she is remarkable. But I still have to do my own internalizing and learning. Your videos bring the words alive. I’m glad I don’t live in the age without as much visualization..altho we all know there is way too much in some areas – NOT YOURS!

    I have ordered your book and am reading the free downloads. I hope to be able to help myself and another person in my life who experienced some very similar childhood limiting beliefs… we all know our parents lived what they learned to a large extent.. I don’t agree with those who say you can surmount anything but I know you can move ahead with help. So.. here I go… the ant vs the grasshopper.

  48. Tamara says:

    Thank you so much for this!! I appreciate you sharing how important it is to take care of our own feelings first. I think we tend to forget about that as our attention gets so focused on helping another. Love!

  49. CONNIE MILLER says:

    THIS IS THE 2ND TIME AROUND FOR THE TAPPING SULITION..I DID IT ABOUT 5 YEARS AGO..I GUESS SOMETHINGS HAPPEN WHEN IT IS SUPPOSE TO…THANK YOU FOR DOING WHAT YOU DO AND WHAT YOU TEACH..ALL I CAN SAY IS I FEEL GREAT CALM AND PEACEFUL…I AGREE WITH YOU THE WHOLE WORLD NEEDS TO TAP!

  50. Helen says:

    Thank you heaps. I so needed this tonight. It came (was sent) at a prefect time – a perfect gift. May God Bless you and your family.

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