EVERYBODY Is Doing This…

Written by: Nick Ortner

"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." - Aesop

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” – Aesop

EVERYBODY is doing this.

No, seriously, everyone.

This isn’t hype or an overstatement, it’s a simple fact of life.

And if you remember this ONE thing today, and the day after, and the day after that…

Your life, your experience of life, will TRANSFORM!

What’s everyone doing?

They’re doing the best they can with the resources they have.

Yup, even the people that drive you nuts. Even the people causing damage to the world. It’s an inarguable fact.

They’re doing what THEY think is right, based on their life experiences…

Based on their own pains, hurts, and traumas… their own limiting beliefs and limited world view.

That grumpy person on the plane, that rude person in line, they’re doing the best they can, truly.

Why is knowing this SO important?

Because when you recognize that everyone is just doing the best they can, it brings out the kindness in your heart.

The compassion.


And from THAT place, change happens.

Because instead of you responding to that grumpy person with more grump, and confirming THEIR belief that the world is a harsh, grumpy place, you respond with a smile. And you begin to crack open their heart. You begin to crack open their view of the world.

You begin to help them heal.

Someone today is likely to frustrate, disappoint, annoy, anger, yada yada… YOU.

They’re doing the best they can with the resources they have.


Until next time…

Keep Tapping!


Do you believe this is true? What’s been your experience when you open your heart and respond to grumpiness with kindness? 🙂

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  1. Kathy in Kailua Kona says:

    Mahalo nui loa, Nick, for sharing this. Kind of goes along with everyone being connected, and ONE.
    Let’s all remember to edify one another. Thank you very much again.

  2. Dolly says:

    Hi Nick
    Thank you for the wonderful reminder. In my Buisness I always advised my staff to greet the clients with a smile no matter how grumpy they are.
    I have been using your different EFTs since last 2 years and must say it has worked wonders.
    Keep up the good work
    God bless you and your family

    • Nick Ortner says:

      Thanks for sharing, Dolly! Kindness is a great practice to teach and to use, because you never know who needs it the most. 🙂

  3. Virginia Reeves says:

    Crack open their view of the world. That’s what understanding, compassion, and kindness do. I’ve always liked the thought of sharing a smile – especially for someone who may not feel they have one to give. It’s simple, no-cost, takes a second to do, and can make such a difference. A few nice words added in and you could make their day and yours a bit brighter.

  4. Sandy says:

    I couldn’t help but make the connection between what you said and what the following Bible verses say:
    Romans 12:20 But “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by doing this you will heap fiery coals on his head.” 21 Do not let yourself be conquered by the evil, but keep conquering the evil with the good. (The footnote to “heap fiery coals on his head” reads: “that is, to soften his heart and melt his hardness.”)

  5. fatima says:

    thank you it is so very true

  6. Mare says:

    Not out of any sense of feeling superior to anyone else, but at age 81 y/o I have experienced a whole lot of life and have looked at it using different perspectives.
    First off, while I may dislike certain dislikeable people, I don’t hate anyone! But there are certain individuals who, because of their character and personality, we can’t be naive and pretend they’re lovable.
    I think every adult…..assuming they have all their faculties…. should be held accountable for their behavior if it deviates from societal norms. By that I mean certain individuals deliberately ignore protocol or social graces which may adversely affect others, so that IMO cannot be excused. Everyone has free will and can see and hear how society as a whole behaves, so an example is set before them whether they want to admit to it or not. It doesn’t mean we should retaliate or call them out on it in public, but we should stay away from certain individuals because of their destructive or risky behavior.
    We don’t have to get caught up in other peoples’ lives to the point that we overlook their behavior! But we should disassociate ourselves from certain people who place our own peace and well being in jeopardy! I for one will not associate with certain individuals, but that doesn’t mean I hate them! I just prefer not to be in their company and will not make excuse for them because some of them don’t care how others suffer because of them! Yet I will never do them any harm!
    Having said all the above…..and it’s a bunch:)…..I still think keeping an open mind, an open heart and a loving spirit can heal a lot of wounds and cement a lot of broken relationships. But being realistic, it’s better not to associate with certain individuals.
    It starts with us first, but we can’t be naive and pretend that opposites don’t exist and resort to putting on a fake persona.
    I know this is a long comment, but hey… 81 y/o I’ve earned the right:-) Now see how that comes across, do you accept or reject that premise?
    Finally, always remember…..’actions speak louder than words!’ That includes showing by example!

  7. Kay Sinclair says:

    I’ve found that a smile is like a magic wand – people just cannot resist smiling back and suddenly they look so much happier. Years ago I did a Cayce project where, for 3 weeks, we were told to treat EVERYone we talked to with respect and warmth. It became an ingrained habit and has made such a difference, smoothing my path. I love what you have to say, thank you for all the wise words. Kay Sinclair, Cape Town, South Africa.

  8. Bob Battaglia says:

    Nick, Great lesson. I have been sharing this with others for some time and I usually get a lot of pushback. As I Grew Older I realized from my own struggles that I was doing the best I could. Of course the realization does not stay with me and I often revert to my default state of guilt and shame and if I remember, I tap on whatever it is that I am feeling and transform it immediately. Here is the important distinction that yes everyone is doing the best they can and it differs from doing the best that they are capable of given different circumstances. So I like to say everyone’s doing the best that they can In This Moment. Yes they could do better if they had more information more education different circumstances but in this moment they don’t. Also since this moment is all that really exists that means everyone is doing the best they can all the time.

  9. Frans says:

    Matt Kahn says the same thing. In case you do not know him, you ought to check him out.

    All the best,


  10. Bill O'Brien says:

    A beautiful conscious moment it is Nick. Thank you for sharing that as I am about to go back into an environment that is full of people doing the best they can with sometimes too little. You’ve just made it much easier for me.
    Best Regards,

  11. Debbie says:

    Hi! WHen I went to this link to view the article, I got a pop up about getting a free tapping solution CD download. I entered my email but no download opened up?? Can you help me?

  12. beccab says:

    What a beautiful, kind and compassionate message. Thank you Nick.

  13. Judy says:

    I appreciate your thoughts and guidance. I used to follow this approach to life. However, it’s part of what led to being taken advantage of and abused by someone. How does this apply when you’re trying to stay no contact from someone who is abusive and uses you to maintain numerous addictions? I truly look forward to hearing your thoughts on this. Thank you so much.

  14. Robin says:

    This occurred to me during a people watching session. People are struggling all around for so many reasons and usually with multiple angts at once. No one ever wakes up and says to themselves ‘My plan today is for everything to go wrong and be really frustrated and angry’.

    Thank you for the reminder Nick; so much appreciated!

  15. Wendy says:

    First of all, I believe this statement you have made with all of my being….yes,, it is indeed true. However, I don’t believe you always “crack open a heart,. as you put it, with a smile. While your compassionate energy made invisibly aid in some way, I’ve noted that the outer/first response you can get is MORE anger or grumpiness. It can really piss people off because they are angry, for example, and your smile is not how they want to be engaging. So intially, best to not expect a certain demeanor. Yes?

  16. eleanoremyron says:

    I loved this . Sometimes an interaction with a rude or angry person leaves me stewing for some time . What a refreshing reminder you can reframe these experiences and save yourself some grief .. I always read your posts because they contain so much useful information ,down to earth stuff you can apply in your life . Thanks for your insight.

  17. Shirley says:

    Good to remember that it’s just that simple. Everyone is doing the best they can in this moment. Be kind!!!!! Love one another more!!!! The life you may change may be your own.

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