Are you yearning to attract your soulmate? Struggling to maintain a loving relationship? Or perhaps you’re working on developing self-love? Whether you’re single or in a relationship, EFT Tapping for love can be a powerful tool for transforming your love life. This comprehensive guide will show you how to use Tapping to release blocks to love, attract your ideal partner, and nurture healthy relationships.
What is EFT Tapping for love?
Tapping for love involves using EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques) to address beliefs, emotions, and blocks related to love and relationships. The process combines elements of ancient Chinese acupressure with modern psychology, helping you release strong emotions and limiting beliefs around love while opening your heart to deeper connections.
When using EFT Tapping to attract love or improve relationships, you’ll gently tap on specific meridian points on your body while focusing on thoughts and feelings related to love, relationships, intimacy, and more. This powerful combination helps calm your nervous system, release emotional blocks, and create new neural pathways that support healthy relationships.
How can Tapping help your love life?
EFT Tapping for love can help you:
- Release fears and anxieties about relationships
- Clear past relationship trauma
- Release resentment, frustration, or anger surrounding conflicts in your relationships
- Boost self-love and self-confidence
- Let go of self-judgment and self-criticism, so you can embrace the universal truth that you are worthy of love
- Release limiting beliefs about love and relationships
- Open your heart to deeper connections
- Align your energy with what you want, so you can attract a compatible partner
- Improve communication in existing relationships
- Heal from heartbreak, grief, and relationship loss
Common blocks to love that Tapping can help release
Before diving into how to attract someone with EFT Tapping, it’s important to identify common blocks to love that might be standing in your way from the relationship you desire.
Here are a few common blocks to love that Tapping can help with:
- Fear of getting hurt
- Belief that you’re not worthy of love
- Trust issues
- Fear of vulnerability
- Negative self-image
- Self-sabotaging patterns
- Attachment issues from childhood
- And more
Once you’ve identified for yourself what you unique blocks to love are, you can use the Tapping process to acknowledge and then release those blocks, so that your energy, emotions, thoughts, and actions can all align to attract more love into your life.
Turning a block into a tapping round
| Common block | Setup statement | Reminder phrase |
|---|---|---|
| Fear of getting hurt | "Even though I'm afraid of getting hurt again, I choose to accept myself and stay open to love." | "This fear of getting hurt." |
| Belief that you're not worthy of love | "Even though part of me believes I'm not worthy of love, I deeply and completely accept myself." | "This old belief that I'm not worthy." |
| Trust issues | "Even though it's hard for me to trust, I'm willing to consider it's safe to open up a little." | "This wall I've built to protect myself." |
| Fear of vulnerability | "Even though being vulnerable feels unsafe, I choose to be gentle with myself as I learn to open up." | "This fear of being truly seen." |
| Negative self-image | "Even though I'm critical of how I look or who I am, I accept myself exactly as I am right now." | "This habit of judging myself so harshly." |
| Self-sabotaging patterns | "Even though part of me pulls away when things go well, I'm open to letting love stay." | "This pattern of pushing love away." |
| Attachment issues from childhood | "Even though I learned early on that love wasn't safe or steady, I choose to accept myself and update that belief now." | "This old pattern from a long time ago." |
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If you are new to Tapping and want an overview of the process, sequence, and Tapping points, check out this beginner’s guide to Tapping.
Ready to give it a try? Follow along with the short 60-second video below to get an idea of the process:
Tapping sequence for opening up to and attracting love
Want to experiment more with Tapping for love and learn how to do it on your own?
Here’s a complete Tapping for love sequence to help open your heart and attract a loving relationship that aligns with your highest good:
Side of the Hand:
Even though I’ve been struggling to find love,
I accept myself and honor how I feel
Even though part of me is afraid to open up to love,
I choose to be gentle with myself
Even though I'm tired of being alone,
And I just want to find a loving relationship,
I accept all my feelings,
and choose to remain open to new possibilities
Eyebrow: I want to find true love
Side of the Eye: But part of me is afraid of getting hurt
Under the Eye: What if the right person never comes along?
Under the Nose: Maybe I don’t deserve love…
Under the Mouth: Maybe I’m just meant to be alone.
Collarbone: All of this doubt about finding love
Under the Arm: All of these fears about relationships
Top of the Head: I acknowledge these blocks to love that I’m holding onto
Eyebrow: But what if I could shift the narrative?
Side of the Eye: What if I could let go of those blocks,
And trust that true love is still possible for me?
Under the Eye: No matter what has happened in the past,
I choose to remain open to love
Under the Nose: I choose to trust I am worthy of a healthy relationship
Under the Mouth: It is safe to open my heart to love.
Collarbone: The more I release stress,
The easier it is to attract the love I want
Under the Arm: I am ready to welcome love into my life
Top of the Head: I am worthy of love
Eyebrow: I attract healthy, loving relationships
Side of the Eye: I am magnetic for loving energy
Under the Eye: Love flows to me easily and naturally
Under the Nose: I trust in the timing of life
Under the Mouth: The right person is on their way to me
Collarbone: And in the meantime,
I choose to radiate love all around me
Under the Arm: I am ready and willing to give and receive love
Top of the Head: I relax into the energy of love
Note: Feel free to make the experience your own! Repeat certain parts until you feel a shift, modify the words to better match your specific situation and feelings about love and relationships, etc. Do whatever works for you.
Tips for using EFT Tapping for love to improve existing relationships
If you’re already in a relationship, Tapping can help strengthen your connection or help you repair when things have gotten off track.
Here are some helpful you can use Tapping to support healthier relationship patterns:
- Tap Before Difficult Conversations: Use Tapping to calm yourself before addressing relationship issues.
- Release the Emotional Charge of Triggers: When your partner triggers you, tap to release intense emotions before responding.
- Tap Together: Consider tapping with your partner, including in the middle of a fight, to decompress, de-escalate, and strengthen your bond.
- Focus on Gratitude: Tap while focusing on what you appreciate about your partner to strengthen positive feelings and goodwill toward them.
- Cultivate Feelings of Love Within Yourself: When you focus on cultivating love within (no matter what your partner is doing), you are better able to extend love to your partner, even when things aren’t going perfectly.
What our data shows
Inside The Tapping Solution App, the Single Support: Attracting Love session has been completed 48,958 times, with users rating the intensity of what they're feeling 6.7 before and 3.7 after, on average. The Instant Boost of Self-Love session has been completed 122,062 times, going from 6.1 to 3.4.
Across the full Relationships category (17 sessions), the pattern holds at scale: 534,745 completions, 7.4 down to 4.1, a 44% drop. The You Are Enough category (3 sessions, built around self-worth) shows a similar shift: 687,969 completions, 6.3 down to 3.2, a 49% drop.
In a peer-reviewed study of 270,461 App users published in JMIR mHealth and uHealth (Church & Stapleton, 2020), a single guided tapping session brought self-rated anxiety down from 6.7 to 3.8 and stress down from 6.9 to 3.8, on average, on a 10-point scale, the same nervous-system shift the numbers above are tracking.
This is self-report app data, not a clinical trial.
What people say
“I am practicing accepting myself, having self-love for myself which is hard to do, it feels alien, but I've been working on this for a while and this meditation has really helped, I really enjoyed it, thank you so much.”
“That was incredible. It brought up incredibly upsetting feelings and emotions around where the 'not enough' came from, to the point it made me cry; by the end I had a wonderful empowered feeling in my heart.”
Frequently Asked Questions
What is EFT Tapping for love?
Tapping for love involves using EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques) to address beliefs, emotions, and blocks related to love and relationships. The process combines elements of ancient Chinese acupressure with modern psychology, helping you release strong emotions and limiting beliefs around love while opening your heart to deeper connections.
How is tapping for love different from tapping for self-worth or confidence?
Self-worth and confidence work focuses on how you see yourself on your own. Tapping for love applies that same process to your connection with another person: the fears, old patterns, and beliefs that surface around romance, dating, and relationships specifically. Our guides on tapping for self-worth and tapping for confidence cover the foundation this page builds on.
Can tapping help me attract a specific person?
Tapping works on you, not on someone else's feelings or choices. What it can do is help you release the fear, self-doubt, or old patterns that get in the way of showing up open and ready for a healthy relationship, whoever that turns out to be with.
What if my partner doesn't want to tap with me?
You can tap on your own side of a relationship dynamic without your partner tapping at all. Work through your own triggers and reactions, and the conversation often shifts too, even when you're the only one tapping.
How often should I tap for love and relationships?
There's no fixed schedule. Many people tap for a few minutes before a hard conversation, after an argument, or whenever an old fear about being loved or left resurfaces, rather than saving it for a set time of day.
Can tapping help after a breakup or divorce?
Yes. Many people use tapping to work through the anger, grief, and struggle to move on that follow a breakup. The Tapping Solution App has sessions built specifically for this, including Breakup Support: Releasing Anger and Finding Peace After a Divorce.
What if my struggle with love is tied to something deeper, like depression or past trauma?
Tapping can support the stress and emotion connected to relationship pain, but it isn't a treatment for depression, anxiety disorders, or trauma. If you're working with a therapist or other clinician, use tapping alongside that care, not in place of it.
Is there a free session I can try?
Yes. Single Support: Attracting Love is free to try in The Tapping Solution App: start it here.
Go deeper
- Tapping for self-worth, for the belief that you're valuable even before anyone loves you back.
- Tapping for confidence, for the self-doubt that can keep you from putting yourself out there.
- Tapping for forgiveness, for releasing resentment toward a partner, an ex, or yourself.
- Try Single Support: Attracting Love free in The Tapping Solution App.
Ready to transform your love life with Tapping?
The journey to finding and maintaining love starts with inner work. Whether you’re looking to attract your soulmate or strengthen an existing relationship, EFT Tapping provides a powerful tool for transformation.
Download The Tapping Solution App today to access guided Tapping meditations specifically designed for love and relationships, including:
- Single Support: Attracting Love
- Intimate Relationship Support: Release Annoyance
- Dating Support: Getting Back Out There
- Breakup Support: Opening a Closed Heart
- I Am Worthy of Love Quick Tap
- Instant Boost of Self-Love
- I Am Love
- Instantly reduce anxiety and stress
- Fall asleep faster and sleep better
- Boost productivity, stay motivated
- Relieve chronic or occasional pain
- Release anger, find peace
If you are interested in learning more about this Tapping for love, you can also check out our 4-part teleclass on Finding the Love You Want.
Until next time... Keep Tapping!
Nick Ortner
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“Tapping REALLY WORKS. I have turned my life around with Tapping on ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, LACK OF MOTIVATION, ATTRACTING LOVE”
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