What is it that makes some people successful in life – able to reach whatever goal they like – while others get stuck in the same place for years, if not decades?
Is it their education? Where they were born? Who their family is? Is it genetics?
The reality is… it’s none of the above!
In my working with thousands of people over the years to help them change their lives – to help them create both financial success and personal fulfillment – I’ve found 7 things in particular that successful people do differently.
I’ve outlined them below. How many of these 7 things are you doing?
Let’s start with how they think:
Talk to anybody who built success in their life and they’ll tell you that they changed their thinking in order to get different results. Every one of us is a product of our thinking. Our finances, relationships, health, happiness, and every other area are dictated by our thinking. If you want a different result in life, you need to change your thinking first.
How they feel:
Very often people get hung up on “thinking like successful people” and forget a key element: what they’re feeling. Listening to your emotions is critical to understanding what is holding you back, both consciously and unconsciously.
Successful people know that our emotions drive everything. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, afraid, stressed, sad, depressed, or any other negative emotion, your brain is less resourceful and less able to help you make good decisions or take important actions. If you want to have more energy, make better decisions, be more creative, and have more success in life…
Develop the habit of paying attention to your emotions. Then do what’s needed to be in the right emotional state (like using Tapping, which we’ll get to later!) 🙂
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Successful people believe they deserve success; unsuccessful people do not.
The area where this is most evident is with money. Financially successful people generally feel they deserve to be successful, and so they’ve created it in their lives.
So what qualifies somebody as “deserving success” or not? Only one thing… the rules they create for it in their own brain.
Oftentimes, people think (consciously or unconsciously) they don’t deserve success because of false beliefs like, “I’m not a good enough person,” or “I don’t work hard enough,” or “I’m not smart enough,” or any other from a laundry list of negative limiting beliefs.
In order to find out what you believe about success just SAY and COMPLETE these two phrases out loud:
When you say these two phrases out loud, your unconscious brain will give you the reasons that have been programmed as to why you believe one way or the other. If you’re not getting the answer you’d like (or you’re surprised by what’s coming up), don’t worry…
I’ll show you how to change your belief systems around success shortly, all using EFT Tapping!
Remember, at the end of the day every person – and I mean EVERY person – deserves success. Every person is capable of growth, of love, of giving beyond themselves… and being rewarded for it! Anyone can succeed financially, in relationships, with their health, in any area of their life.
I’ll show you how to get there. You can start by downloading my free eBook, 103 Disempowering Beliefs About Money and Success, and How to Eliminate them in Minutes.
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Most of the habits, patterns, and beliefs that we have today were developed between the ages of 0 and 6 years old. They weren’t developed consciously, they were essentially downloaded from our parents, and from other people & events happening around us at the time.
We didn’t have a choice about what beliefs were given to us, or events were happening around us. Unfortunately, many of those beliefs, patterns, and experiences were negative and have limited us in our adult life.
Some have had tougher upbringings than others, with more negative experiences and more negative beliefs about themselves and the world, but regardless of the experiences…
There is good news!
Today, as adults, we have a choice over what beliefs, patterns, and habits we want to keep or discard… And we have a choice over the meanings we give our past experiences.
Successful people are aware of how limiting old beliefs, habits, patterns, and experiences can be… and they do whatever it takes to change them!
That doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Overcoming childhood abuse issues, or deep-rooted self-confidence issues, or overwhelmingly negative thought patterns can be a challenge. But successful people are committed to their own growth, no matter what.
They know that the past does not equal the future. They understand that past challenges can either be dwelled upon for years, or accepted as necessary life lessons on their path.
Overcoming limiting beliefs and difficult events from your past is something that EFT Tapping is especially powerful at helping with, more so than any other technique I’ve ever seen.
I’ve had the privilege of using Tapping to help people with some enormous challenges through our Tapping Solution Foundation: Veterans with PTSD, children genocide survivors in Rwanda, first responders of the Sandy Hook school shooting (my home town), and much more.
A common misconception is that successful people don’t have doubts, that they don’t have a critical voice, that they’re not afraid when they face tough challenges. Reality couldn’t be further from the truth.
Successful people face all of these challenges regularly, and probably more often than unsuccessful people, because of how much they challenge themselves.
They just use tremendous courage to never let it stop them.
The good thing is that courage is a muscle that can be flexed and developed over time. Every successful person had to overcome their critical voice over little things before they moved onto bigger and bigger things.
Building this muscle starts with having the courage to address your critical voice, on anything big or little. Listen to what it has to say… And then overcome it!
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Successful people see failure as part of the learning process. And no matter how much they fail, they’re never willing to quit.
They also never see failure as defining who they are. When unsuccessful people fail, they see themselves as a failure.
Learn to never see yourself as a failure and to see failure itself as a learning process. Then, you’ll never do the one thing you’re avoiding… failing.
“How’s that?” you’re thinking.
Because failing implies that the journey is over. If you see individual failures as a part of a long journey of success, then you, in fact, never actually fail. 🙂
Here’s a list of some of the most successful people ever throughout modern history who never let individual failures stop them:
Henry Ford – Failed in his early business projects and was left broke 5 times before he founded Ford Motor Company.
R. H. Macy – Founder of the Macy’s department store, R.H. Macy started 7 failed businesses before finally hitting it big with his store in New York City.
Walt Disney – Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, he started a number of businesses that didn’t last long and ended with bankruptcy and failure.
Albert Einstein – Einstein didn’t speak until he was four and didn’t read until he was seven, which made his teachers and parents think he was mentally handicapped, slow, and anti-social.
Jerry Seinfeld – The first time he walked on stage he froze and was jeered and booed off the stage. Do you think he quit after that? Nope. The very next night he came back and completed his set to laughter and applause.
I could go on and on with people like this but I think you get it.
Failure never exists IF you see it as part of a long journey of success.
In fact, if you want to hear about how I personally “failed” my way to success, I encourage you to watch this free webinar that I put together just for you!
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Pretty much every person I talk to or come across on a daily basis feels that they have too much going on, that they’re too busy. It seems to just be a part of this modern lifestyle.
When it comes to our time, and what we do with it each day, successful people have one tremendously important trait that makes them successful…
They do the important things FIRST, not the easy things.
If you wait until you have more time to do the important things, you run out of time. It’s why people don’t exercise, or write that book, or start that business.
Successful people prioritize their lives differently. They know that the important stuff is what will get them to where they want to be. They do the big tasks on projects at the beginning of the day, and they leave the emails to later in the day.
If you want to be more successful, learn how to do the tasks that matter first.
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Successful people know that there is tremendous power in clarity.
They get clear on what they want to achieve and who they want to be in life, and they take consistent daily action to get there.
They never let their current limitations stop them from seeing a better future.
Unsuccessful people ruminate on their current situation and challenges. They never allow themselves to have seemingly unrealistic futures.
Successful people allow themselves to dream and then work to get there, even if there isn’t a clear path to achieving what they want.
They also see themselves not just as they are now, but better than they are now! They hold a vision for themselves of how they can grow into being more successful, happier, more giving people.
If you struggle to dream big or find yourself finding reasons for why your dreams can’t come true, don’t worry. Together, we’ll work to eliminate the mental blocks that are keeping you from building an empowering future.
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One of the best ways to begin is reading or listening to the stories of others, to understand how they adopted the 7 steps described above into their own lives. That’s why I want to present to you TWO great resources that I’ve put together to start you on your journey. I hope you enjoy them!
FREE eBook – 103 Disempowering Beliefs About Money and Success and How to Eliminate them in Minutes
Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
Nick
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Dear Nick,
I am a happy person, have neither money nor debts but I do have a loving family and enjoy what I do every day.
Not sure about success.
According to ‘the 7 things successful people do differently,’ – I do the same first 6 things, I even know who I want to be – exactly who I am now, but I still cannot decide what I want in terms of success because I am not sure that I can handle things that come with success, the major one is demand on my time.
Thank you for everything you are doing.
It helps putting events and facts in perspective.
Sincerely, Nina
Hi Nina. We are so glad you found this blog post so helpful. Here is an article you might enjoy as well, given what you said your blocks may be: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/eft-articles/clear-your-fear-of-success/. We wish you all the best! 🙂
everything its so true i think, i used to believe that successful people were perfect and never mistake but i also have seen examples of people who were everything but perfect but they never give up and always work for become a better person a more loving person and to make their dreams came true and they did it …i want to be a person like that …but i really need to continue working on that thank you for your words you help so much with them.
Great stuff Nick, these seven steps are a great starting point on the road to success. keep up the good work you are doing. Love and Gratitude from Daniel.
My greatest strength is seeing the bigger picture and being compassionate to others.
My biggest challenge is to transform my learning experiences to a successful work/personal fulfillment. I find myself being judged and labelled by others so moving forward becomes a hindrance.
The most important bonus for me is to realize that I am the master of my mind and feelings. And that I live now. Tapping is the tool to get rid of chains to the past, that block me from living the life that I want to live.
All the best, Claudia
How can I improve my income when I’m retired and only have SSI which is a lot lower than when work as an R.M Have no other income.
Hi Pamela. Although we don’t have a specific recommendation about how to earn more income, we often find that tapping on these questions, fears and doubts can help open you up to a new perspective and new opportunities you may not have thought of before. We wish you all the best! 🙂
Great article… everything you are doing is so helpful! Thank you so much for being so generous with your time and effort. Your book and other resources here on the website are changing my life, which I thought was pretty much over… like I had missed the boat. Keep up the good work… you are literally saving lives!
Tapping has been wonderful in my life. Thanks Nick and Yessica, whith gratitud and love.
Good Nick,
I am very much thankful to you for the way you are striving to help your fellow beings. The sincerity you put in the efforts gives me the strength and courage to succeed !!!
Great thoughts!!
Thank you!
My greatest strengt is my courage muscle is very strong 🙂
My biggest challenge is to just do it although I become bankrobbed 3,5 years ago.
Time for a new start.
Thank you Nick for the great information you share. It has made me to have courage in the future and feel stronger and healthier than ever before.
Blessings and Love
Sonja
“Here’s a list of some of the most successful people ever throughout modern history who never let individual failures stop them:
Albert Einstein – Einstein didn’t speak until he was four and didn’t read until he was seven, which made his teachers and parents think he was mentally handicapped, slow, and anti-social.
This example doesn’t make sense in this context. We know that the individuals In the other examples were taking steps forward, moving towards something, attempting to accomplish something, then for whatever reason(s), they didn’t accomplish what they had set out to do. In the Einstein example, says he simply did not speak or read before reaching the ages of 4 and 7, respectively. But was he actually “attempting” to do these things at all? Was he even making an effort? Was he even interested in attempting to speak and read, or did he simply prefer to observe and take it all in, absorb what he was witnessing. Listening and observing, quiet contemplation, pondering – these are the things that highly intelligent, creative, insightful, ingenious people do the most. These are the things we do more than anything else. We absorb the world around us and stay interested and look to understand. Then we go deeper and look to understand even more. We like to gain clarity about the world. I suspect that this is what Einstein was doing. I don’t believe that he was at all attempting to speak or read. He simply preferred to observe and be absorbed for the time being. I know this because this was me. It still is today.
Lately I’ve really been asking the Universe for help a lot as I know that the limiting beliefs I have about myself are stifling my potential to be quite successful. My past has been very difficult and based on those experiences, I have limited myself in the present. Reading these 7 steps has helped me put things into perspective and that there IS hope. I can change how I believe right now and that failure is not a bad thing when I think about it as part of the longer journey. I am paying more attention to the smaller subtle signs that come along like these 7 steps. I asked for help and this e-mail popped up today. I’m ready to let go. I want to be debt free, financially sound, emotionally sound and have a great relationship in my future. I know that my purpose is to help people on a grand scale. I just need to know where that road starts of the steps I need to take towards that goal.
I tried to download the 103 Disempowering Belief ego ebook but my iPad refuse to process the request indicating that it’s a spam source. Just letting you know. Anyway I’m trying tapping but I’m not so sure if I’m doing it right.
Hi Joan. Please email customer service at contact@thetappingsolution.com so they can assist you with the download. If you haven’t yet watched the how to tap video, you can see it here: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/#how-to-do-eft-tapping. Trust your intuition and know that you really can’t get tapping wrong. Just give yourself time to get comfortable with it. You can do this! 🙂
I need direction in my life and don’t know how or where to begin. My strengths are photography and working alone. Challenges are start looking for a job and move in the direction of being in my own business one day.
After reading the seven things successful people do differently, I began to realize that my thoughts and feelings play a huge role in how I live and progress
Changing my attitude and thought processes lifts my mood, helps with clear thinking and allows me to make sound decisions.
After reading the seven things successful people do differently, I have a new understanding what I have to do to be happy and successful
I signed up for the webinar – unfortunatley it is on at 2am my time so I won’t be attending.
Hopefully you will have a recorded version available
Many thanks
Hi Ondina. We are sorry you couldn’t attend your scheduled webinar. You should have received a replay link from us. If you didn’t, please email contact@thetappingsolution.com so our customer service team can assist you. Have a great day! 🙂
#5 resonated with me the most. I have been called relentless, tenacious, etc. Sometimes I wonder if I should let things go, and usually, my intuitions tell me when I need to loosen my grip, but overall, my dreams remain my dreams. And even during a “resting phase,” I’m working toward a solution subconsciously. For example, I started singing when I was 5, sang in church as a kid, sang in choir in high school, etc. Once I got to college, I met a lot of band people, but just couldn’t seem to make it happen. I gave up…on the outside. But I think I always knew God wouldn’t give me a gift if He didn’t want me to use it. So, there I was one day at work, eating lunch, and I got an “angel nudge” to check out a band website. I auditioned, but didn’t get the job. A couple of weeks later, same nudge. I wasn’t in the mood to “fail” again, but I listened and auditioned. I got the job at 46 years old, and we’re still going strong — Gabriel gave me the name of the band, as well — Gabriel’s Crossing.
#7 is really important, which I’ve found out in the last year or so. I journal a “small-step” plan about once weekly to ensure I do SOMETHING to help me reach my goals. It just makes me more accountable…
Overall, This is a great article! Thank you so much, and I’ll be sharing it on FB! You are a huge inspiration, and tapping is truly a wonderful, non-medicinal solution that I have used successfully.
When I read these 7 things I felt like I can make a big difference in my life. I work too hard and sometimes I feel like I don’t have more choices. I’m a smart person. I am an engineer who changed the career to be a math teacher. I love math and love to teach but I don’t know why the educational system affect me so much. I feel I don’t have time for me and I want to change the life of others. I’m a giving person and I believe in family. I want to work only the hours I get pay and dedicate more time to me and my family. I want to work for living no live to work. My goal is to be independent and I started offering my service as a tutor and home school teacher and I love that. I need to work in make this project successful that can support me. I love your comments and Tapping techniques. Thanks so much for sharing this file.
Thank you Nick, Amazing information and can relate to so much. I do very much like your catch phrase ‘the past does not define the future.’
Thanks for the guidance and putting me on the right path.now I will prirotize the tasks I have been ignoring.
This is a beautiful article!!! Thank you for publishing it!!!
It is the right a steps to success
This is all well and good when the brain is healthy and works effectively. What can be done to circumvent neurobiological disorders with clinical diagnoses? E.G. MDD depression; personality pathologies; epilepsy; learning disabilities; etc.
We often recommend trying tapping on everything but we also recommend that people work with their medical professionals as they explore tapping and what it can do for them. Sometimes working one-on-one with a practitioner, preferably one who specializes in what you are dealing with, can help as well. Here is a link for practitioner listings from our site: https://thetappingsolution.com/eft-practitioners/. 🙂
Made me realize that we are all the same but different life is all about choices.
Luck.
Good fortune.
My biggest challenges to being successful are – being lazy And being afraid
Really instructive and can go a long way in helping if properly put in use.
Thank you for sharing.
I often have the feeling I could have realised more in my life, I could have used my talents in a greater way, but this feeling is very vague, so I am not at all clear on what I want andI who I want to be. I don’t know what my dream is, so I can’t take steps to realise it.
Fantastic information Nick! It is very useful and inspiring.
These steps brought up for me, many issues to which I could relate. I have been a rerired administrative professional for more than two years, and I believe that I could be successful at editing /proofreading, to earn much needed income. But I have been depressed and realise now that my poor emotional state has been holding me back. However, I have been praying and working on myself, which is why I’m reading your “7 things …..”, among other exercises . Thanks for caring.
It certainly has open my eyes, as most of the things are applicable to my current situation.
This is an informative article. I feel I’m doing my best to do all 7 of the things listed. I think one of the greatest challenges I face has nothing to do with my own beliefs about myself; rather, it is based on what other people believe about me and how they behave toward me as a result. Even though I am totally blind and also hard of hearing, I know in myself that I have many capabilities and can do many of the things a sighted person with full hearing could do. The snag is that there are many who do not believe this because of the heavy bias against people with disabilities. As a result, members of the disabled community are rarely given a chance to do things they themselves know they can do even if they need a little assistance. If this bias could somehow be dispeled, through public education or some other means, those of us who are disabled could do loads more to contribute to our communities as a whole.
Talking to folks about tapping / EFT, I’m amazed at the wide spectrum of applications, from anxiety to recovery from domestic abuse. It’s the single best self-help tool in many counselors’ tool kits.
Thank you so much. Nick was my first intro to tapping and it has really changed my life. I appreciate that you identify difficult life circumstances that have happened and honor their impact, while being clear that they not define the person. I think this can be tricky sometimes becomes we don’t want to dismiss the profound impact or the fact that those experiences can be and often are internalized by someone. I know your work seeks to externalize and eliminate these things and that is SO important for lasting growth — as is your commitment to the truth that it’s never too late! Thank you!
Thank you Nick …. beautifully written , clear , concise and inspiring
These 7 principles are so vital to creating a successful life. I have been studying personal development since 1988, it is my dream that these become the ciriculum in our school system. Thank you for explaining these the way you did.
Create a great day
I give up before receiving and I don’t do the most important thing(s) first, alltough nowing it…
Thanks.No coment for now.
Thank you for reminding me to stay positive
Thank you for generous & helpful content ..
love tapping & all u do .. your sincerity & authenticity is so evident ??
very useful programme
Positive thinking & +ve attitude bring success & keeps you away from stress. It gives you strength, courage & resilience to lead life & takes one towards success.
Realty hit the message home the power of positive thinking
Thank you for your important information.
Thank you for this very insightful and free articles. I truly appreciate it and need this to keep me positive.
Perspective is everything… I just realized that my failures are really learning experiences whether they are associated or not. That’s life!
Craig
I would like to schedule a 20 min. free consultation with Nick Orther
my friend Paul Costello said he is great.. I like what I see so far.
I am a student at IQUIM an took a class on eft many years ago but have forgotten some.
Hi Sally. Thank you for your interest in working with Nick. Unfortunately, he isn’t taking on any new clients at this time. Here is a link to practitioner listings from our site if you would like to take a look and see if anyone there resonates with you: https://thetappingsolution.com/eft-practitioners/. Many practitioners do phone and Skype sessions so you don’t have to find someone near you. We wish you all the best!
Looking forward to the session