What is it that makes some people successful in life – able to reach whatever goal they like – while others get stuck in the same place for years, if not decades?
Is it their education? Where they were born? Who their family is? Is it genetics?
The reality is… it’s none of the above!
In my working with thousands of people over the years to help them change their lives – to help them create both financial success and personal fulfillment – I’ve found 7 things in particular that successful people do differently.
I’ve outlined them below. How many of these 7 things are you doing?
Let’s start with how they think:
Talk to anybody who built success in their life and they’ll tell you that they changed their thinking in order to get different results. Every one of us is a product of our thinking. Our finances, relationships, health, happiness, and every other area are dictated by our thinking. If you want a different result in life, you need to change your thinking first.
How they feel:
Very often people get hung up on “thinking like successful people” and forget a key element: what they’re feeling. Listening to your emotions is critical to understanding what is holding you back, both consciously and unconsciously.
Successful people know that our emotions drive everything. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, afraid, stressed, sad, depressed, or any other negative emotion, your brain is less resourceful and less able to help you make good decisions or take important actions. If you want to have more energy, make better decisions, be more creative, and have more success in life…
Develop the habit of paying attention to your emotions. Then do what’s needed to be in the right emotional state (like using Tapping, which we’ll get to later!) 🙂
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Successful people believe they deserve success; unsuccessful people do not.
The area where this is most evident is with money. Financially successful people generally feel they deserve to be successful, and so they’ve created it in their lives.
So what qualifies somebody as “deserving success” or not? Only one thing… the rules they create for it in their own brain.
Oftentimes, people think (consciously or unconsciously) they don’t deserve success because of false beliefs like, “I’m not a good enough person,” or “I don’t work hard enough,” or “I’m not smart enough,” or any other from a laundry list of negative limiting beliefs.
In order to find out what you believe about success just SAY and COMPLETE these two phrases out loud:
When you say these two phrases out loud, your unconscious brain will give you the reasons that have been programmed as to why you believe one way or the other. If you’re not getting the answer you’d like (or you’re surprised by what’s coming up), don’t worry…
I’ll show you how to change your belief systems around success shortly, all using EFT Tapping!
Remember, at the end of the day every person – and I mean EVERY person – deserves success. Every person is capable of growth, of love, of giving beyond themselves… and being rewarded for it! Anyone can succeed financially, in relationships, with their health, in any area of their life.
I’ll show you how to get there. You can start by downloading my free eBook, 103 Disempowering Beliefs About Money and Success, and How to Eliminate them in Minutes.
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Most of the habits, patterns, and beliefs that we have today were developed between the ages of 0 and 6 years old. They weren’t developed consciously, they were essentially downloaded from our parents, and from other people & events happening around us at the time.
We didn’t have a choice about what beliefs were given to us, or events were happening around us. Unfortunately, many of those beliefs, patterns, and experiences were negative and have limited us in our adult life.
Some have had tougher upbringings than others, with more negative experiences and more negative beliefs about themselves and the world, but regardless of the experiences…
There is good news!
Today, as adults, we have a choice over what beliefs, patterns, and habits we want to keep or discard… And we have a choice over the meanings we give our past experiences.
Successful people are aware of how limiting old beliefs, habits, patterns, and experiences can be… and they do whatever it takes to change them!
That doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Overcoming childhood abuse issues, or deep-rooted self-confidence issues, or overwhelmingly negative thought patterns can be a challenge. But successful people are committed to their own growth, no matter what.
They know that the past does not equal the future. They understand that past challenges can either be dwelled upon for years, or accepted as necessary life lessons on their path.
Overcoming limiting beliefs and difficult events from your past is something that EFT Tapping is especially powerful at helping with, more so than any other technique I’ve ever seen.
I’ve had the privilege of using Tapping to help people with some enormous challenges through our Tapping Solution Foundation: Veterans with PTSD, children genocide survivors in Rwanda, first responders of the Sandy Hook school shooting (my home town), and much more.
A common misconception is that successful people don’t have doubts, that they don’t have a critical voice, that they’re not afraid when they face tough challenges. Reality couldn’t be further from the truth.
Successful people face all of these challenges regularly, and probably more often than unsuccessful people, because of how much they challenge themselves.
They just use tremendous courage to never let it stop them.
The good thing is that courage is a muscle that can be flexed and developed over time. Every successful person had to overcome their critical voice over little things before they moved onto bigger and bigger things.
Building this muscle starts with having the courage to address your critical voice, on anything big or little. Listen to what it has to say… And then overcome it!
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Successful people see failure as part of the learning process. And no matter how much they fail, they’re never willing to quit.
They also never see failure as defining who they are. When unsuccessful people fail, they see themselves as a failure.
Learn to never see yourself as a failure and to see failure itself as a learning process. Then, you’ll never do the one thing you’re avoiding… failing.
“How’s that?” you’re thinking.
Because failing implies that the journey is over. If you see individual failures as a part of a long journey of success, then you, in fact, never actually fail. 🙂
Here’s a list of some of the most successful people ever throughout modern history who never let individual failures stop them:
Henry Ford – Failed in his early business projects and was left broke 5 times before he founded Ford Motor Company.
R. H. Macy – Founder of the Macy’s department store, R.H. Macy started 7 failed businesses before finally hitting it big with his store in New York City.
Walt Disney – Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, he started a number of businesses that didn’t last long and ended with bankruptcy and failure.
Albert Einstein – Einstein didn’t speak until he was four and didn’t read until he was seven, which made his teachers and parents think he was mentally handicapped, slow, and anti-social.
Jerry Seinfeld – The first time he walked on stage he froze and was jeered and booed off the stage. Do you think he quit after that? Nope. The very next night he came back and completed his set to laughter and applause.
I could go on and on with people like this but I think you get it.
Failure never exists IF you see it as part of a long journey of success.
In fact, if you want to hear about how I personally “failed” my way to success, I encourage you to watch this free webinar that I put together just for you!
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Pretty much every person I talk to or come across on a daily basis feels that they have too much going on, that they’re too busy. It seems to just be a part of this modern lifestyle.
When it comes to our time, and what we do with it each day, successful people have one tremendously important trait that makes them successful…
They do the important things FIRST, not the easy things.
If you wait until you have more time to do the important things, you run out of time. It’s why people don’t exercise, or write that book, or start that business.
Successful people prioritize their lives differently. They know that the important stuff is what will get them to where they want to be. They do the big tasks on projects at the beginning of the day, and they leave the emails to later in the day.
If you want to be more successful, learn how to do the tasks that matter first.
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Successful people know that there is tremendous power in clarity.
They get clear on what they want to achieve and who they want to be in life, and they take consistent daily action to get there.
They never let their current limitations stop them from seeing a better future.
Unsuccessful people ruminate on their current situation and challenges. They never allow themselves to have seemingly unrealistic futures.
Successful people allow themselves to dream and then work to get there, even if there isn’t a clear path to achieving what they want.
They also see themselves not just as they are now, but better than they are now! They hold a vision for themselves of how they can grow into being more successful, happier, more giving people.
If you struggle to dream big or find yourself finding reasons for why your dreams can’t come true, don’t worry. Together, we’ll work to eliminate the mental blocks that are keeping you from building an empowering future.
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One of the best ways to begin is reading or listening to the stories of others, to understand how they adopted the 7 steps described above into their own lives. That’s why I want to present to you TWO great resources that I’ve put together to start you on your journey. I hope you enjoy them!
FREE eBook – 103 Disempowering Beliefs About Money and Success and How to Eliminate them in Minutes
Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
Nick
Hi Nick,
Many thanks for this reading. It’s very useful and I feel so motivated and encouraged to regain my confidence for retraining my brain to manifest my successful and abundant life.
I started to use EFT for my own method to lose weight last year and it has been working very well on me. I am convinced by this technique.
In this year 2017, I listen to my intuition and decide to learn more about your tapping solution to improve my personal growth and to get a life I deserve.
Kind Regards,
Hi Nick, first of all i am a huge fan of yours and your work. The first time my bestie introduced EFT to me was after my father’s death, i reluctantly tapped feeling weird about the whole thing, thinking it might not lessen my pain or grief. I tapped for a while and left it until a few months ago when i was tapping on the anger and pain pertaining to my relationship with my mother. It was for the first time i ever tapped on my will, seriously, and it was SOO EFFECTIVE. Also because i considered myself as somebody who didn’t had enough patience, i often left tapping in between. Now as i tap more often, i am grateful that you exist. Thank you so much Nick. Namaste.
Thank you these precious tips! When I asked myself what is keeping me from financial success the first thing that popped up was having 4 kids , they drain my time, energy and money 🙁
That’s the thing I have to focus on when starting my tapping journey sigh* Do you have any suggestions?
Thanks !!
Hi Tania. Start where you are and tap on what you feel is holding you back. If that’s the time and energy it takes to raise your kids, that’s ok. Don’t judge it, just speak your truth while you tap on the points and try to release that to see how you might be able to move forward. Here are some resources you might find helpful to start: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/eft-articles/how-to-use-to-tapping-to-get-some-much-needed-me-time-and-recharge-your-life/, https://www.thetappingsolution.com/eft-articles/complain-your-way-to-breakthrough/, https://www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/the-one-most-important-thing-ive-learned/, and https://www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/eft-stress-relief-audios/. We wish you all the best!
Powerful……………Nick
4 & 5 stand out for me as a so called perfectionist, I suffer big time when I fail, have to accept it as a learning journey to success, the critical voice also makes me to procrastinate to do something right away as the ” what if? ” voice always comes up, stopping me in my tracks thereby causing me to delay taking immediate actions in completing an important task, sometimes losing lucrative deals in the process.
I also feel that I must strongly incorporate non – compromising clarity for why I do what I do, that should stop me wasting valuable time on unimportant stuff, so 6 & 7 are my Paramounts, thanks Nick for switching on this light in my mind, really feel angry with myself because I know I’m able to be successful, just have to get rid of these negative mental-blocks, God bless.
You have had it all alright! Quite informative and inspiring. But we all have to stress that it all depends on what goes through ourselves as individuals and the strengths, stamina we put into achieving our goals to have our ultimate outputs realised.
Still yearning for more please.
These were excellent reminders. Thank you.
My greatest strengths are my writing ability, my sense of humor, my intelligence, and my lifetime experience.
My biggest challenge is my expectation of criticism and my fear of it.
#6 and #7 stood out for me. Doing what’s important first – because doing what’s easy first is sort of walking around the edge of what’s important, procrastinating not knowing how that dream will happen. Taking daily action – to me that important thing I’m procrastinating about.
Epigenetics touches on the first seven years of programming, so then we spend our adult lives re-programming… if you’re aware enough to do it!
Thanks Nick, I appreciate this article. It reminded me of some things I already knew and brought up other ideas…
Many thanks!!!!
Thank you for the article, my husband and I reviewed it together verbally. We took a tapping class several years ago and we recently discussed the need to include tapping in our daily routine to focus on our individual and collective personal development. Thank you for motivating both of us and providing resource information to take action.
I start my day trading – it has to be done then, but next is working on myself because it’s so important to having a successful trading business.
My best trait is persistence when I really want something, which is really helpful but like many I have hang ups on money;- deserving it, being scared of having lots of it.
When I get overwhelm (so much stuff to do & don’t know where to start) I use my “done list” technique. A blank post-it adding each thing I have at least tried to complete, even if it is now stuck eg call someone to resolve x issue. I have never got past 7 things on my list before I no longer feel the overwhelm and am in the doing mode. I can start with short, easy things just to get into the doing. Doing the important or something towards it naturally follows on during the day.
I find a “To do” list counter productive. More overwhelm results & I just wasted time writing it!
So much inspiration!!! Thank you Nick!! Once more, you nailed it!! ???
Super interesting. It brought up that I wish I was more disciplined.
Nick, I have read much of the same things you offered here in the business books and magazines over the past 30 years. Trying to change your thinking and behavior on your own can be very difficult. I have made a few major changes in these areas since discovering EFT and can’t wait to use Tapping to make these changes that were so hard in the past.
Thanks
Hi Nick,
Tapping has been helping me in several aspects of my life, but for sure the most difficult one is to deal with financial ones. I think it is harder for us in a third world country where money is just seen as a hard thing to achieve. I will keep on tapping. Thanks a million.
I used tapping a few years ago. Thinking I was doing well I went to see a lady near where I live. She left me in a very anxious state and it took me a long while to get over it. Just recently I have started to have an interest in it again. How do I start sensibly again without having a bad experience.
Linda
Hi Linda. We’re sorry you had a bad experience. Tapping can bring up a number of emotions and if you don’t feel you have brought the negative charge on those emotions down enough to find relief and tap in the positive after each session it can be feel stressful and overwhelming. As you get back into tapping, take it one step at a time. Make sure you have gotten the intensity of the issue down to a 0-2 out of 10 before you end your tapping session. Keep checking in with yourself and trust your intuition. We wish you all the best!
Words of wisdom,replenished my soul,made me rethink.
Thankyou so much,appreciated.
I’ve got lot’s of room for improvement.
Don’t we all David! 😉 It’s great to see that and get clear on changes you would like to make but be sure you are giving yourself credit for and celebrate all that you are doing already.
What really struck home with me is the last step above: doing the important things FIRST. I struggle with that all the time. Thanks for reminding me.
I related to a lot of the material, and to the process of re-thinking my life, a process which has already begun. Step one: I actually decided to leave a comment! Because I am hugely successful and I can do those things. . . . (hah)
Take time in your busy schedule to follow the instructions
Number 6 – doing the important things first! I like that because too often I get caught up in the “easy tasks” and they fill up my day without doing the important things?
I enjoyed your article, I only have one problem, I do not have any memory of my childhood until I am about 12 years old. I was very sick as a child and didn’t get well until I had surgery at 12 years old. Can this be a problem with my future, IF I do not know of it?
Hi Sara. Yes, it is possible to have blocks that began in childhood that you aren’t aware of. We find with tapping that, if you feel you have a block or a limiting belief that you don’t have a memory on, you can still tap to release the block from your body by tuning in and taking a look at things from a physical point of view. We also find that the power is in the present, so if you are feeling stress, overwhelm, or some sort of block, you can tap on how you are feeling right now to find relief and tap in the positive to help you move forward with confidence. I hope that helps!
You reminded me of the stuff I had learnt before
I will try again
You have inspired me
Mike
Very interesting. The secret and the challenge for me is to internalize them and to decide and implement a plan to eliminate the first negative one…and then keep on building on the rest.
Winston
I don’t trust and believe in myself I am used to failing I sort of quit trying. I am 53 and just become an empty nester and just lost my pet of 17 years. I started a spiritual journey about 2 years ago and have been overwhelmed with all the goodness out there. I have learned much but need to learn much more.
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Focusing on my
Not doing the important things first.
I believe I deserve to be successful.
And failure is a part of a longer journey to success.
Also, I used to do the hard and important things first, then i started doing easy things first.
You reminded me that i should do the important things first.
I am grateful for the reminder to practice daily these exercises!
Thank you!
Gordon
I gained insight into my internal bias against those who are wealthy (“entitled”). I I work as a social worker with clients who struggle with so much in their lives and I grew up in a family that didn’t want for anything (we had a home, food, clothing, car), but were the poor family in a rich town. So, on the one hand I envied the kids who got to go on great vacations, wear the coolest clothes, etc., I also reasoned that they were somehow “bad” for enjoying their life in this way…So for me to want financial success would make me “bad” too.
Nos. 1, 2, 4 and 6 were particularly relevant to me.
On a personal level, the “Your past never defines your future” is very powerful. It’s powerful for me, to show my kids. They need to know that although others may judge them for their past (not finishing college), they have the tools to continue their education, if they wish. It doesn’t mean they’re complete failures.
Very good. Thank you. The only part I don’t agree with is the power of feeling.. The power of thinking is much greater for those who can and do. Cheers, Jim
My underlying beliefs are that I’ll rise to the top, but the surface seems blocked by the chaos of my present situation. …like being in a traffic jam unsure of the most fruitful route. Given that, it is difficult to accept cash flowing as water to a bucket.
My biggest block – getting clear on who and what I want to be. I have some ideas about doing things – but then the doing comes, and the specific doings are not what I want to do. I think I may need a different route to get to who and what that doesn’t leave me impoverished.
Would love to get on a training program for financial abundance
Hi Annyck. Please email contact@thetappingsolution.com for more information about that program. We hope you are able to join us soon!
An we get free technique webinars ?
Hi Annyck. We have a number of free resources on our website here on the blog and in the EFT/articles section if you would like to take a look. If you would like to attend one of our webinars for a particular program, please email contact@thetappingsolution.com and let them know which one you are interested in.
my biggest strength: 1 determination, attention to detail, perfectionism, empathy, sensitivity, the wish to do it right for everyone involved, tolerance, hard work, intelligence, not giving up, finding solutions for and with everyone, flexibility, willing to learn…honesty
challenges: being a woman in a man’s world, putting others first, anxious about failure, having to work with people who contrary to me are procrastinators and using me, being drained by false blame of their failure when they have fun
my biggest strength: 1 determination, attention to detail, perfectionism, empathy, sensitivity, the wish to do it right for everyone involved, tolerance, hard work, intelligence, not giving up, finding solutions for and with everyone, flexibility, willing to learn…honesty
challenges: being a woman in a man’s world, putting others first, anxious anout reputations, anxious about failure, having to work with people who contrary to me are procrastinators and using me, being drained by false blame of their failure
Wow. #3 Shifting my thoughts about past experiences – things I have always considered bad, painful, unfair I am not seeing as great life lessons. As things that have made me exactly who I am and have put me in a unique position to love and support others who are going through those things now.
Wow, you really did an honest research; you may also be one of the supersuccessful people or you are on your way.
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So grateful for your wonderful work in the work Nick! Thank you so much for these helpful tips and reminders!
Your fan, Megon