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Quiet the Ripple Effects of Trauma

Written by: Nick Ortner

One of the central tenets of trauma relief work is understanding how quickly the effects of trauma can spread. While those at the center may be most severely affected, the larger community typically also suffers from trauma symptoms that are more subtle and harder to detect.

Keenly aware of how this phenomenon had been playing out in Newtown, CT since the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting took place in December 2012, The Tapping Solution Foundation offered a parents’ workshop to the larger community.

Healing a Community

The group that came together during this workshop was comprised of eleven moms. None of these women knew each other, and none had lost children or been physically present during the shootings. Yet all of them had spent the past two years living in a hyper-vigilant state, wracked by intense fear, anxiety, and survivor’s guilt.

For nearly two years all of these women had felt responsible for the lives of their children, husbands, friends, and community. They expressed the incredible overwhelm they had all felt, as well as the guilt they had felt for feeling overwhelmed. They were, after all, the lucky ones, the ones whose families were still intact. Who were they to buckle under a trauma that had affected other families so much more deeply than their own?

One by one, they each expressed that they felt they couldn’t let their guards down, because if they did, they would fall apart. If that happened, who would take care of everyone they’d been caring for?

As each parent voiced how she was feeling, Dr. Lori Leyden, asked if anyone else was feeling that particular way. Each time, hands around the room shot up. After explaining that these are all common experiences in trauma survivors, the group began tapping together.

The Power of Tapping on Trauma

Through tapping, they reconnected with their bodies and released the incredible fear, anxiety, and guilt they had felt for the previous two years. Finally, they could feel safe in their own bodies again, and let go of the need to try to control everything inside and around them. Instead of trying to survive alone, they could come together and support each other in healing and moving their lives and the entire community forward.

“As each person voiced their own truth,” Lori explained, “they experienced a deep sense of connection with everyone in that room, and realized they weren’t alone at all. And that in itself is another miracle.”

Trauma survivors often isolate themselves as a way of avoiding additional pain. While that isolation can serve a purpose by helping to keep ourselves and others safe, over time that isolation becomes an additional source of pain. That’s why it’s so important to join together with like-minded people and give a voice to what previously seemed unspeakable – our experience, emotions, and beliefs – to create a community that supports healthy emotional release and healing from trauma.

Nick is the CEO and founder of The Tapping Solution



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  1. Melanie says:

    Thank you for this article. When I was five my house and our whole neiborhood burned down. Recently, I have been trying to uncover how that experience has been affecting me. This article helped. Thank you

  2. Marie donnery says:

    Hi nick loved the two chapters,very interesting. I loved the summit and have loved all yr emails ,I am tapping ever since ,I had a severe shock lately with my son and felt the pain of maby loosing him to much to bare ,since then I am numb no feelings and was already dealing with tinitise noise in head.since this shock I have it all the time and find it difficult to cope with .just thought you might have some soluation or advice for me ,hope you get to read this as I am not sure what else to do .thank you if you get this for reading would love to hear from you regards keep up the magic ,Marie.

  3. Cat says:

    Great article

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