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Deconstructing a Goal, Vision, or Dream for Maximum Results (with Tapping)

Written by: Nick Ortner

Nick-OrtnerThis process was originally shared live on stage during the Mind Mastery World Summit in San Diego, CA.

This process involves having a general understanding of the Tapping protocols. If you’re new to Tapping, read about the basics here.

On that page, you’ll find “How to” videos, images, descriptions, and just about everything else you need to know to get started.

Now, on to the 5 steps for deconstructing a goal:

Step 1: Write down your goal, dream, aspiration.

You can make this a specific goal, “I want to earn a million dollars a year,” a more general goal, “I want to bring peace to my relationship with my mom,” or it can be stated more as a vision, “I’d like to create dramatic social change.”

Throughout any part of this process, don’t worry about getting it right; whatever language pops up in your head first, that’s the right language. But do make sure to write it down.

Step 2: Write down your immediate gut response when you read that goal.

How do you FEEL?

Are you 100% in alignment with it?

How does your body respond to reading it?

For example, you might feel and write down, “I feel uncomfortable when I read this… I’m excited… I’m anxious…”

Be specific in your notes and give every feeling a 0-10 rating. So if you’re feeling anxious as you read the goal, write down, “I’m feeling anxious” and then put a number of its intensity next to it, “8” for example.

You can write down more than one emotion or feeling, but be as specific as possible.

Do you feel tension in your stomach? Write that down. Are you slightly nauseous? Write that down.

Step 3: Write down what other people would say about your goal if you shared it with them.

Friends, family members, society, co-workers, etc. Whatever pops in your head first, write that down.

So if you think about sharing your goal with your mom, and you picture her saying, “That’s a silly idea…” then write that down PLUS how you FEEL about her thoughts.

Be specific and give it a number of intensity on the 0-10 scale.

Step 4: Write down YOUR beliefs about the goal.

For example, “Part of me thinks this is impossible… I’ve never been able to do this before… who am I to achieve this…”

Note the feelings this brings up. Be specific and give it a number.

Step 5: Systematically tap OUT all of this RESISTANCE and tap IN positive feelings and expectations!

Go through each item that brought up an issue, and tap on it until you bring the feelings around it down to “0” or a low number. Keep noting anything else that comes up through the process.

To get you started, here’s a free meditation from The Tapping Solution App that comes with your free download.

Stress and Anxiety About My Finances


 
You may not be able to do this in one session, so take your time with it.

When you have tapped through all the issues (and make sure to keep digging for more hidden ones), you’ve then cleared the way for your goal to become a reality.

And if you’d like some guidance on finding out those hidden beliefs that may be holding you back (especially if your goal is a financial one) then be sure to download your free ebook!

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Until next time,

Keep Tapping!

Nick Ortner


What came up for you during this process? How will you use this going forward? Comment below.



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  1. Machine Vision says:

    Thanks for sharing this nice article.and I wish to visit again on your blog. keep sharing with your work.

  2. Leanne Anderson says:

    Dear Nick and Jess,
    I just would like to say thank you from all of my friends for all the resources you have provided to help us be better people , happy people so we can play it forward to others . I can see that you both are actioned in everything you say , it’s a display in unconditional love and with that comes the trust that you both have by allowing all of us to use what you both have worked hard at for a very long time . The material is easy to understand , easy to action , and the results come from the doing . As my mum always use to say ‘ Leanne the pills don’t work in the bottle ‘ thank you again , we all promise to play it forward so one day the world will be a place where everyone lives in the moment and with that comes peace

  3. fifi says:

    its amazing eft has changed my life dramaticly <now iam adifferent present more confident<happier and mor relaxed

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  5. jim says:

    must not worked for anyone, or maybe people just dont have goals

  6. jim says:

    ok no positive results?

  7. June McCarthy says:

    Nick thank you for this blog. For many years we haven’t shared our big dreams and goals with some of our friends and some family members simply because they would think we were off on a differnt planet. Tonight, in my mind I shared our vision and goals and’listened’ to their unsupportive comments!
    I tapped them out and now look forward to sharing our visions and goals with them….a great test for tapping. I feel we are now on target.
    Thank you again Nick, a great exercise. Tapping continues to amaze me.
    June McCarthy New Zealand

  8. G.N. says:

    Hi, I’m a HUGE believer in EFT and have used it for getting over so many things in my life. Whenever I watch the Oprah show and they are featuring someone who has been through (and still suffering from) a trauma or terrible situation I think, “The whole world needs to know about EFT and the Oprah Show would be a great place to tell millions of people!”
    Have you contacted the Oprah Show? You and your sister would be such a great gift to Oprah show viewers! The viewers NEED you! =D

  9. Emily says:

    Thanks a lot for this! it was an eye opener for me. I got one of those “Aha!” moments. I have been meaning to increase my income buti kept procrastinating . When I deconstructed my goal, I realised that I was anxious about the new lifestyle and responsibilities that come with it. My life will change and I will have to live out of my comfort zone. I’m now tapping in reassuring messages and confidence that I all will be well.

    Bless you!

  10. mags says:

    HI there Nick.
    Thankyou so much for allowing me to find this through the emails i get sent from you. YOU have no idea how much this is beginning to help me.
    First of all I decided that my goal was to lose weight and that i wanted to lose 4 1/2 stone.
    I know i have been over weight for a few years now and just kept letting it creep on until it got to he stage where i just could not control it. Even thought i am a gym member and pay monthly i never find the will power to go and always find excuses. But recently i have found a brilliant ZUMBA fitness class and feel empowered to try to use this also as a tool to help me lose weight and i am hooked by the rythem of the music and have started to feel for the first time in years good about myself.
    Then today i saw this blog and liked the way you set it out. I felt for me so many times i have tried to do eft on the weight thing but never got past the first round because i lost direction with it or felt i could not do it.
    But as soon as i wrote down the goal of losing weight and put down in writing I WANT TO LOSE 4 AND A 1/2 stone……….wow the emotions it brought up in me.
    I felt nervous, excited and sad AND most of all i felt disappointed in myself fot allowing myself to put on so much weight.
    Then i looked at the peoples beliefs around me and my mam was the first that came up and i could feel her energy looking disappointed in my as if my goal was unachievable so i guess i felt she had no faith and there was no praise either. This was monumental for me but when i looked at some of my close friends i felt happy because i knew they believed i could achieve this goal..
    |Looking at my own beliefs opened up a can of worms…..it was like a revalation in the waiting! Off course the first one was obvious..it felt unrealistic to acheive this weight loss and the goal seeemed wayyyy in the distance and then i got to thinking about my family and most of them seem overweight and i thought to myself well i am supposed to be like this cos my family are and that is why my mam does not want me to lose weight or feel pleased cos she is fat too. . So i get to thinking this is going to be too much hard work………but then something happened it was like a light bulb being switched on…because as i started tappping out the resistance …my ex husband and father of my children came shoooting into my mind..and a time when i was going out with my friends and my children who are now 19 and 21 were so much younger only 2 and4 yrs. I remember i was only a size 12 then and i felt good and was wearing a knee length dress to go out in and my husband,s parting words before i got inthe car was “dont you think you look a bit fat in that dress cos your legs look really fat!” It was not before long and after many months of not getting on that we parted and split up. But as i was tapping through this it was like Niaggra Falls had opened up within me and i could not stop crying. It dawned on me how hurt i was all thosse years ago by those comments he said to me and then i began to grieve for our marriage because it made me remember that even though he hurt me so much that at that time i truly truly loved him and he was the father of my kids so how could he have beeen so cruel. I had neer really gireived for our loss in the relationship because i was glad to be away from the comments at the time. The realisation that this was where the true element of my fat thoughts came from hit me like a thunder bolt. I realised it was after this and our seperation and then divorce that i began to put the weight on gradually almost accepting this was my fate that i was fat and ugly. I went tbrough a second eight year relationship and although this eneded for different reasons i never felt that i needed to be thinner when i was in that relationship and now i am married for the second time and my husband knows how i have always felt about my weight but always said he loves me the way i am but would support me to lose weight if i wanted to.. I hve never really taken him up on tht.
    I continued to tap through all the tears of these past comments with my husband and realised that i had never truly gotten over the loss of my first marriage and loved my husband so much that after we split i began to hate him. This morning after doing this For the first time in years i feel not hatred but forgiveness towards him and so far i have not finished tapping through the rest as it became too much for me….I am still crying as i type this but it has given me hope and tomorr morning before my day starts i will recommence and just hope i can get through the positive thoughts bit. And i am beginning to feel that i can really really achieve this goal 🙂

    Thankyou kindly Nick……….would you believe me if i told you i have already done levels 1 and 2 of EFT but never really did use it for fear of what might come up…..
    Hope i did not bore everyone…thanks for reading.
    Love and light
    Magsy

  11. caterina says:

    There is no way I can thank you enough for what you share with us out of your generous heart.
    Right to the point, no judgement. Tapping makes free choice a reality like never before, it cuts down with self destructive automatic responses. It makes us really responsible and yet empowered to overcome our self `sabotaging mechanisms. I follow your coaching and have results, physically and emotionally and I hope more and more people find out `about this.

  12. Susam says:

    Again! I feel very good tapping my way to good health, wealth and happiness!
    I am glad that you set this up Nick. Hope to see you in Los Vegas in the Authors 101.
    Thanks I will practice and apply the tapping. I am also really enjoying my DVD on tapping.

  13. Louise Woods says:

    Nick, this is a very thorough process that will weedle out all those negative beliefs and feelings that stop us creating our goals! Excellent article, thanks for sharing! Blessings, Lou

  14. Monique Gallagher says:

    Nick,

    Short and simple. I like it. Have learned a way to combining particular essential oils and tapping and found it really enhances the results especially around clearing cellular memories.

    Monique

  15. berit says:

    EFT is changing the world. I am so positive about it because of what I have seen/experienced so far! Yesterday I was preparing for an anticipated hard day at work, because I had been told what I would encounter would be very difficult. OK. I tapped on it at home and on the train. Guess what? One of my mates was on his way home as I arrived because he found the day’s task too impossible. (We are freelancers on a mission). I just started and within four hours I had an amazing result things considered. I’m off again now for what may be my final day depending on outcome. 🙂 🙂 🙂

  16. John says:

    As has happened as far back as 8 years ago – nothing happened. I don’t feel different, I don’t know if I’m doing it right, I can’t believe I cannot get this to work. I’m excited to see it work for others, but I must have some weird blocks somewhere. Maybe too much negativity hidden inside? I’m going through one of Bob Proctor’s programs, and the coaching part for emails is a JOKE! I feel I was “taken” again by a scam.

    John

  17. Stephanie says:

    Did this same kind of work with Margaret Lynch a few years ago. Very helpful. Glad more of it is getting out there!

  18. Annita says:

    Hi Nick,
    Worked a treat!!! I really enjoy your approach to this work….
    A

  19. george burrows says:

    Greetings Nick –

    Thanks for constant updates on true, effective benefits of tapping.

    Having pulled in over a £Million GBP – and lost out more through unscruputous Bank – I added tapping to my belief in becoming debt free – healthy – wealthy and wiser, some two years ago.

    I’m very happy to announce>>> I’m more than half way there:-)

    Best wishes – live long and prosper!

    George Burrows . F. Inst. SMM

  20. Lydia says:

    This is beautiful exercises Nick, I wanna try it. God bless you and more power for sharing this priceless gift. Wish you more joy, peace and success.

  21. Beverley Harrison says:

    Nick thank you so much. What a simple but incredibly powerful defining process. I had no idea that a few questions would reveal so much and I thought I was well into the self analysis gig! Highly effective and very provoking. I instantly uncovered a deep truth that had been dodging my conciousness rather well and I am working on releasing the underlying issues right now.

    What a wonderful thing! Thank you.

  22. jo mangan says:

    thank you nick
    your tapping has helped me so very much/i wrote down some of the things that came to me and wow i never realized the blocks i had/i thought i was making such wonderful progress and have found there is still work ahead but this is a great new tool for me and i feel great and excited to work on my tapping/fear,jealous,lonely i know i can move forward getting these out of the way.not only will this help me but also my family.
    thank you both
    may the angels watch over us all

  23. Yvonne Forsman says:

    I came across EFT a few years ago at the Victory of Light spiritual fair at Sharonville convention center outside Cincinnati, OH. I have been recommending it to different ppl I meet now and then ever since. It is amazing what the mind can do! Decades ago I learned self hypnosis and had great results with it, so I know of own experience it is possible to achieve, once we put our mind to it. I felt compelled to post a comment here after I read Monique mention her struggling with obesity. As a nutritionist I recognize there are different reasons to obesity. One reason is biochemistry, how the body processes foods and drinks. Many foods and drinks are acid forming in the body and when the body gets overwhelmed by the amount of acids, it stores them in fat depots. In order to have a place to store the acids, it first stores fat. On top of the acid nutrition, stress also causes acidity, so does lack of sleep which is experienced by the body as stressful. An acid body is a great environment for bacteria, viruses, cancer and all kinds of diseases to thrive in. This country spends one trillion dollars annually on sick care which we wrongly call health care. Obesity and diabetes is a pandemic. But there are ways to build and/or maintain health. For anybody interested in preventive health care I recommend to google pH balance, acidic-alkaline foods and drinks, and when at it check also out the truth behind tap water and bottled water! Make sure you sit down while doing it b/c it is quite shocking. If you suffer from obesity or any disease, you will probably benefit from making your diet 80% alkaline to give your body a chance to heal itself. EFT is a great tool to use as a help to stay mentally and emotionally focused on a goal and/or a change in your life. Regarding obesity, once you switch from mostly acidic foods to mostly alkaline, your body will flush out the toxins and the fat depot will follow! Remember the drinks, they are part of our nutrition. Being a water lover, I recently invested in a water ionizer machine. I feel like I have won on a lottery. Not only do I have a good tasting water right in my kitchen, water which helps me stay on the alkaline side of the pH balance, but it is also a strong antioxidant known for slowing down the aging process, and combined with Reverse Osmosis pre-filter package it gives me a drinking water free from poisons prevalent in the municipal tap water, like arsenic, lead, chlorine, fluoride, pesticides, herbicides, drugs, bacteria, viruses, radioactive material etc. My machine comes from Life Ionizers company and I am not associated with their profits. I am saying this simply b/c I am so thrilled about my water and about the company, which is environmentally conscious, has state of the art machines with a sleek design, the most technologically advanced on the market, and for a price I can afford (zero down, $50/month, zero % interest during the first 12 months)! I do not work, I do not have a website, I do not gain anything telling you, other than my sincere hope that this information will help you, your children, your friends to either gain or maintain health! Good luck! And keep tapping! 🙂
    Yvonne Forsman, Palm City, FL, yvonneforsman@yahoo.com

  24. Diba says:

    Incredible exercise. .. and it just all makes sense…Thank you Nick!

  25. Diane says:

    Thank you for this resource. I have been using tapping for only a short period of time having had the pleasure of connecting for the Tapping World summit. I feel that tapping has helped me greatly so far and I will be interested in using this for doing a better job of achieving my goals. I wrote that I wish to earn $20,000/mth and I identified some of my blocks to this , thanks to writing it down, as the response from my parents and my husband, who cannot see why I am not satisfied with what I have already and that I have allowed this to affect me. I have much work to do on myself – thank you

  26. Diane says:

    I first have to share with you what happened today. My daughter, age 31, has periodic kidney stones which are very painful. She started hurting yesterday and was hurting even more this morning. She decided to drive on in to work and see if she could stand the pain all day. I remembered that I had gotten a video for surrogate tapping from Jessica. I began doing the surrogate tapping for my daughter. By the time she arrived at work, her pain was GONE! I must admit I was skeptical, but this has shown me that when we keep an open mind and expect good things, that is what we get. So THANK YOU for the video, Jessica! I am currently working on dramatically increasing my income, so I’m very excited to try these techniques. The feelings that came up for me were related to thinking my goal is impossible and feeling that people will laugh at me and think I’m crazy, all of which registered a 10. So, I am going to start now and see what happens. Thank you, Nick, for sharing so much information and helping so many people. Love, joy, peace, and light to you, Jessica, and your families.

  27. Teri says:

    I am unclear on this. My emotions were all good emotions. . . I didn’t want to tap them down from 8 or 10 . . . .guess I need some guidance on this.

  28. Sabrina says:

    I cannot wait to try this. I haven’t even read all of the details yet. I am printing as I type.
    I’m so excited…ready to get out of this rut I find myself in!

    Thank you Nick!

  29. Monique says:

    Hi Nick,
    During the Oct. 9, 2010 Summit when you did the tapping I had the most tremendous brake through since I am tapping, I do it for 6 months not regularly. I had a new feeling I ever had before, that I was not able to express myself since I was 2 years old without noticing it, I am 64 young, so imagine the flow of tears that I got and the deep understanding of all the cause and effect of the obesity and many failures since. But Today I am free and the flow of life is bringing me a new energy of action and I already feel strong and I can express myself and it’s fun. So now it’s a new life . I am so grateful for this service you are rending to the world by letting God in action in you Nick.
    Blessings from the Great One.

    Comment by Monique — October 13, 2010 @ 5:24 pm

  30. Jenn Goddard says:

    I love your TWIST on goal setting, with a nice SPLASH of EFT.

    Jenn Goddard
    Helping the real you shine through!
    arisetoday.com

  31. Monique says:

    Hi Nick,
    During the Oct. 9, 2010 Summit when you did the tapping I had the most tremendous brake through since I am tapping, I do it for 6 months not regularly. I had a new feeling I ever had before, that I was not able to express myself since I was 2 years old without noticing it, I am 64 young, so imagine the flow of tears that I got and the deep understanding of all the cause and effect of the obesity and many failures since. But Today I am free and the flow of life is bringing me a new energy of action and I already feel strong and I can express myself and it’s fun. So now it’s a new life . I am so grateful for this service you are rending to the world by letting God in action in you Nick.
    Blessings from the Great One.

  32. Pargash Giorgi says:

    Thanks so much Nick. Your help couldn’t have come at a more oppotune moment. I am in the processs of starting my business and your assistance with deconstructing my vision is just what I needed for greater clarity and tapping away negative emotions that stand in my way. Thanks once again for your generosity. Much appreciated.
    Love and light,
    Pargash

  33. Leanne says:

    Hi Nick, I have been studying EFT now for a few years, but I had moved away to other things. I came across your email this morning just when I needed it most. Yes I know the answer to the question I put out there, how do I solve this block? So I have do it straight away, and I just want to say thank-you for your quick 5 steps. I had forgotten how helpful it is sometimes when you are doing it by yourself to write it down. I feel lighter and freer now and ready to take on the next step. So thank-you for help, have a fantastic day. xoxo

  34. Yvonne says:

    Nick………….YOU ROCK!!

  35. Anita says:

    Awesome stuff Nick!
    Thanks for sharing with us all yet again!
    As always, timming is perfect. I was only speaking with my coach on our weekly call this morning about setting my goals. I need to clear out some resistence that are standing in the way of achieving my goals.
    Thank you!

  36. Caitlin says:

    This is awesome Nick! can’t wait to try it and share with my friends! You really are helping to change the world. xxx

  37. Thomas says:

    Thanks Nick, I watched online at the Mind Mastery Summit, it was great watching you work, as I had only had the pleasure of audio before, other than the Tapping Solution video, which was also quite amazing. I have ordered your program and am pleasantly surprised (and overwhelmed) by the material received. But am Plodding through it.

  38. Valarie Johnson says:

    This is a wonderfully powerful exercise. Very informative…..as it reveals those just below the surface walls that separate the person from the manifestation of goals!

    Thank you for sharing!
    Valarie Johnson, Certified Life Coach
    Jacksonville FL

  39. Deborah Bush says:

    Tapping has lead me to be totaly positive, in every situation I have encountered, Thank you for showing me how to relax and enjoy life…..

  40. angelina hart says:

    This was very helpful Nick. I loved the step involving the mother in the example. LOTS to clear out on that front for me! Thanks for the process.

  41. GenieGems says:

    Nick;

    Sometimes the most obvious solutions elude us. I wrote down some new goals two weeks ago and knew there were all kinds of blocks. I tapped on the basic overall goal, but didn’t break it down like you have. After reading this – it was one of those “ahh moments”.

    Thanks for the insight and will be going to work on this straight away!

    This is just what I needed.

  42. Ellie says:

    Thanks Nick, I really got a lot out of that. I’ve been working on becoming debt-free, and your process helped me notice that I thought it wasn’t possible to be debt-free and that being in debt is part of who I am and the family I was raised in. When I imagined telling my mother I wanted to be debt-free her response was “oh, you’ll always have debt, that’s just part of life!” Ha ha, not anymore Mom!!

  43. Alan Combies says:

    Excellent Nic! I have been using this process of clearing resistance to desires on myself and clients for a while and it works great. I have found that the biggest challenge most people face is when they accept their negative feelings as “truth”. They are not “truth”, they are simply an emotional response triggered by a perceived threat. The perceived threat is in their mind, it is not happening now, in the moment. So when we tap away the emotional response triggered by the internal representation…we become free.

    This is a wonderful resource. Keep up the great work!!

    -Alan

  44. Barbara de Souza says:

    Dear Nick,

    I discovered your tapping website right at the perfect time. I had just received some news that provided me with stress but also with opportunity. My income was going to deminish by 70% but my time to creat new abundance, opportunites and income streams was going to increase by 75%..Whenever I start to feel the least apprehension or worryI start tapping and I immediately feel positive energy, creative energy and a feeling of limitless potential. I have experienced the power of positive thinking and manifestriation before in my life. The meridian tapping exponentially directs that energy in a concentrated and deliberate focus to manifest my goals. Thank you for for being a piece of my miracle and my present and future joy.

    Thank you so much and thank the universe for attracting us.

    Barbara

  45. benoit says:

    I haven’t tried this but I can see that it would help me on 2 issues. The first is getting rid of the feelings that prevent me from achieving the goal but also to be able to state the goal without building in the excuses or limiting the scale of the goal. Knowing that this process will help me overcome the limiting beliefs allows me to start higher than I would have.

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