The Problem with Patience…

Written by: Nick Ortner

“Patience is a virtue.”

“All good things come to those who wait.”

“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking. ”

We’ve all heard these ideas again and again…(the third one isn’t as famous, but it’s good!)

We KNOW these things to be true, there’s a part of us that understands it, believes it, feels the wisdom behind it…


When push comes to shove (i.e. daily life) it goes right out the window!

We need it NOW.  We need to be skinnier NOW, healthier NOW, richer NOW, happier NOW.


I know, annoying to even read it, you can feel the urgent energy of it (that’s why I capitalized it!)

You can feel how exhausting it is…

But what do we do?

How do we practice patience?

How do we make it a reality?

What do we do about the part of us that is screaming like a toddler…

“But I don’t want to be patient!!! I want it now!!!”

Two steps:

A.  Acknowledge that this part of you exists.

Just saying, “Yup, I’m not being patient…” can be enough to trigger change.

B. Tap to release those anxious feelings,

Here’s some quick tapping you can do right now.  🙂

Step 1: Identify what you’re being Impatient about.  Give it a number On the 0-10 scale, for how impatient you’re being.

Step 2:  Tap along

(if you’re new to the tapping, you can see a demonstration of the process here)

Through the points…

Karate Chop: “Even though I’m being so impatient…I deeply and completely accept myself

Karate Chop:  “Even though I can’t relax, it has to be done now..I deeply and completely accept myself…”

Karate Chop: “Even though I don’t want to be patient…I deeply and completely accept myself…”

Eyebrow: I can’t be patient…

Side of the Eye: Need it done now…

Under the Eye: I don’t want to wait…

Under the Nose: I need it now…

Under the Mouth: Patience drives me crazy!

Collarbone: No time for patience…

Under the Arm: Who has time to be patient!

Top of the head: All this stress about it happening now.

Back to the eyebrow, with some positive statements, but only if you feel the positive statements ‘land’ or feel partially true.  If not, keep tapping on the negative  or ‘my truth now’ feelings until those shift.

Eyebrow:  Patience IS a virtue..

Side of the Eye: I wonder how I can cultivate some patience..

Under the Eye: It feels good to be patient…

Under the Nose: it feels safe to be patient…

Under the Mouth: It’s time for me to be patient…

Collarbone: I choose to be patient now…

Under the Arm: Feeling calm and patient…

Top of the Head:  Feeling calm and patient now…

That’s just two rounds, so keep repeating either with this language or with your own until you find relief.

The truth is…Patience IS a virtue…

A beautiful one, that can guide your life and bring with it an inner peace that we all crave.

Tap to find that patience and then cultivate it.

Feel it…BE the patience…  Flow with patience…

Experience the magic of patience…

Until next time…

Patiently yours…  🙂

Nick Ortner

What can you be more patient about in your life?  Did you experience any shifts when tapping along to this script?  Share your experience below!


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  1. Elena says:

    Haven’t done the tapping for quite some time,but it came so naturally to do it again. But the most important part was that I was stress-less and I went to the positive part straight away (!) without any effort. Plus I felt that it was all mine. This is me. Thank you 💋🌺😊👏🏻🎇

  2. Torie says:

    These pieces really set a standard in the inrdstuy.

  3. Yvonne says:

    Did the tapping script, and it brought up issues around needing to be proactive and ‘get stuff done’ so that I didn’t waste any more time, then stuff in my past and childhood, and a load of anger at myself (self-criticism and self-hatred). Took a lot of rounds, but got to the point where I felt able to let go of all this and forgive myself and others. Oh, and see patience as a positive thing too! 😉

  4. Veronica says:

    Nick, the more I tap with you, the more I like the results I feel. Mind that I used the word feel and not see. I still don’t see them the way I would like to. Like NOW!! hahaha But I am feeling it now. That I like. I can do with that now. Anxiety that builds up because of my lack of patience is my worst enemy, but with tapping, those anxiety levels are dropping and I am feeling more relaxed and calm around myself.
    Thank you!
    Yours patiently,

  5. Elizabeth says:

    Hi I found that tapping was and is believable and the real wow factor its so amazing thankyou so much love and best wishes to all

  6. Peta says:

    So grateful to you Nick and Jessica for the videos, audios and the articles. It is always great to see how transformative tapping can be by watching someone release the issues that have created so much pain; emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.
    I love the articles too,especially when provided with a tapping script but most of all I find the greatest benefit by tapping along with Jessica’s audios!
    Thank you so much for your generosity in creating and providing access to all these. And last but not least for allowing the opportunity for someone who isn’t subscribed to FB or any other social media platform, to comment and express their gratitude.
    Love and Blessings to you all 😀

  7. karen says:

    thank you, I have been tapping for a year about my insomnia but I never know what words to use, this has been helpful in giving me new ideas of expressing myself and my tapping and my need to sleep. I also enjoyed the patience email, I need to practice that as well. thanks for all your loving work.

  8. Tao Hinton says:

    Hi Nick 🙂

    Thanks for your ‘Patience’ email. I wanted to leave feedback because I find it so helpful when someone actually spells out their own way of tapping for a problem, like you’ve done here. Specific phrasings like “Even though I can’t relax, it has to be done now..I deeply and completely accept myself…” can really help when we’re trying to find just the right words to address something. It’s often so hard to get the words just right, or find the combination that allows us to penetrate to the core issue, and I find others’ words can often be very helpful. Just one little word can sometimes make the difference between extended periods of tapping that bears very little fruit, and significant change in just a few moments’ tap. However, I find many people such as yourself often seem to avoid giving specific wording, instead leaving that up to the reader. While it’s nice for readers to be encouraged to use whatever words work for them, a few suggestions be very helpful, and can potentially lead to real shifts and leaps forwards for readers.

    So I want to say thanks for that set for readers to tap along to, and would like to encourage you to share them more often in the future!


  9. Lynn says:

    Yes,enjoy it all and tap often

  10. Michele says:

    Thank you and all of your team for really caring about helping others. I love your emails.I really needed help and did not know how to find out what was wrong. Blessings

  11. Susan says:

    I feel lighter. It made me laugh and helped me calm down. I can do everything I want but I don’t have to be frantic about it and I can have patience.

  12. Michelle mackaben says:

    I love that you gave us the dialog to tap with. It helps me stay consistent and to affirm it really is that simple. Just have to do it ! Thank you for your contribution to my success !

  13. Andrea says:

    Hi Nick, I just got your email about “patience” tapping. I found it very useful. I was wondering if you could send out one on dealing with anger – I have a lot of anger built up – I think this is from losing my Mum- but I fly into a rage very easily especially when dealing with my kids. I know it’s unfair and it’s not their fault and I’m trying to deal with it but thought if you could give some tips on what to say when tapping that would help too. I’m sure there’s lots of other people that would benefit from that too. Hope to hear from you soon. I love receiving you emails they are always positive and upbeat. Keep up the good work

  14. Ana P Munoz says:

    I been doing the tapping since I found it in the web and want to know more and help
    people whit it. Do you have something in spanish? because sometimes I dont understand everything

  15. Barbara says:

    Hi Nick, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your knowledge so generously!

  16. Shirley says:

    Great, your suggestions are really helpful

  17. tania says:

    thanks so much for the ”patience ”blog ,recently i have had to acknowledge that I am impatient ,and just tapping through it has helped understand and discover what the impatience was really about ,and how it can the the true process of life. magically i received your email the same day that i was struggling to accept the thought of me as being impatient .

  18. Carol East Lansing Michigan says:

    thank you for the wonderful conference and the continuing tips and creative ways to use tapping. Patience is definitely an attribute that I need to continue developing! I appreciate your ongoing efforts!

  19. Anna says:

    thank you!

  20. Rosangela says:

    Ola ,obrigado pelo pouco que tenho a respeito ,gostaria de saber se tens o livro em português ,gostaria de saber se p síndrome do túnel do carpo vcs tem algo tenho dores generalizadas,nos nervos braços e pernas ,quase naum consigo fazer os exercicios já consegui muito com o que tenho de vcs.muito obrigado tenho um leve conhecimento de massagens fiz um curso rapido de DOIN e outros .obrigado .

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