The Science: Why Heartbreak Hurts So Much
Heartbreak isn't just emotional—it's physiological. Brain imaging studies show that romantic rejection activates the same neural pathways as physical pain. The anterior cingulate cortex, which processes physical pain, lights up when people view photos of exes who rejected them. Your brain literally experiences heartbreak as an injury.
Beyond pain, breakups trigger a kind of withdrawal. Romantic attachment involves the same reward pathways as addiction—dopamine, oxytocin, the whole neurochemical cocktail. When the relationship ends, you're not just sad; you're in withdrawal from a person. This is why you might obsessively check their social media, replay memories, or struggle to resist reaching out. Your brain is craving a hit of what it's lost.
Tapping addresses both aspects. The physical stimulation of acupressure points while focusing on the loss can reduce the pain response and help calm the obsessive circuits. Many people find that Tapping on specific memories—the last conversation, the moment of rejection, particular things that were said—gradually drains the emotional charge from these scenes. The memories remain, but they stop triggering the same intense response.
Each session addresses a different phase: Breakup recovery isn't linear. Sometimes you need to release anger. Sometimes you're stuck in the struggle to move on. Sometimes your heart has closed protectively. These sessions meet you where you are.
Real Results
Zainab's Story
"Tapping has changed my life. Given me back my husband and children—who had left me because I was an angry monster. For twenty years my husband has put up with me, like a saint."
Zainab discovered that unresolved childhood trauma was driving her anger and damaging her closest relationships. Two months of Tapping with a psychologist changed everything.
"All the damage from childhood sexual abuse—which I fully believed had been dealt with—was washed away as if in a waterfall. Now they love me and I even like myself—an inconceivable concept up until a couple of months ago."
Donna's Story
"My story began in the midst of my marriage falling apart. I was searching the internet for ways to reduce my cortisol levels naturally due to very high stress and anxiety. My husband and I have always had our differences, but this time we were at a different level. I actually asked him to leave."
After they decided to try to work things out, Donna found EFT Tapping. She began Tapping on everything related to her relationship situation.
"What I found was that I started responding differently to my husband—WITHOUT TRYING OR THINKING ABOUT IT! I could answer questions without fear. I started feeling confident, wasn't second-guessing myself. The automatic reactions just stopped."
Sharon's Story
"I've attended all of your summits except for this year. My husband passed in 2019 and just recently my mother passed away and I couldn't seem to get an emotional hold on the anxiety. I downloaded the app and after three Tapping sessions I felt relieved, I felt at peace and calm."
Sharon found that grief from multiple losses can compound—making it hard to process any single loss. Tapping helped her find calm when everything felt overwhelming.
"I forwarded the information on to my daughter who thanked me for it. I let her know that it was like seeing a one-on-one counselor using the app and what relief it gave me. You guys feel like family to me."
Using These Sessions
Start where you are: If you're angry, start with releasing anger. If you're stuck, start there. If you're numb, open the heart.
Be specific: While Tapping, think of specific moments, words, memories. The more specific, the more effective.
Repeat as needed: Heartbreak doesn't heal in one session. Use these sessions as often as you need, returning to whichever phase you're in.
Heal Your Heart
Sessions for every stage of breakup recovery.