Change Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble…

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Tuesday September 18, 2012
by Nick Ortner

Person in Bubble

Change doesn’t happen in a bubble.

What does that mean?

It means when you’re looking to improve your life in some way, as much as you’d like to think it’s all about you, about you making that commitment, that decision, that change, it really isn’t…

It would be easier if it were…

But change doesn’t happen in a bubble.

When you change, or even when you try to change, you affect the people around you, and their perspective and attitudes towards you can change.

When you show up looking different in the world, when you take better care of yourself, or try to be more positive, or do something to “improve” yourself, you affect others.

Certainly you can affect them in a positive way, and be a role model…

But…

If they’re not as loving and supportive as you’d like them to be, it can be hard for that change to “stick”.

So when you lose 20 pounds because you started eating better and exercising, your old friends might be jealous, or you might simply not be able to connect with them in the same way as before.

When you make a decision to stop gossiping or being negative, it might be hard for your fellow gossipers to handle.

And the real challenge here is that when your natural human tendency to “connect” and be accepted tries to kick in, it can be easy to go back and act the same way as before, just to fit in again!

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Misery loves company,” and that applies here.

So what to do?  Certainly, there are strategies to change your environment, find better support, etc., but today I want to address how to work on the emotional element of this challenge.

So let’s do some tapping on it.  :)

We’re going to do some very general “global” tapping, meaning I’ll share phrasing and language that isn’t specific, but instead can apply to a variety of situations.

As you zone in on your particular situation, go ahead and change the language and be as specific as possible.

(if you’re unfamiliar with the tapping process, you can learn it here: www.thetappingsolution.com/how-to-tap.php )

Starting on the karate chop point:

Karate Chop: Even though it’s hard to change, because I want to fit in, I deeply and completely accept myself…

Karate Chop: Even though I can’t seem to make these changes stick, I deeply and completely accept myself…

Karate Chop: Even though change doesn’t feel safe, because of how it will affect others, I deeply and completely accept myself…

Eyebrow: It’s hard to change…
Side of Eye: I need to fit in…
Under Eye: What will they think of me if I change..
Under Nose: Every time I change something, I don’t get any support..
Under Mouth: This fear of change…
Collarbone: This fear of being different..
Under Arm: This fear of not fitting in…
Top of Head:  I need to fit in…

Back to the eyebrow…

Eyebrow: If I change they won’t like me…
Side of Eye: If I change they won’t support me…
Under Eye: This old fear of change in my body…
Under Nose: All the times I tried to change…
Under Mouth: And it didn’t happen…
Collarbone: All this fear of being judged…
Under Arm: What if they judge me…?
Top of Head:  How can I really change…?

Back to the eyebrow for some positive phrases…
(only go to the positive when you’ve moved the negative emotion down to a place where the positive phrases feel good)

Eyebrow: It’s safe to change…
Side of Eye: It’s safe to do what I want to do…
Under Eye: Releasing all this fear from my body…
Under Nose: Letting it go…
Under Mouth: Letting go of all the times when I tried to change and I wasn’t supported…
Collarbone: Letting them all go now…
Under Arm: It’s safe to change…
Top of Head:  It’s safe for me to change…

Keep tapping, again, focusing on specifics as much as possible.  Ask yourself:

What happened last time I tried to change?

How did the people around me feel about it?

Does it feel safe to change?

What’s stopping me from making the changes I want to make?

Use your answers to tap through the blocks to changing.

Change doesn’t happen in a bubble…

It can’t, and that’s OK.  We just need to acknowledge that, and be aware of it.

Once we are, and when we do the tapping to clear the emotional blocks to change, to clear the fear, the doubt, and all the other negative emotions around changing and others perception of us, then..

…change can really STICK.  :)

Until next time… Keep Tapping!

Nick Ortner

 



 

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  1. Sharon says:

    Holy sh…! This is huge! I had no idea I was holding myself hostage. I had 3 businesses in the past all with partners, who, in the course of 25 years destroyed all 3 with their drama, drugs, and immature behavior. I was the clean up crew, always fixing and repairing what was left behind in the aftermath of the tornadoes. I totally took full responsibility for my end but also for theirs. Wow I never saw that.. I thought I couldn’t have my own business again because I was such a failure in the past but now I see that I can. My fear has diminished to a 2. So off to tap some more.. this is sooooooo cooooool!!!
    Much love and good vibes your way,
    Sharon

  2. Nona says:

    Thanks for all the great ideas and tapping dialogues.
    I agree that unfortunately, people don’t always support or celebrate other’s success.
    Of course it is because they want the same thing for themselves.
    Hopefully, as humans evolve, they will realize that supporting what is good and what they truly want,
    be it in themselves or others is always what brings the manifestation into their lives.
    So many feel that if someone else has success, it means that they won’t get any. Absurd, because like begets like.
    I look forward to any and all emails from your site.
    All the best,
    Nona

  3. Jo says:

    Thank Nick. This one’s a keeper!

  4. daya says:

    We are living ina worl where we have learnt to change. This change has been given In our Holy Books like Bible, Geeta etc.
    But EFT has been a simple method that eliminates a huge amount of learning and it gives you much faster effect in many areas that helps you to change

  5. mila says:

    Thank you so much Nick for your generosity to share.You are amazing!!!Tapping is easy ,step by step we going to our change.Keep going,because tapping is fantastic:-)))
    Mila

  6. frances stuart says:

    Thanks Nick, that was just in the nick of time, so to speak. I have been tapping now only a short while and sometimes need reminders to do it as I have found it very helpful, thankyou.

  7. JL Johnson says:

    Nick, you are a very special intuitive-able to reach through the bubble without alerting the brain police that tries to dictate our creativity. thanks
    JL

  8. Jane says:

    Hi Nick,
    So glad to get this email from you. Although I don’t quite grasp the ‘change doesn’t happen in a bubble’ concept, I can already feel a difference-feel the negative feelings moving downward-
    after going through the tapping and repeating the sentences you provided. I plan to do it over and over until the scared/afraid to change feelings are gone and replaced with the affirmations.

    Thanks soo much!

    Sincerely,
    Jane

  9. yonash says:

    Thank’s Nick allways helpfull at the right time to aliviate the load and making it real easy.

  10. roy says:

    Thanks Nick. I always appreciate your simplistic phraseing. It keeps tapping simple, to the point and easy to do.

  11. Jill says:

    Hi Nick, I love your post. It’s so true! I teach this very thing to my students learning about manifesting happiness in their lives. This is a great addition to the tools they are learning for supporting themselves through the change. I learned tapping a few years ago and stopped due to just forgetting about it. I have a renewed passion for it now and I’m using it on everything. thanks for this wonderful detailed instruction to help someone work through the changes. Love it! (PS: My site is under construction)

  12. Connie Kling says:

    Nick, thank you so much for sharing this, in such EXCELLENT detail!!!

  13. Elizabeth Erkenswick says:

    This was so easy to do while I read the email…I’m reading anyway, no more time to tap along. I really like that format. I just did Carol Look’s tapping online group last night, and one of the things she DIDN’T address was how to make the changes stick. This has powerful implications.
    Thank you Nick. You are a gift to the world.

  14. Joanne says:

    Good Morning Nick,
    This is so, so perfect. It takes me back to when I wanted to be loved by everyone and I’d change just to fit in even though it wasn’t really me. It’s taken me years to find me and I’m still working on it. Thank you so much for all this enlightenment.

  15. Marion says:

    Hi Nick

    Keep up the great work. I am enjoying all the tapping solutions you are sending and this one is particularly true of change, I do find tapping relieves a lot of stress and puts you in a better emotional frame of mind. Please continue with your great work and thank you so much. You are awesome. Cheers