Change Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble…

Published on:
Wednesday January 14, 2015
by Nick Ortner

Person in Bubble

Change doesn’t happen in a bubble.

What does that mean?

It means when you’re looking to improve your life in some way, as much as you’d like to think it’s all about you, about you making that commitment, that decision, that change, it really isn’t…

It would be easier if it were…

But change doesn’t happen in a bubble.

When you change, or even when you try to change, you affect the people around you, and their perspective and attitudes towards you can change.

When you show up looking different in the world, when you take better care of yourself, or try to be more positive, or do something to “improve” yourself, you affect others.

Certainly you can affect them in a positive way, and be a role model…

But…

If they’re not as loving and supportive as you’d like them to be, it can be hard for that change to “stick”.

So when you lose 20 pounds because you started eating better and exercising, your old friends might be jealous, or you might simply not be able to connect with them in the same way as before.

When you make a decision to stop gossiping or being negative, it might be hard for your fellow gossipers to handle.

And the real challenge here is that when your natural human tendency to “connect” and be accepted tries to kick in, it can be easy to go back and act the same way as before, just to fit in again!

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Misery loves company,” and that applies here.

So what to do?  Certainly, there are strategies to change your environment, find better support, etc., but today I want to address how to work on the emotional element of this challenge.

So let’s do some tapping on it.  :)

We’re going to do some very general “global” tapping, meaning I’ll share phrasing and language that isn’t specific, but instead can apply to a variety of situations.

As you zone in on your particular situation, go ahead and change the language and be as specific as possible.

(if you’re unfamiliar with the tapping process, you can learn it here: www.thetappingsolution.com/how-to-tap.php )

Starting on the karate chop point:

Karate Chop: Even though it’s hard to change, because I want to fit in, I deeply and completely accept myself…

Karate Chop: Even though I can’t seem to make these changes stick, I deeply and completely accept myself…

Karate Chop: Even though change doesn’t feel safe, because of how it will affect others, I deeply and completely accept myself…

Eyebrow: It’s hard to change…
Side of Eye: I need to fit in…
Under Eye: What will they think of me if I change..
Under Nose: Every time I change something, I don’t get any support..
Under Mouth: This fear of change…
Collarbone: This fear of being different..
Under Arm: This fear of not fitting in…
Top of Head:  I need to fit in…

Back to the eyebrow…

Eyebrow: If I change they won’t like me…
Side of Eye: If I change they won’t support me…
Under Eye: This old fear of change in my body…
Under Nose: All the times I tried to change…
Under Mouth: And it didn’t happen…
Collarbone: All this fear of being judged…
Under Arm: What if they judge me…?
Top of Head:  How can I really change…?

Back to the eyebrow for some positive phrases…
(only go to the positive when you’ve moved the negative emotion down to a place where the positive phrases feel good)

Eyebrow: It’s safe to change…
Side of Eye: It’s safe to do what I want to do…
Under Eye: Releasing all this fear from my body…
Under Nose: Letting it go…
Under Mouth: Letting go of all the times when I tried to change and I wasn’t supported…
Collarbone: Letting them all go now…
Under Arm: It’s safe to change…
Top of Head:  It’s safe for me to change…

Keep tapping, again, focusing on specifics as much as possible.  Ask yourself:

What happened last time I tried to change?

How did the people around me feel about it?

Does it feel safe to change?

What’s stopping me from making the changes I want to make?

Use your answers to tap through the blocks to changing.

Change doesn’t happen in a bubble…

It can’t, and that’s OK.  We just need to acknowledge that, and be aware of it.

Once we are, and when we do the tapping to clear the emotional blocks to change, to clear the fear, the doubt, and all the other negative emotions around changing and others perception of us, then..

…change can really STICK.  :)

Until next time… Keep Tapping!

Nick Ortner

 



 

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  1. Pat says:

    Hello, I tried taping about 10 years ago following Gary Craig. But I got busy and forgot to tap. I attended your summit 2015. I went out and bought the book “The Tapping Solution” I did not start a journal. Now I know why that is such an important step. Once you clear a block you can not remember, how you use to feel about it. Thank You so much for making EFT main stream. i wake up with a smile on my face. I plan on tapping for the rest of my life.

  2. Dana Aras says:

    Perfect timing … perfect reminder. Very grateful for this gift.

  3. Marìa says:

    Todos sus articulos me encantan, son en verdad interesantes, en ocasiones no tengo el tiempo suficiente para practicar todo lo que yo quisiera, este en particular voy a practicarlo, estoy viviendo esta etapa y se que me va a ayudar. Realmente me siento muy agradecida con Ud. por compartir tdo este apoyo.

  4. Joanne says:

    How did you know that I’ve implemented changes & feeling as though I no longer fit in! It’s so hard though…
    Deep down I know these changes are right for me…I’ve been trying for a very long time to make them but my resolve has always crumbled when I felt as though I was on the outers.
    So when/if the doubts start to descend this will be my go to tapping routine.
    Thank you, thank you very much.

  5. Lisa says:

    Thank you, this has been the most challenging part of change….this article could not have come at a better time! Thanks for doing what you do!!

  6. Sharon says:

    Holy sh…! This is huge! I had no idea I was holding myself hostage. I had 3 businesses in the past all with partners, who, in the course of 25 years destroyed all 3 with their drama, drugs, and immature behavior. I was the clean up crew, always fixing and repairing what was left behind in the aftermath of the tornadoes. I totally took full responsibility for my end but also for theirs. Wow I never saw that.. I thought I couldn’t have my own business again because I was such a failure in the past but now I see that I can. My fear has diminished to a 2. So off to tap some more.. this is sooooooo cooooool!!!
    Much love and good vibes your way,
    Sharon

  7. Nona says:

    Thanks for all the great ideas and tapping dialogues.
    I agree that unfortunately, people don’t always support or celebrate other’s success.
    Of course it is because they want the same thing for themselves.
    Hopefully, as humans evolve, they will realize that supporting what is good and what they truly want,
    be it in themselves or others is always what brings the manifestation into their lives.
    So many feel that if someone else has success, it means that they won’t get any. Absurd, because like begets like.
    I look forward to any and all emails from your site.
    All the best,
    Nona

  8. Jo says:

    Thank Nick. This one’s a keeper!

  9. daya says:

    We are living ina worl where we have learnt to change. This change has been given In our Holy Books like Bible, Geeta etc.
    But EFT has been a simple method that eliminates a huge amount of learning and it gives you much faster effect in many areas that helps you to change

  10. mila says:

    Thank you so much Nick for your generosity to share.You are amazing!!!Tapping is easy ,step by step we going to our change.Keep going,because tapping is fantastic:-)))
    Mila

  11. frances stuart says:

    Thanks Nick, that was just in the nick of time, so to speak. I have been tapping now only a short while and sometimes need reminders to do it as I have found it very helpful, thankyou.

  12. JL Johnson says:

    Nick, you are a very special intuitive-able to reach through the bubble without alerting the brain police that tries to dictate our creativity. thanks
    JL

  13. Jane says:

    Hi Nick,
    So glad to get this email from you. Although I don’t quite grasp the ‘change doesn’t happen in a bubble’ concept, I can already feel a difference-feel the negative feelings moving downward-
    after going through the tapping and repeating the sentences you provided. I plan to do it over and over until the scared/afraid to change feelings are gone and replaced with the affirmations.

    Thanks soo much!

    Sincerely,
    Jane

  14. yonash says:

    Thank’s Nick allways helpfull at the right time to aliviate the load and making it real easy.

  15. roy says:

    Thanks Nick. I always appreciate your simplistic phraseing. It keeps tapping simple, to the point and easy to do.

  16. Jill says:

    Hi Nick, I love your post. It’s so true! I teach this very thing to my students learning about manifesting happiness in their lives. This is a great addition to the tools they are learning for supporting themselves through the change. I learned tapping a few years ago and stopped due to just forgetting about it. I have a renewed passion for it now and I’m using it on everything. thanks for this wonderful detailed instruction to help someone work through the changes. Love it! (PS: My site is under construction)

  17. Connie Kling says:

    Nick, thank you so much for sharing this, in such EXCELLENT detail!!!

  18. Elizabeth Erkenswick says:

    This was so easy to do while I read the email…I’m reading anyway, no more time to tap along. I really like that format. I just did Carol Look’s tapping online group last night, and one of the things she DIDN’T address was how to make the changes stick. This has powerful implications.
    Thank you Nick. You are a gift to the world.

  19. Joanne says:

    Good Morning Nick,
    This is so, so perfect. It takes me back to when I wanted to be loved by everyone and I’d change just to fit in even though it wasn’t really me. It’s taken me years to find me and I’m still working on it. Thank you so much for all this enlightenment.

  20. Marion says:

    Hi Nick

    Keep up the great work. I am enjoying all the tapping solutions you are sending and this one is particularly true of change, I do find tapping relieves a lot of stress and puts you in a better emotional frame of mind. Please continue with your great work and thank you so much. You are awesome. Cheers

  21. Kandi Eden says:

    Thank you for this one Nick, I have read it through and printed it off. It wll be a good one when I have a quiet moment.
    Kandi

  22. Anita says:

    Very helpful. I often make changes in my life, but decided to do the tapping anyway. And the script very specifically highlighted some other issues in my life. So I waa not only helped in connection to change, this also gave me more understanding in how I create change in my life. It opened my eyes to how often I affect change coming from a place of fear, rather than from a place of clarity and strength. Thank you.

  23. Elenir Stein says:

    Obrigada Nick ! Que DEUS abençoe sempre,esse trabalho é simplesmente maravilhoso,fazer tapping é divino…….Eu trabalho com terapia Holistica,tenho aplicado em min e meus clientes,com resultados magníficos….Muito obrigada……Abraços……Até logo……

  24. Anna-Carin Rahm says:

    Hi Nick. Your ability to be spot on with your tapping sessions is remarkable. It gives me 2 benefits, one is the tapping of course and the other is that it takes away my feeling of shame and guilt because you speak or write about it in such a manner that I feel ok even though I have this issues. Thank you!

  25. Annette says:

    Hi Nick,
    Thankyou so much for the tapping on change, just what I needed. I am getting ready to move overseas, new life. new me.I know I wouldn’t be here without the tapping. Thanks again

  26. ivonne says:

    Thanks Nick!!! God bless you for all the work you have done to improve and help other’ s lives

  27. dolores says:

    Thanks Nick I did enjoy this as I have enjoyed all the other tips on tapping
    I am more positive and able to cope with challenges and even help others!
    I am learning so much from the “Masters” dvds also. Thank you all for your
    great work!

  28. M says:

    I heart Tapping and tell everyone about it! I’ve used other modalities – almost anything helpful that comes my way and Tapping tops my list. It’s like walking for exercise – anywhere anytime always effective – and a breath of fresh air! love, M

  29. Jennifer says:

    Thank you Nick

    What a great tapping its always nice to have someone to facilitate, this enables you too
    relax and let other issues come to the fore that may nether see the light of day.
    Keep up the good work.

    Jennifer, UK

  30. Susan says:

    Thanks. This is good and puts things into perspective for me. I was feeling quite a bit of anxiety so this is timely.

  31. Nick….great tapping topic! I loved the “it’s safe to do what I want to do” because what I ‘want’ to do is build up a FULL private practice as a marriage and family therapist and I often get scared because of money; I then start to feel ‘guilty’ for not getting a job and giving up the idea of continuing with my practice. Love the Tapping Solution! It works!

  32. Elaine says:

    I had a day of letting go of old things (the sale of my house is complete today) and a day of welcoming new things. I am in a state of change. Sometimes my confidence gets a little shaky.
    Thanks for this tapping sequence and reminding me it is safe to make the changes in my life that I know are good for me and my family.

  33. Jackie says:

    Thank you, Nick. This arrived at exactly the right time to help me deal with some family issues – I am changing and they are not and they ARE resentful. I love that you’re sending us tapping exercises – a great idea! Keep them coming.

  34. Patricia Couzner says:

    Thanks again Nick, it is great to have the words to get you started on the tapping, makes everything flow smoothly.

  35. Prashanti says:

    This is wonderful! As I am in a state of transition quite often this will help me understand much better how to cope with life in reation with others who don’t like it when I make poasitive changes in my life. Namaste to you Nick!

  36. Joan C says:

    Thank you for walking me through the tapping exercize

    I appreciate it

    Joan C

  37. Sunita says:

    Dear Nick,
    You have addressed a very important aspect of tapping into any change..thank you so so much !! Your mail nailed it …… Thank you again for the script ….am going to do it and am sure it will work !!!!!

  38. Douglas Bennion says:

    Thank you, very nice.

  39. Eugene says:

    Hi Nick,
    I just love tapping! It is such an easy, non threatening and gentle way to make changes in one’s life.
    Your article on ‘Change doesn’t happen in a Bubble,’ is really important. As a therapist this is one of the issues that comes up again and again. The individual really wants to change but when they are immersed back into their day to day life and the thoughts and attitudes of important others, who are not on the path towards change, come into play, their judgements and comments can be very powerful and confronting. Being forewarned of this aspect of creating change is crucial to being able to follow through, and not fall back due to fear of loss. I know for a fact that, ‘When I Change My Mind, My Life Changes!’ Thats why l love what l do, because l have the privilege of seeing the amazing transformations that occur in the lives of others when they ‘get it!’

  40. kesavan namboothiri krishnan says:

    Thank You, I have nothing more to say on the post as it was timely for me to deal with my friends and relatives keeping intact myself on new revelations of EFT. You are real Guru who knows how to make the aspirants able to cope with the new situations and social blocks. Tapping is a ritual for me and I believe the change in me will change the Universe at heart and Soul level.

  41. Phyllis Koss says:

    This outline for each step is excellent. It really helped me to tap thru my stuckness as feeling needy and I realized that I needed to have this feeling in order to help myself and to be compassionate and in return to be able to help others thru this negative feeling. I have never felt needy all my life until recently and I do not like it….I know what to do now. Thank you so much for this tapping exercise….

  42. Fran says:

    I really enjoyed you lining out the verbage and going through the tapping sequence. I know the sequence, but I still appreciated you going through it with the outline. perfect!

  43. Sue Thompson says:

    Thanks, Nick. I knew this in my head, remind myself of it often (because I am making some substantial changes and as a clergy person, have lots of folks who, though they love me and want the best for me, find my making personal changes challenging), but had not tapped it into place. That is now done.
    Richest blessings,
    Sue

  44. Scott says:

    Nick –
    As hoakey as this might sound, some of your very positive energy comes through your loving emails. Love is, indeed more powerful a force than either fear or hatred, and when you post with such generosity I feel, well, LOVED. And THAT always gets my attention. Thanks for being YOU.
    Scott

  45. Grace says:

    Thank you, Nick! What a great idea to give us the “script” for such an important matter! Maybe you could use this idea to help us with other issues? Hope so… Love, Grace

  46. Tara Oatley says:

    How true is when you want to change you are left alone with no support . Thanks Nick
    Tara

  47. Bobby says:

    Nick thank you for sharing these tips. You are really a blessing. I’ve always been a positive person but tapping has made me even more so. Offering these tips for free is so much appreciated not only by me but I would say many others too. Finances is a big struggle right now in this economy. Again thanks from the bottom of my heart!!!

    Bobby

  48. Hi Nick, I’m so glad to hear from you again and even happier to receive such refreshing meditation. It teaches me that “change doesn’t come isolated”. All is related and, change is no exemption. Therefore change will produce effects. Having this present, helps me flow with other’s reactions instead of confronting them. It helps me opening my mind even more to a broader understanding of others and myself as well as to be patient and active with them and myself. This is a “kick in” to fun and real change.
    I also want to tell you that I miss the intensive and supportive contact of the 7 week course. The experience was so emotionally nutritive that it made a nice fingerprint in my heart and whenever I need it I recall it to lights my mood I’m going over all the material; I keep tapping and evolving everyday. Thanks again. Hope to hearing from you soon,
    Myriam

  49. Brenda says:

    Thank you Nick,.The fact that you are willing and able to reach out to all of us who need your “Tapping guiding light” for our healing is just so special to all of us.. My life coach and I are working on my healing and I am so lucky to have you also in “my corner”.Please take my thanks to heart, use my thank you to help you know, you are making a difference in people’s lives. You are important in the saving of lives. Honor that Nick. Thank you, Bj

  50. Marie says:

    Thanks Nick, I have already posted. I realise I didn’t say thanks to everyone involved for bringing this to the world. A better place for knowing all this. xoxoxo

  51. Marie says:

    Wow, this is really good. I am amazed at what I came up with as to why I didn’t feel safe to change. I didn’t want my partner to feel abandoned, like I had felt abandoned. My family husband and children toId me I was selfish back in 1996 when I started to do things that were MY interests, to return from being a mother and wife while still working fulltime to something that was about me. The judgement I felt. Wow, I can now release all of that and let them find their way. Communicate what I am going to be doing so there is no mystery. Listen and observe them and myself – to grow and become more of who I am, that amazing person that I truly am.

  52. Lisette says:

    Thank you so much for this one. It’s exactly what I’m facing now. People around me don’t like the change I’m trying to accomplish. Taking better care of myself and being more confident is not their benefit. I didn’t understand the way people respond to my hard work but this is a real eyeopener. I will sure keep on tapping that one! Love all the way from the Netherlands.

  53. Linda says:

    Like many here today, this email is just what I needed. People face changes daily and miss the desired encouragement or support from others. This post comes as a reminder to me to be a spectacle of light even when it seems I am the only one beaming, and to continue improving myself to have a fulfilled life.

  54. Sherrie says:

    Thanks so much for these tapping emails. They’ve been so helpful for me personally. Change is not coming easily. Not so much because I’m not fitting in, but more because I’m still making the same mistakes over and over. It’s beginning to feel like my mind is running the show regardless of the tapping. It seems to work for a while and then I’m back to OCD thinking habits. Is this pattern of thinking more difficult to break though with tapping, or is it perhaps how I’m doing the tapping? Or perhaps I’m not being patient enough with the results? Sometimes I feel so calm and peaceful, while at other times I feel completely overrun with OCD destructive thinking. Thanks for listening. Peace

  55. Kathy says:

    Very intuitive as you can see we needed this. Clearing the way for our expansion and ability to pass on the healing. In love and light, much thanks for what you do to shift the planet.

  56. Sandy says:

    Thanks for the article, have fear about changing, just what I needed.
    Take care

  57. Françoise says:

    Thank you Nick, I do feel supported now.. It made me cry. Thank you.

  58. Sheilah says:

    I really appreciate receiving your tapping scripts. It really helps me get out of knowing the right thing to say, and the fact that it is all for free is a gift that I am so grateful for.

  59. Suzanne says:

    Just to say a huge thank you.
    I love receiving such positive e-mails, they are so inspiring.
    Suzanne

  60. Barry says:

    Hi Nick, I have been following Carol Look for a few years now and part of my problem is tapping with frequency or everyday. I have been out of work for eightteen months and I do see the benefits of tapping but time seems to be in short supply.Your script was very timely as sometimes topics don’t always come to mind when tapping but today you were on the mark!Change has always been a hard experience for me from childhood because I was expected to be obedient even when I was correct in the decisions I made.Long story short I was molested as a child by a relative whose spouse threatened my mother that I would be hurt if I told.My relationship with my was toxic from that moment until she passed in ten years ago, I had buried this incident in my subconscious back then but the incident returned to me in a dream two years after mother’s death.I did seek and get professional help and have tapped on this situation and feel more congruent.I blamed myself then for what had happened but I also had a pressing issue at the same time.I wasn’t a bad student(C) but wanted to be better but did not get the support I needed to excel – just criticism at report card time but no help was offered. I had so many doubts about who I really was.This made me feel as if I was a burden to my family.Even when I did make the honor roll I was never acknowledged, so it seemed to me I was never going to get any support from my parents and that was hurtful.This tapping exercise is spot on and I plan to start using it everyday!I am going to modify it a bit but thank you so much for striking a nerve I have been unable to confront.

  61. Marni says:

    Thank you, thank you for publishing exact words and phrases with positions! So meaningful and helpful!

  62. Ludmila Hamalcik says:

    I started emideately. It feels great and I cant wait what hapen from now on!

  63. Joni says:

    Thank you so much Nick! That was awesome!

  64. Vesna says:

    Thank you!!! For me this was the right message at the right time!!!

  65. Adriana Gómez Pimienta says:

    Hi Nick:
    Thanks for this tapping of change, is really amazing the thing that you can do when you let go the fear to change or to be diferent the tapping is wonderful.
    Thank you

  66. zahra says:

    Thank you very much for your nice, explicit, exact information.I feel that you care alot about us and it`s excelent.I appreciate this because you and your team answered all my requests.
    best regards

  67. Alfreda says:

    Hi Nick,
    I met you in NY at an Omega Workshop. This is just what I needed as I am changing direction in my career. Not sure what I want to do, but grasping at many things. Sometimes I don’t feel supported. The tapping words really resonated with me. Thank you.
    Alfreda

  68. Sue says:

    Excellent session, I have very much been stuck in a bubble! Working my way to freedom so others & I can accept my changes without fear!
    Thanks
    X

  69. Meredith Paddock says:

    Your e-mails are very informative and practical to use. I am new to tapping and look forward to your lessons. I have shared tapping with our four children and eight grand-children. This method can be used for all ages anywhere. Tapping helps reduce stress and improve life-style. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.

  70. Malathie says:

    Nick you are a mind reader! This script came right on time. Thank you so much. My regards to Jessica and Alex too:)

  71. Kathy Siuda says:

    It is nice to have specific words to help us learn. Thank you..

  72. Yara says:

    Thanks a lot Nick for sharing this. I am a fan of tapping. It always works. I am so happy I found you and tapping.

  73. Russ says:

    Eye-opening; AHA; Nick, I have to tell you, the insights you bring to personal development are truly astute and astounding. You are making a huge difference in this man’s life. Thank you!
    All the best from Toronto,
    Russ

  74. ernestine byerly says:

    I like your tapping subjects. Could you do one on weight lose. i need that but don’t know exactly what to say. Need help.

  75. Vanessa says:

    Thanks I’ve needed that tapping.
    I’ve been in change mode for almost the entire year.
    All the changes for a more positive life (wanting to move a head and get a better job)
    Been in same company for 12years and it has definitely run its course. My next chapter needs to be located. :) I am with GREAT hope that this tapping you just provided can help me find my change before all of my positive juices are drained. Thank u thank u!

  76. Anne Ruttan says:

    Nick – I enjoy all your e-mails and helpful advice. In order to encourage and help people who are stressed and fearful, You give of your knowledge and insight unstintingly and it is very much appreciated by me. All your e-mails are saved in a folder. The step-by-step instructions are a really good guide on how to proceed through the tapping sequence to improve ones life. Thank you very much….Anne

  77. Abby says:

    Hi Nick, thanks for sharing and teaching us new techniques to improve our life.
    Abby

  78. francine says:

    This last email on change is really great. I allowed my self to shape it for my specific need. I am not so concerned with others perception about my changing as the internal fear of not being safe,being more alone, having to do more things alone, accepting my own authority and autonomy. Wow so much attachment is evident here.
    What I am trying to change is my discomfort about driving. Thanks for all of your work. Now I will get to work.

  79. Dawn Anne says:

    Thank you, Nick, for your timely message. It is so true that change in me affects others; my observation is that it threatens them. I’m so grateful that the session was right there in the email; the dialogue and questions provided eliminated any confusion as to how to actually do the session!

  80. Marguerite Caron says:

    Thank you for the tapping scripts you are sending.
    I am very grateful.
    I had stopped tapping – not feeling up to it!
    Comment by Marguerite

  81. Faisal says:

    Thank you
    I Just have read your STRONG, POWERFUL & USEFUL TIPS & COMMANDMENTS
    I WILL try My Best to Follow These Stips to make the CHANGE HAPPEN,
    Thank you again, with Best Regards And Compliments
    Faithfuly Yours
    Faisal

  82. Merry says:

    Hi Nick, Thanks so much for keeping me on your list. It’s still hard for me to think of my own tapping words, and yours help. The audio parts certainly help more because I can’t read the script without glasses, and I find myself tapping my glasses frequently! :))
    Everything helps, & I’m glad to feel that I’m still part of your group. Thanks.
    Merry

  83. Julie says:

    Thankyou so much ,Nick ,for today’s post ! What a reief it was to realise that I am not the only one struggling with other people’s hostile reactions to my attempts at change ! Now armed with a new tapping protocol, I feel better eqipped to handle whatever comes next !,

  84. Ann says:

    Hi Nick, Thank you for this tapping round. It would be nice if the tappingscript were to be put in a PDF-downloadable-form as well. Easy for a quick print and hang it up and do it a few
    times a day. Thank you. Ann

  85. Fran Friel says:

    Excellent change script, Nick! Thank you so much.

    Your continued generosity and your honest style of teaching and communicating has had a profound effect on my own thinking and my heart–a deep change has occurred for me. I will forever be grateful for your kindness.

    -Fran

  86. Jan Loomis says:

    change is always challenging, isn’t it? Thanks for this lovely tap. You are a fountain of wisdom.

  87. Where are my manners?…..Thank you Nick and the Tapping Solution and I am very grateful!!!

  88. OMG!!!! I so needed this today!!! One of my friendships is struggling due to some of the changes I am working to make. And I tapped on it to get some answers and here is this email in my inbox!!!! Just wonderful!!!! I love this!!! :)

  89. Linda says:

    I appreciate these messages popping up now and then wiht a tap along, as they often hit “a nerve” that I didn`t know I had. What I mean by that, is it brings up emotions that I consciously didn`t know I had an issue with. Thanks.
    And if you are Jessica`s ONLY brother congratulations on the up coming nuptials.!

  90. soraya says:

    Thank you for this fantastic tapping!

    I just done it and my fear of change is gone!!!!

    Thank you again!

  91. Louise says:

    Right on. Wonderful tapping. I will send the information to my friends and family.

  92. Ron Knight says:

    Nick, I think your emails will continue to help people who receive them. I wonder if you realize the impact you are having on people’s lives. Your unselfish, ongoing efforts set a splendid example for the rest of us to give of ourselves to our circle of influence…people everywhere just need a healing ‘tap’.

    Thank you!

  93. Teri Azar says:

    Perfect timing today..exactly what I needed! It is amazing. Thank you. Teri

  94. Chris says:

    Thank you Nick. The phrasing is helpful. I just lost 20 pounds after making a few small changes to my diet and exercise. I was a fat gluten free vegan. I gave up French fries, and sodas, plus added a few extra miles to my walks. I also stopped using free oils like olive oil. There is a myth that they are healthy, but they are really just liquid fat. Try giving it up for a month and you will see.
    I was happy to see the explanation about how people react when you get healthy or lose weight. I have been surprised by how much negativity and lack of support have surfaced in others. It was not a result that was anticipated. In the process of achieving my health goals many emotional challenges have emerged like suddenly feeling alone. Being healthy is good, but in a world of unhealthy people, it does make it alienating. There are lots of reasons to be healthy, but people who are still unhealthy might act happy while really being resentful or jealous.
    For anyone out there who has felt the same loneliness and isolation from being brave enough to change, you are not alone. A new breed of counselors and coaches exists to discuss the challenges that come with getting healthy. I have just completed a 12 month holistic health coach training program. I studied techniques to support people to make the transition to better health. Aside from the food we eat, there are lots of things that feed us. Personal relationships are hugely important to good health.
    It feels great to be healthy, but a bit scary and lonely to be so isolated from those around me. It would be both exciting and frightening for me to work together with other people who have transitioned to better health and increased happiness. In honor of my recent accomplishments, combined with the emotional freedom tapping allows.

  95. Thanks Nick,
    Just when I needed a kick start, this e-mail came through. It reminded me to get back to tapping and used a subject I needed to hear. I appreciate the contact and support.
    Penny

  96. rocio says:

    I love it your mail… sometimes I feel that I don’t believed it any more that changes can happen, and when I received this mails I remember that I have to tried hard!
    Thank you so much

  97. Maureen Joy says:

    Thank You, I loved this tapping session on change with the dialogue to guide us in this challenging area. As a trauma survivor, I have noticed that for me this is a constant barrier to tackle as change for the better brings up things for those around me who are not as eager to embrace and deal with. Seeing all the comments reminds me I Am Not Alone.
    maureenjoy.com/Healing Journey

  98. Cathie says:

    Thanks Nick its always great to get a reminder to do what I need to do….

  99. Maria says:

    Hi Nick

    I loved this tapping session on change and although partially shocked by the results I also loved doing it! It turns out fear of how others might react was not my biggest issue. Being safe was. I also realized how important assuring respect from others was; so much so that on some issues I forgot to respect my own needs and my own nature! That was a shocking but very liberating revelation : )

    So thank you for this window to awareness and change and for your inspiring tapping lessons : )

    have a brilliant day
    MariaK.

  100. Camille says:

    This e-mail was so exactly what I needed it’s downright eerie. I recently became aware of my fear of change which was confirmed when I took Carol Look’s quiz and I’ve been working on it ever since. As always I wonder if I’m saying the right things and even though your phrasing was global it resonated with me and let me know I’m on the right track with my own personal tapping. I really like that you put a tapping session right there in the e-mail. Thanks for this and all the work you do!

  101. Julie says:

    What EXACTLY is tapping please explain Thank you julie Ling

  102. Ruth Colby says:

    basically allowing oneself to change…..
    do I have to know what the subconscious fears are that keep me from change or can I release them without knowing exactly what they are? I imagine my subconscious knows…..

  103. Thank you Nick. I have been using the tapping technique to help myself and others since 2006 and I am so grateful to be continually inspired by your work. Change can be a biggie for most of us and what I try to remind myself and others is that we cannot know how what we do will affect others. We can only trust that if change is in service of ourselves and our highest good then the impact upon others will be ultimately beneficial.
    Keep up the good work.
    Love and Light,
    Angela Worthington

  104. Mary says:

    I just started hearing about tapping, but really did not understand how it could change you. I was at the library and looked up tapping and they had your dvd. I watched then had my grown kids watch it and we all were very surprised about it. We all do the tapping each day, not together but when we feel the need. I have yet to get ahead of my money situation. I have been a single mom for 20 years and I always struggled. I am really hoping this will work and unclog any clog’s that I have. I also do the Chakra with Carol Tuttle. I started with meditation that lead me to Charkra’s to Carol Tuttle and now to tapping with you. Thank you for all you do to help people to learn and grow and become unstuck in their lives.

  105. Suzanne says:

    This has already happened to me. I am changing for the better…fast. And I am getting minimal support from family and friends. But it’s not stopping me. I am convinced that those I am supposed to reach will be reached. The rest aren’t ready.

  106. Dorothy says:

    Thanks Nick. This was one hundred percent on target for me today, and it really helped me to understand the discomfort that surrounds my “coming to awareness” life changes. Tapping is the way to release it and move forward with greater clarity!
    I have the sense that it’s really best to say little and respect their life choices too, … they will inevitably see the differences.

  107. Lois says:

    It was perfect timing for me to receive this by email! Thank you so much!

  108. Elaine says:

    This really hit home for me. I can’t tell you how many times, I’ve been “discouraged” by others’ behavior when I’ve made some positive changes. Some responses have been downright hostile and it has become easy to associate change with pain and suffering. Great tapping protocol. I will use this often. Thank you.

  109. Fern says:

    I did make changes to the way I eat. But now I feel ostracized by people who don’t understand why I won’t eat their food. I don’t go to church socials any more. I would have to interview the maker of each dish to find out what they used and how they prepared the food. My m-i-l gets upset when I won’t eat something she considers healthy – as though I am judging her food choices. I am just tired of feeling this way. Thanks for the script.

  110. Fran says:

    Thanks. I used this for a work situation and felt
    tremendous releasing of fear and resistance. And then
    came the joy and clarity that is my natural state
    of being.

  111. Laura says:

    Thank you for sending this directly into me inbox. I have so many areas of my life that I want to tap on and i don’t. With this coming directly to me I took the time to tap on it and felt better afterwards. Please continue to send me the words to use and the questions to think about it helped me so much to just stop and do it. Thank you for all that you do.

  112. Mari says:

    Today is my Birthday and I feel like this tapping session was sent just for me. I have been preparing for a new chapter in my live since the instant of my conception and am ready to see the change I was meant to experience. Thank you very much!

  113. Damaris says:

    Thank you so much: as always your tapping sessions come at the right moment. Yes, sometime is more about not wanting to change as we are scared about other people reaction than not changing because of us. So scaring but so simple… As I heard some days ago we have to learn to stand on our own. Kind regards.

  114. Rósa Alexandersdóttir says:

    Thank you! I really needed this tapping. I have tried again and again to change my behaviour and my thinking but always end in the same donwgrading thing again I hope it stops now and I can be who I want and have always wanted

  115. Pat says:

    Thanks Nick! That was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I was thinking about a change that I need to make in my business and wondering how to make it stick…… easy to do for a month but permanently? Not so much. I think this tapping will help me go forward with confidence!
    Thanks so much!

  116. Denise Trottier says:

    Thanks soo much,Nick, for all these tapping formulas, it’s so great to have the wording which is often the handicap for me…these make me confident that I’m doing it right…How about wording on weight loss now!!!God Bless..
    Denise Trottier.

  117. shabana firdaus says:

    Dear Nick thxs a lot tapping do wonders for me and ur this recent lesson help me a lot to deal the people who are not accepting my change thxs !

  118. julia says:

    So far Nick,I have joined in some of the tapping,and can see how effective it is.Thank you and jessica very much.,cheers,julia Your emails are very welcome and helpful,and when time is right for me I can do more

  119. Cyndee says:

    Thank you!!! So simple, yet so powerful . I am loving the tapping

  120. Anna Richards says:

    Thanks Nick. just what I needed right now. as usual. Love & light, Anna