Oh… the many times, in my personal journey of growth and development that I thought…
“If (fill in name of your friend/family member/colleague) would just do (fill in name of the modality/supplement/seminar/book), then their life would be so much better!”
Have you had similar thoughts? Of course you have, because you care about those you love. You are on the cutting edge of exploring information that changes lives, and you just want more people to know this life-changing information, to make better choices, to find more happiness, joy, health, and abundance.
But I learned a lesson many years back that’s encapsulated in an old saying…
“You can lead a horse to water… but you can’t make it drink.”
It’s been my personal experience that the best way I can help others is to:
A. Do my own work first – BE the change!
B. Share with passion and enthusiasm, but WITHOUT attachment to the outcome – i.e. whether the horse drinks or not!
And there’s actually a Tapping process that I’ve used to support that path, called “Surrogate Tapping”.
Now, I often think Surrogate Tapping is slightly misunderstood, in that people think, “Oh, I can just tap for someone else and FIX them,” – i.e. “I can make that horse drink!”
Whereas, I believe the real power in Surrogate Tapping is to first help us clear our own emotional attachments, stress, anxiety and overwhelm about the situation, person, or challenge. What I’ve found to be really exciting about doing this is that when we do our own work first, THEN THE MAGIC HAPPENS.
I can’t fully explain it, but I’ve seen it again and again in my own life and in those who have done this process.
So if there’s a situation you’re struggling with, if there’s a person who you love that you are stressed out and anxious about, if there’s someone you want to help…
Then take a few minutes to try this free Tapping Meditation.
Watch this short video with my sister Jessica explaining the process, and then use the 16-minute meditation below:
Press Play Below to Listen to the Surrogate Tapping Audio
Right Click and “Save” Here to Download Audio
Right Click and “Save” Here to Download the Surrogate Tapping Transcript PDF
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Hi Jessica and Nick. How very thankful I am for tapping! I was quite calm when receiving the news of breastcancer that I have. I tapped a few times and I am soooo peaceful and there is no stress. When I thought of Chemo I was down a little bit and I tapped for that and became calm. I was peacefull when I had to go and see the oncologist. What a surprise and what a joy when I heard no chemo, only hormone pills, surgery and some radiation. I can hardly believe how calm I am! We look after our grandchildren after school and it is wonderful just to be so calm and NORMAL.Tapping has helped me in many ways and I am so thankful that I could do it in this big and serious matter – CANCER. God bless. Annegret, Rustenburg, South Africa
Thanks so much Jessica, that was beautiful, calming, positive and very effective.
This was very helpful, and it resonated with my belief that in order for ‘your’ student to flourish, instilling belief in their ability to do X opens them up to success and a sense of competence and ownership.
Thank you !
The Financial Whisperer
Los Angeles
Thank you so much for sharing this meditation. It helps me to help a beloved aunt who is ill and is 10.000 km from me…
Hi Jessica
I have tried to download the surrogate tapping but unfortunately i am unable to do so.
Any suggestion would be helpful Thanks
This meditation is truly amazing. I felt so peaceful when I was done. Thank you Jessica!!
Just found this magnificent tapping session. thank you. feel renewed.
i will return often.
my granson appears to have aspergers syndrome. he is a very intellengant boy but does not have a friend in the whole school. he finds it difficult to relate to other children. He is 13 years old. can you help
Jessica,
This is absolutely wonderful, I have pondered how I can be happy and at peace if my family is not. I am practicing reiki and learning much. I think tapping will so add to this experience. I love that I am able to help heal situations.hard when the people you love are still in unrest. This is so beautiful and the exact thing I have been searching for.Is there a way I can get this recording ? Thanks for sharing this and please let me know how to get a copy so I can utilize this daily.
thank you for your work.
namaste, Sue
Beautiful! I felt my heart ready to burst with love. The affirmation for love, peace and light gave me a most calming, assuring feeling. Thank you Jessica
Thank you so much Jessica for your gifts and soothing voice, and having this audio free for whenever it is needed. Loving blessings,
Giselle
Sounds great, however for some reason none of the links are working for me! The “How to tap” PDF, the Audio and Transcript PDF links all present the following error message:
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I’m on a Mac, OS 10.7.5, running Safari 6.0.3. Would be very interested to listen/read if the links get working again! 🙂
Very effectively written post. Very informative to anyone who uses it, including myself. Keep up the nice work! For sure I will take a look at your articles again soon.
This is a beautiful audio. It has helped so much. Keep up the good works.
Hi Jessica, Thank you so much for this audio…..I believe the wonderful positive energy and love you’ve put into it will spend all over the world and help join us all in love. Gur raibh mile maith agat!
Hi Jessica, I am an eft practitioner in Spain and I want to help as many people as possible, is there any way I can help in a big way, becoming involved where it is needed the most ?
I am at present serrogate tapping for my partner who has liver cancer.
Steph
Dear Jessica, after i got cd, next day i practice on Parkinson disis patient ,i noticed emprowement after two repeat tapping, what a miracle, will do until complete medical miracle. Thanks from both of us. Alfreda
Wow! Thank you. That was Beautiful, Jessica, Beautiful. 1 feel released. Am full of flu and pain all over my body but this has just lifted me while working on other people. Thank you…
As i finished that tapping sequence, my body feels like silk. everything is rested and smoothed and i found those words quite beautiful, congruent and innovative. so many intelligent and loving words and phrases that touch everything we might go through in our lives and i feel blessed that i have those words to use over and over and over and also to be able to share them with my dearest and nearest. Thank you so much. Feel so calm and serene. Love and sparkles – thank you xxx
Thank you beautiful Jessica, surrogate tapping is so soothing and relaxing.
I am looking for aileen’s interview on how she cured her cataracts.
can you direct me to it. thanks
Thank you for this beautiful gift. I have encouraged so many to try tapping to relieve their pain and struggles and so many resist. You have provided me with a way to subtly and lovingly help those around me. Thank you.
Jessica, this is a beautiful healing tapping. Thank you so much for sharing your sensitivity and tuning us all in. I feel re-connected to my higher power now, in just those few minutes. Thanks again!!!
Hello Jessica & Nick,
Thank you both so much for all the insights you have been posting, they have created so much positive change in my life which is now radiating out to others. The name Ortner is so rare in Australia, it feels great to connect to common roots in such a healing way! Many many thanks Jessica for this incredibly powerful process that I am using to heal my relationship with my son. It is perfect and profound. Love and light, Chrissy.
Dear Jessica,
I would like to express my gratitude for your work and in particular this recording of the Surrogate tapping. I feel so deeply moved by it. I have followed you and your guests on the Tapping World Summit, prompted by Donna Eden’s message, and went back to tapping, which I had learned some years ago. For some reason this surrogate tapping audio has touched me deeper than anything else; I hadn’t thought of using tapping in this way. I have had many situations of desperately wanting to help others around me, and the idea that the more peace I could find the more helpful I would be was just beneath the surface. Your audio helped me to break through. I knew the ancient Hawaian ho’oponopono, and I love the affirmations for Love, Peace and Light – but I wasn’t actually sitting and saying them or praying them. Doing this with the tapping gave me a very deep experience, and I know I will do this for everyone I love and want to help – not just for my own wellbeing and success in what I want to do in life – I also just know that for me this praying for others will help me find my purpose. I also understand more clearly the gift I received from a wonderful violin teacher, Kato Havas, creator of The New Approach for string players: her quiet knowing and therefore assurance that it was all in me and I would find the way to give music to others (I’m a cellist and teacher myself). I feel grateful for the difficulties I encountered with stage fright and lack of confidence, which have led me to discover her, and some years later to connect with your work.
Much love, Marianne
Oh, sweet Jessica,
Thank you for sharing your words. And thank you for your part in the recent Tapping Summit. Because I have been tapping many times each day since, a transformative sweetness has begun seeping in through the barriers I’ve erected around my soul. Tears often accompany my tapping, as they have through this Surrogate Tapping session. Thank you, thank you, thank you, dear one. Your words soften and sweeten my own spirit too.
Jessica I am both amazed and gratified that such beautiful feelings have been generated within me, more than I knew I ever had. You truly are an inspiring person.
Thank you,
Bill
I have used this time and time again since it first came out. I just referred it to someone on FB this morning as I have done multiple times before. This is one of the most powerful energy movers I have experienced and my gratitude to you for bringing it to us all.
A recent personal story…just a simple one but this was what I used. My daughter had a sore throat (again) and was feeling very poorly and I felt extremely helpless…I always feel that way when my kids get sick. I settled in and began this tapping as I knew the energy was held in me as well as her. She started to feel better that day but was still fighting it. She went to sleep that night and woke up good as new. It was truly amazing.
Love to you…Jessica and Nick…the work you do is touching many lives and that is a wonderful, wonderful thing.
Thank you, Jessica, for your kindness, generosity and skill. As you can tell by the date of my comment, your gift is continuing to find it’s way to those in need of your guidence. The timing of this was so fortunate for me and my family. My heartfelt thanks go out to you.
The surrogate tapping is so profound and Jessica is a Master or Guru as we would term it in India. I felt so liberated helping people I love and it also on one occasion left me in tears.
Dear, dear, Jessica, with your surrogate tapping I really felt such emotion; that it was not only helping my daughter’s situation, but also mine, to bring love and light to everyone around me, . I am really grateful for this. I’ve been trying to find tapping for someone else and knew you showed it to us before. Thankyou for revealing it to me at this time. Jean
My love was linked to fear, I was afraid of my sadistic parents. Now that I forgive them, I can connect my desire to get love, not from incomplete parents, but from a loving universe. Now I can break the vicious circle. My goal is to give my son love without fear.
Jessica, thank you! Your work is a blessing to many people – me included! That’s the most beautiful tapping yet. I love it, and am a believer that love is God’s miracle.
Thanks so much for this one. I like that it is equally healing for the person tapping and helps manage the tapper’s own tendency to project onto others what they think they should be and how they should feel. I can use this with so many of my clients who feel guilty and inadequate, feeling they haven’t done enough to ‘save’ their parents/partners/siblings etc.. It can also be used in adjunction with (a modified version of ) the Projection Tapping Script for relationships by Sasha Allenby. I can also imagine that letting go of one’s own need to ‘heal’ the other person can often create a shift for the other person all in itself.
Wishing you all the best in your respective new locations and a successful year 2012.
Cheers
Denise
thanz so much love it…jessica can you tap on past life trauma? hugs cariell
Dear Jessica,
this was just what I needed. My boyfriend suffers from severe depression and it is so hard to see him suffer and not be able to reach out to him. Sometimes I am so exhausted I don’t know how to give love anymore. This has brought me back to my resources. Thank you very much. These words were just what I needed to tap on to get back on track and find new hope without being too controlling. I am very grateful.
Love, Verena
Thank you, Jessica and Nick!
What a beautiful treasure!!! Everyone can use this all the time!
VERY POWERFUL
Dear Nick,
I have just completed the 30 day tapping challenge you talked about last month. I have been self-healing my past using various energy techniques and it has developed into a new healing method. In the 30 days of tapping daily, 15 min. I received a crucial piece of info that enabled me to clear almost everything in 3 days. This week I felt an energetic transformation in every cell and my heart space, no longer filled with fear,anger and sadness, is now huge and filled with a swirling energy of incredible self love and happiness. Thank you so much for your emails, tapping was definitely the icing on the cake of an incredible journey to being me! Warmly, Jenni
I never know what to say!!!!!! i want to eat less sugar but i done know what to say. i have seen many videos but i still don’t know what the hell to say while i am tapping so i don’t do it.
Dear, dear Jessica, thank you so much, you were my answered prayer this morning. First, I said I didn’t have time to do this, I have to get going. And then something inside me said, ‘listen’. With that being said, there is so much weight lifted from me, so much love inside me, I have tears of joy, I know today is already the way it is suppose to be, the way I designed it. Thank you again, Love Jan
Jessica that was just profound & come just at the right time with a situation my husband & I are going through. I just love the last piece about the Peace, it just seems to cement it all together
Thankyou for the work you do & share so freely with anyone who cares to listen
Blessings
Felicia
Dear Jessica, I was so stressed this morning and I had the feeling not being able to cope by myself. I took the time to listen to your beautiful soft voice and I felt calmness and peace within me. I felt this confidence that everything will be alright and that the Light is taking care of the subject of my worries. Now I can let go and don’t have to control anymore, everything will be fine. Thank you so much, what you do is so valuable to me and the world.
Laughter and a big smile to Buenos Aires, Klara
Thanks for reminding me in such a beautiful way of the Divine Love, Peace and Light that we inhabit. I forget so easily and then reside in stress and anguish. I so need to cultivate this consciousness……
BEAUTIFUL BEAUTIFUL HEALING WORDS….SO POWERFUL AND SO WORKSXXXX
I have shared this with so many people and they love it. I was wishing there was a PDF file to download so that I could also use it when doing meditations with people who have had strokes as they need to have slow speech to absorb it all. Blessings, Fern
Dear Jessica,
From the first day you posted this surrogate tapping exercise I was hooked! And, like now, I am so happy to go back to it (and so grateful it’s still up :O))) when something comes up that surrogate tapping is the only appropriate thing to do. What a deep and lasting gift you have given us. May you continue to be blessed as you bless us with your magnificence. Thank you x’s 1000.
Namaste
Hi Jessica
The world is a better place with you in it – I thank you for this tapping experience. I listened to it last night with my partner. I certainly feel clearer today. I’m sure there is much more to learn from continueing to use this CD.
Much greatness to all
Suzanna, Melbourne Australia
VERY BEAUTIFUL. IT IS BOUND TO BECOME A CLASSIC IN THE ANNALS OF TAPPINGDOM.
Thank you so much Jess. It was absolutely beautiful! You are so full of love and it really comes through in the audio. When you pour out as much love as you do, you can’t help but get it back. I love you and I hope we meet someday. Let’s just say we will. So glad I’m on Nick’s list. I would have missed this. I’m going to use it as much as I can. Thanks again Jess.
Much love,
Brian.