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Grief…
We’ve all experienced it in some way and we’re sure to experience it again…it’s part of the ebb and flow of life…
But sometimes it seems like too much to handle.
Whether you are experiencing some current grief from a recent loss, or have a past experience that you don’t think you’ve fully resolved, this audio is sure to change your life.
Last week, Jessica conducted a beautiful, informative, powerful interview on how to use Tapping to process grief with Carol Look.
It was meant to be a Tapping Insiders Club exclusive, but so many people have asked for information on this subject, that for the next couple of days, it will be available to everyone.
Block out the time to listen to it right away. It’s that important.
Nick Ortner
Here it is:
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AS ALWAYS I LOVE TO LISTEN TO CAROL. SHE ALWAYS KNOWS THE RIGHT THING TO SAY. CAROL SEEMS TO BE SPEAKING RIGHT TO ME. CAROL IS A BLESSING TO ALL US TAPPERS. I WOULD LOVE TO GET AN MP3 OF THIS INTERVIEW. I KNOW THIS WILL COME UP MANY TIMES IN MY LIFE, AND ALL OF US. JUST A THOUGHT….
THANK YOU FOR THIS OPORTUNITY TO LISTEN…BLESSINGS AND LOVE…..GAY
Comment by GAY HERGERT — July 13, 2010 @ 3:34 pm
Thanks for this with all my heart. There is so much grief and we don’t even realize – just trying to keep standing up. We really need this. I see more and more people are going through so much change, grief, death in one sense or another. Especially radical changes. This is good for what is going on all around. We never know when we look at someone – just what they are under right now. Carol Look was so compassionate. We somehow need to care for ourselves …. and nurture just like we would our children.
Comment by Mary Ann Moss — July 13, 2010 @ 4:13 pm
Dear Carol, Jessica, Nick and everyone else at The Tapping Solution,
Thank you so much for sharing this interview. Grief is a natural part of the cycle of life and having valuable tools, like those taught in this interview, are essential.
God bless you all.
Amanda
Comment by Amanda — July 13, 2010 @ 4:35 pm
Its not working would love to hear it thanks Anallia
Comment by Anallia — July 13, 2010 @ 4:48 pm
Another excellent piece of work by all involved. thank you so much for sharing : )
Comment by mil — July 13, 2010 @ 4:49 pm
I found this interview and the tapping very helpful. I separated from my husband 4 years ago. But I still miss him and all the family things we no longer do together. I miss being a wife and having the family home that our children would have gathered in with their friends. I am saddened by the fact that we wont see our granchildren together.
I am trying to rebuild my life in a different part of the country. And at times it has been difficult. Living alone is sometimes hard too. But we are stronger than we think. And with a little support from those around us, (namely you lot with your tap alongs) it has been made easier. And manageable.. Thank you .. All of you.
Comment by Shirley — July 13, 2010 @ 4:52 pm
very valuable
Comment by marlowe — July 13, 2010 @ 4:58 pm
Thank you! I will be forwarding this link to several of my family members who are grieving the death of my 17-year-old nephew in a tragic car accident on the day he was to graduate from high school. It will hopefully help ease the depth of the pain to everyone (including me) that is dealing with the loss and many other layers of tragedy in the story.
Comment by Betty Mahalik — July 13, 2010 @ 5:02 pm
Thank you Carol and Jessica! As I write my own book about loss…I was totally blessed by your interview today! I work as a professional clown doing what I call being a “joy spreader”…in spite of years of many losses from deaths to divorces…career losses..etc. etc. …my mission is to be an encourager. Losing my husband and clown partner 34 hours after we renewed our wedding vows on our 15th anniversary …on his deathbed…has resulted in finding myself broken hearted and grief stricken beyond any previous loss. I attempted to move back to the U.S. from more than 3 decades in Canada since my husband’s family decided to “drop” me after he passed. That added more grief and loss. Even though I am in lovely new surroundings..near extended (but busy) family…I still feel overwhelmingly alone and isolated. When the announcement of your session came on e-mail today I knew it was a “gift” delivered on the right day. Physical ailments have cropped up, guilt, questioning in spite of knowing there are no answers, all of your descriptions are so true! I went back to clowning 5 weeks after he died…but…I will never be the same again. Starting my 4th year is different…I cry less…but I still need to cry…and I have lost many friends who admit they cannot “watch” me go thru this long process. I am reconsidering my move since I am even more isolated and lonely in my new location. Many things to consider…and I will keep on tapping and writing my “therapeutic” poetry and stories and believing I can continue to move forward even when I feel stuck. Bless you and Thank you for your candid and truthful sharing.
Comment by Jana Lapel — July 13, 2010 @ 5:17 pm
Firstly and simply thank you … In Sept 2000 I lost my Dad to cancer and then this year in April I lost my mother after a stroke after already losing her 3 years back to Alzheimer’s.
. One thing I have learned about myself though this journey is after both my parents passing I create and attract chaos in my life 
. With my Dad it was a very destructive chaos, with my mum it has been creating the chaos of putting my life right and changing what I attract in this life. It has been a little crazy at times as many tears flow but I have never walked away with the same heavy load after tapping. Between 2 kids an incredibly busy job and tapping I have addressed many many things but my grief directly as I really didn’t know how without being a mess. This interview with Carol has come at perfect timing for me and as I tapped through opened my eyes to things I need to release and that I can accept myself where I am today .. thank you ..thank you .. thank you … for pointing me in the right direction to face and work through both my losses xxPaula
Really I have two reasons to say thank you, as just prior to my mothers passing I received an email invite to your World Tapping Summit which I decided to attend and purchase the recordings. This in it self opened a whole new world for me and gave me some tools to use during the loss of my mother and since her loss. The events around my mothers loss were hectic and draining and I know I coped better because of tapping, confirmed by my 6yr old telling me on our flight back to Australia from New Zealand that it was one of her best holidays
Comment by Paula — July 13, 2010 @ 5:30 pm
Wow, as I listened to Carol I realized I have been in a state of increasing grieving since 2006. And as more and more losses came such as; house I loved which I had to sell because I become allergic to, loss of a very deep friendship, my father dying, my cat being given away due to allergies, my son moving out and even more, I was just in a state of shock. I had no idea until I listened to this interview that I was in a state of grieving and had not processed the losses. I felt like I had to keep being the tough little soldier. What great timing for me to listen to this, thank you, thank you!
Comment by Monique Gallagher — July 13, 2010 @ 5:44 pm
Thank you Jessica and Carol,
I lost my husband seven years ago… this piece you shared was wonderful.
I felt a deep shift in each of the aspects you addressed and those magical
tears flowed with a sweetness I’m not sure I had felt before… it’s been a
long and difficult journey and this work you share is such a blessing of
healing and revealing …
thank you, thank you, joy
Comment by Joy — July 13, 2010 @ 5:57 pm
Carol Look is always right on. I am always struck by her insight and compassion. I found Tapping after I lost my husband. I know it has been a tremendous help to me in the greiving process. Thank you again for this session.
Comment by Cynthia Radford — July 13, 2010 @ 6:01 pm
Practical, down-to-earth discussion. I learned a lot. Thanks!
Comment by Emily Brown — July 13, 2010 @ 6:05 pm
Thank you. It is of such value. Thank you. thank you.
Comment by Carol — July 13, 2010 @ 6:13 pm
Thank You for helping me realize that it is okay to grieve in the way I need to. Tapping is truely a great way to help myself. Thank You So Very Much!!!
Comment by Joanne — July 13, 2010 @ 6:14 pm
Thank you Carol and Jessica for making this available to so many. My personal grief is multi-layered. In the past 2 1/2 years it’s been one thing on top of another… the loss of a 25 year marriage, a favorite pet, my now 26 year old son has not communicated with anyone for over 2 years then 3 months ago I lost my mother. I’m trying to trust the process and be O.K with this period of my life when I feel very unproductive, like a ship without a sail. I tap almost everyday for various things and I’m thankful to both of you for the many resources you’ve put together. Sometimes I think I’m feeling a global grief…. for the loss of animals in the Gulf and water quality there. Whatever the source of my grief I know tapping through the feelings is going to help. Thank you again so much.
Comment by Nikola — July 13, 2010 @ 6:16 pm
Jessica & Carol did a magnificent job of describing the grief process & how is IS different for each person,etc. Thank you Carol, foe adding that you may feel a little “crazy” because it’s been my experience (in my own as well as client’s grief) to feel like I was “losing it” because NOTHING is ever the same again & we have to re-establish our reference points. This takes time and is in uncharted waters, so to say. Thanks, C
Comment by Charline Sprouse Ph.D — July 13, 2010 @ 6:23 pm
My son died when he was 20. A few years after that I did tapping to help with the feeling of guilt that I was somehow responsible and could have stopped it. Logically I wasn’t and couldn’t, yet the consumming feeling of self hate and the need to punish my self for this was there. After tapping for some time, I woke up one day and discovered that part of the guilt I felt was gone. It was an impowering relief! The areas of painful greif, guilt and shock you covered, are amazing because I feel them, just didn’t identify them. Thank you for a few more keys to unlock the confusion I have felt due to my paralizing sadness. Thank you
noreen
Comment by noreen — July 13, 2010 @ 6:23 pm
What a precious gift this was for me today. Thanks so much for the deep feeling that you understand my grief. Our sweet youngest son years of 5 years old passed away suddenly in Oct. 2008. There are no words to describe my grief. I loved how you shared how it’s ok to feel heart broken and to feel the way I feel and to be myself. I love to feel the truth and to feel faith in God that we are all in His hands. I cried continuously through the whole call and am grateful for this time to be myself and to express the grief I still feel over the loss of my precious son. It has given me insight into how to assist my husband and children through all of our loss. Thank you Carol. It is so true that losing one’s own child is indescribable.
Comment by Penni Eads — July 13, 2010 @ 6:26 pm
Thank you for making this discussion on grief and grieving freely available. It is something that touches all of us. I feel the most important part is to allow it to be- I didnt feel it was ok to allow these feelings to be. So it is such a blessing when someone says it is ok , go with it , allow it to be – wether its days ,weeks , months or years after the loss.
This message touching the hearts who hear it,will in turn touch the hearts of those around them.
So Thank you agian
Comment by bernie — July 13, 2010 @ 6:55 pm
Thank you so much for sharing this interview. I lost my husband 4 years ago and was just having a weird day. I just asked out loud for a little help to come my way and when I opened my email, there was your email just waiting for me. It helped me so much just to hear the words I know and feel about grieving, and to have them validated was amazing. And then to get to tap on them was a gift in itself. Thank you so much for helping me today… in the days and years ahead.
Thank you!
Comment by Kitsie Mauger — July 13, 2010 @ 7:04 pm
I lost my 4-year old son in a car accident some years ago. I truly do not know how I processed the grief at the time. I was numb. Then, a few years later, my father died, I went through a divorce and I lost another son in an accident all within a few months time. What can I say, it gets so multi-layered how does one process it all. An emotional stew of feelings. A lot probably gets buried away to come up and haunt later when triggered. Thanks so very much for this process.
Comment by Margaret Stone — July 13, 2010 @ 7:24 pm
Very special…….thank you so much for sharing this with us.
Comment by Melissa — July 13, 2010 @ 7:33 pm
Hi Nick & Carol …
thank you for this …letting people know its ok to feel deep grief …. and to show it@
love and blessings to you all
PS:- I am an affiliate & would love to share this wonderful interview with my Wisdom Community using my affiliate link .. is there a way I can do this ??
I will still share it, but it would be great to have my affiliate link attached to it as $$s help to keep my website up and running.
Comment by Carolyn — July 13, 2010 @ 7:40 pm
Excellent. I used the material to deal with the loss and confused feeling I am having about necessary challenging surgery. I will miss my memberhship. Thanks Karen
Comment by karen — July 13, 2010 @ 7:45 pm
Thank you for this “Tapping Session” on grief. Even though I’ve tapped often since my mother died in March, it helped greatly to tap while being led and hearing Carol and Jessica’s kind voices saying the phrases. I was able to relate to the guilt and heartbreak phrases and especially the way the body reacts to grief.
Comment by Jen G. — July 13, 2010 @ 7:52 pm
the recording is not working for me either….
Comment by rae — July 13, 2010 @ 7:55 pm
May 10th 2010 I had a total knee replacement, along with the physio, I noticed some aspects of the grief process. Then June 10 2010 my 32 year old son died in an accident, we hadn’t seen him for 7 months and he was a few days from coming home. He left a 10 year old son, a teen daughter, a sister who was like a twin to him, his father, myself and many many people who loved him. This interview came at such a wonderful time for me, I have been going through so many of the stages, guilt and anger are huge for me.
Thank you so much!!!
Comment by Ardonna Hewat — July 13, 2010 @ 8:05 pm
Thanks for letting me work thru one of the worst experiences of my life. I just turned 65 and decided to retire and volunteer in Belize for two years.Well that’s where the good part ends. I was put in jail for what they said I didn’t have proper I.D. which I did . I actually prayed that I would die ! In the end It was the greatest experience I could ever have. I have written 5 parts so far about my experience. So far do not have a happy ending .I need help. I have to let this go and nothing is working. But I have found things to be grateful for. But something is still missing. Still Alive with a void THANKS JIM KASZYNSKI theideaman@netzero.net
Comment by James Kaczynski — July 13, 2010 @ 8:05 pm
This was a very insightful and completely informed lesson on grief and grieving.
Thank you!
Comment by Marilyn Blackston.MD — July 13, 2010 @ 8:14 pm
This was such a glorious lifesaver, as my 64-yr-old husband suddenly and abruptly passed away only five months ago (only 16 days in hospital)…and she is sooooo right, every cell was affected by my loss…he was my love, my heart, my air…I had to be strong for our 3 children and grandchildren, close his law practice, pay all the bills now, deal with everything myself…and while I’m grateful he didn’t have to suffer long, the Universe did make it easy on him and us ultimately no matter how quick it all transpired….so to get this at this phase of my mourning was ideal…it is now that I can mourn him, miss him as before I had to simply deal with what needed to be done…now I can work on my feelings as best I can so I can be more resiliant, happier and not be depressed and count my blessings and to know I’m not alone and there is truly no manual or rules on how to grieve, how long…TAPPING on the shock, the helter/skelterness of it all….has been a godsend…life won’t be the same…life is ever-evolving and I am finding gratitude amongst all the change….Thank You for what you are doing!
As a Holistic Health Counselor it is so helpful to be amongst others who corroborate ways to “appreciate/accept the job I’m doing”!
Comment by Jean — July 13, 2010 @ 8:51 pm
THANK YOU for this interview. It’s been almost two months since my husband died. Although I knew he was critically ill, it was still a HUGE shock when he died. Since then, I have been living as if I were under water. I do what I have to do to move through the day but I really just want to curl up in bed and cry most of the time. It is good to know that my not having a need to “do” something at this time is OK. There are SO many questions and I am gratified to know that NONE of them have to be answered today!
Comment by Estelle C. — July 13, 2010 @ 8:57 pm
Sooooo needed! Thank you for your wisdom, generosity, expertise, and skills. I would love to have this recorded to download to use for myself and my clients. Please advise if it can be downloaded.
Comment by Alana — July 13, 2010 @ 9:02 pm
This was just SO appropriate Nick – the Universe is just working with me at an amazing level right now. And Carol is just SO RIGHT . . . death, loss and grief is just so complicated.
And without going into the story this is going to help me move on . . . . slowly . . . or fast. Whatever is appropriate.
Again – thank you, thank you – ALL.
Especially the bit about playing it over and over . . .
Thank you.
Comment by Leonie — July 13, 2010 @ 9:04 pm
Thank you so much for this amazing talk. I uncovered grief I’d never processed over my own younger sister’s sudden death almost ten years ago. & the tapping work seemed to unlock grief over the Gulf oil spill, as well as over aspects of myself that are dying now because of what are actually positive changes in me and in my life. Loss is loss and sometimes we forget, in our desire to grow, that there are things we may love about certain ways of being that no longer serve us. Maybe my own unwillingness to feel the loss of some of the joys of an old way of life has been delaying the change. After listening to Carol, I know how to allow all the feeling of loss to come & be honored, so I can move with an undivided heart into a new way of living. Thank you all for putting this together and making it available to everyone.
Comment by Deneen — July 13, 2010 @ 9:23 pm
2001 was a hard year for me as well with 3 difficult events – the death of my father, the end of my marriage when my husband moved out and then 9/11. Then just last week my exhusband passed away unexpectedly and I am trying to support our two children through this process while dealing with my own emotions about the man who I was married to for 16 years but who never paid child support and felt entitled to everything and responsible for nothing. This audio is a gift that arrived at the perfect time. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Comment by DJ — July 13, 2010 @ 9:35 pm
Jessica and Carol, Thank you so very much. I lost my mom a week before Thanksgiving in 2009. She had been quite sick for a long time, so I was surprised at the huge sadness that overwhelmed me. I went back to work after three days, and did perform ok on my job. Since I was in administration, I did not have to deal with people directly, so that helped. I did not cry at work, but I did not smile either. Just before Christmas my boss called me in the office and told me “That I had been through a rough time, but it was over now.” Then he, not very nicely, followed that up by saying that he did not want any unhappy people in the office. I left that meeting crying. Three weeks after Christmas I was fired. I have been processing the grief from the loss of my mom and the loss of my job since last holiday season. The way my boss did that, actually made me feel so guilty about grieving for my mom. I was really an emotional wreck. Thankfully I found out about the Tapping World Summit and took the time to listen to all ten days of the audios of the event. That helped me so much. Tomorrow I have an interview and I feel like I can get though it this time, with relative ease. Since I have been tapping I have felt my old confidence coming back. Today’s “gift” of this audio on grief was exactly what I needed. I plan to listen to it again before my interview tomorrow and tap away some of that anxiety I feel from grieving my old career. Your right, my life will never be the same. It will get better!
Comment by Carol Monreal — July 13, 2010 @ 9:59 pm
I am truly grateful for this chance to reconnect with the deep and complex feelings of loss I have experienced over the last 6 years following the untimely death of my wife.
Carol Look’s experience and expert and heartfelt guidance with tapping somehow made the difference for me in re-connecting with the trauma surrounding my personal loss and in helping me to move a further step beyond that loss.
Listening to this audio really helped me tonight.
Thank you Jessica & Nick
Comment by Dieter Ortbach — July 13, 2010 @ 10:17 pm
As usual Carol has done an amazing job at outlining what grief is really like. There is no one recipe for everyone, although understand what the most common stages are is helpful. Carol’s own personal experience is one I can relate to, as I too have lost many loved ones in a short period of time & have experienced extreme grief. Acknowledging the feelings we have is so important to our healing. As Carol says the pain doesn’t ever go away completely but it certainly becomes more bearable. Using EFT in my life is certainly a real blessing & has helped me immensely. Thanks Carol & thanks Nick & Jessica for the wonderful work you do.
Nicole
Comment by Nicole Taylor — July 13, 2010 @ 10:17 pm
Dear Nick & Carol,
I am a believer in tapping though not very successful.
I am so deaf even with hearing aids that videos and audios are incomprehensible to me. I did once cure a very bad headache just by copying the actions on one of the early videos, and having read some cases managed to find the phrases that worked for me.
We lost my beloved son-in-law of 40 years last October, to a second cancerous brain tumour, my daughter, a wheelchair user and deaf too, is bereft, as are all the family, there have been repercussions from nearly three years of stress and enormous financial family problems, still ongoing. We need tapping HELP !
When I read your email re grief and saw that it was audio my heart sunk!
Would it be possible to subtitle the videos and text for the audios?
I’m sure that there are a good many deaf people who would really appreciate that. I have given quite a few people the website address when they confided to me that they had problems, some have told me they are still tapping on anything! I do hope you will be able to help us as you have helped so many others. Thank you for the emails which I pass on to friends and family. God bless you for passing on the knowledge.
Sincerely,
Jill
Comment by Jill Green — July 13, 2010 @ 10:43 pm
Excellent resource! Unfortunate that it will only be available to nonmembers for a few days only. Would love to share with others who have along with me just recently experienced a friends suicide.To early in their process to integrate now. Hopefully we can have continued access if possible. Thankyou so kindly for sharing!
Comment by Holly — July 13, 2010 @ 10:51 pm
Would love to listen to this. Sent the link to a friend who had four people close to him die over the last few weeks. There is no file to listen to. I love Carol Look and the work Nick Ortner is doing to spread the good of EFT. Is there a plug-in program needed for it that I need to install? I would really like to hear this interview because I am in the process of deep letting go and know there is much for me to mourn as I celebrate moving forward with my life. I hope to have access to the program soon. Thanks for all you do.
Comment by Mona — July 13, 2010 @ 11:02 pm
Thank you Ladies! 29 years ago, when I was 21, we learned that my Dad was terminal. His illness and death were swift and painful in a way that I would not wish on anyone. Having found tapping last year, through the 2009TWS, I had focussed on more current issues. This Spring, I took my teenage daughter to see The Last Song and found myself plunged back into the emotions of a daughter’s grief, with tears streaming down my cheeks and choking up as I tried to explain to my concerned sweet girl why I had this reaction. This week, I learned that a former co-worker took his own life, leaving behind his family to try to weave his loss into their lives. The timing of this discussion and tapping could not be better for me, I cried again during it. Yet another item for my LOA gratitude journal. I so much appreciate your sharing Carol, it was much more meaningful because I know that you truly understand. Your words and comments really resonated within me. I know that I will be able to clear the blocks and at last relieve the shock and pain of loss that losing a parent can bring if you don’t allow yourself to weave and process in your own way. Blessings to all of you!
Comment by Anne White — July 13, 2010 @ 11:23 pm
This was so powerful and important. Is ther any way that this can be downloaded to listen to over and over again? I have had so losses in my life that I was never able to grieve and I know it would be very helpful for me to be able to have this to use again in the future to be able to grieve for those losses. I would be willing to purchase an mp3 version of this and I think that others feel the same way. PLEASE consider doing this for the many people who are frozen in their grief. I thank you for this wonderful interview regardless of your decision.
Comment by Susan Myers — July 14, 2010 @ 12:11 am
Thank you Carol, Today was the seventh anniversary of my fathers sudden and unexpected death from undiagnosed lung cancer, even though he was under medical care. The grief just got stuck in me like a heavy undigested meal. So many emotions tearing at me in every direction. The crass betrayal of my sister who was more interested in what she could take and go back to her life. It was so unexpected when I was expecting us to grieve together. It was lonely and I ended up with a massive case of shingles . The physical pain and the emotional pain co-existed together. Its only now that I can step back and look at it and say I’m an overcomer. I’m not the same but I understand myself better and this journey into grief has enlarged my capacity to understand and be a compassionate listener for others. Tapping brings peace to my body. God bless you and many thanks.
Comment by BETTY — July 14, 2010 @ 12:17 am
What a treasure to give. Thank you. My Sweetie passed away one week ago. He had multiple health issues and was in poor physical condition, but the actuality of his death is still hard to deal with. I appreciate the gift of these tools to assist right now when I need it most. Thank You so much. I am so fortunate to have known him, to live at this time when gifts of spirit and the true nature of mankind are emerging. When I deny myself the stupid luxury of self-pity and focus on core essence of who he was, what remains is what a great person he was and how LUCKY I am to have known a man like him.
Kurt 1/16/64 -7/6/10
Comment by Ahntara — July 14, 2010 @ 12:32 am
This is one of the most thoughtful, realistic and helpful discussions on grief that I have
heard. As a therapist of 26 years, I am very grateful for Carol speaking out so clearly and articulately. There is NO one right way. Also, she has helped people understand that
simplyl expressing their concern and sympathy is enough. Also, she’s made people
aware that death is a loss at any age and we should not minimize it because people
are old when they die. Kudos to Carol Look for this talk. As osmeone who works
extensively with forgiveness, there is much of this talk that overlaps with my work
in this area. Robbie Engelmann
Comment by robbie engelmann — July 14, 2010 @ 2:05 am
Thank You! Thank You! Thank You! Jessica & Carol for making this available to us. I lost my daughter to breast cancer and she left behind her 10 yr old daughter and her 7 yr old son. It was so good to listen to the many, many similarities that Carol mentioned. I found tapping just after my loss almost 2 yrs ago and with the help of an EFT practitoner who has become a good friend to me now really helped me to get through it and feel peace.
It is as if Carol was speaking directly to me in this audio. I am so grateful. Everything you said was so good and the tapping too. Thank You again,
Comment by Dolores — July 14, 2010 @ 2:06 am
I lost my wife of 49 years in March of 2009. I can’t think of a greater hell to live through than the one I’ve been plunged into by the passing of my wife. What Carol says about grief affecting one’s body is very true in that I am enveloped by a state of depression that I try to keep off of me by tapping. I feel the exercise has been helpful. Thank you for producing the interview with such a caring and knowledgeable person. Thank you.
Comment by Bob Kono — July 14, 2010 @ 2:22 am
Great information on grief issues and appreciate your candor. Thanks to you both.
As a nurse grief therapist, I did a volunteer audio for http://www.tenmillionclicksfor peace.org last year on the relationship between grief and inner peace. It is posted on my website blog at http://www.ByGraceofMourning.ca under 16 November 2009…Please share this as a gift as well…
My website blog exists to assist and educate the general public about grief.
After many years in this field, and as someone well acquainted with significant loss, I believe grief is at the core of all imbalance in human nature, whether it is caused by the death of a loved one or the loss of innocence for veterans who return from a war zone. Only by true acknowledgement are recognition of the masks we wear will we have hope in finding inner peace as a human species.
Comment by Corry Roach — July 14, 2010 @ 2:24 am
greetings Dear ones,
Thank you so, so much Carol, you really touched my heart with your openness sharing some really sad things. I lost my mother in november 2009 and the things that happened after that was really horrible. My two elder siters started to fight with me over the inheritance and even abused me. There was no time to go slow with emptying mothers apartment and throwing her belongings. Myself I would have wanted to take it slow in order to go through the process, but my sisters could’nt wait to get rid of all of her stuff. To see my mothers belongings, once my home and childhood memories, out on the web on auction, was so painful. Mothers hwole life just wanishing in space, for no money at all. All the things my mother thought was so nice, was sold for nothing at all, just coffeemoney as we say in Sweden. The grief of loosing not only my mother but my sisters and their families, their children, whom I love, was, and is still just devastating for me.
Listening to you helped me understand more of what’s going on in my body. I have had some pretty strange sensations and symptoms going on in my body.
I have had so many feelings that have been so hard to handle, not only grief, but deep hate, resentment, avenge, retaliation. And all of theese absolute “forbidden” feelings have been so hard tapping on.
Not having to say the statement felt really ok, because I really don’t know what to say at times. It allows me to tap anyway.
Again, thank you.
In love and light
Caroline
Comment by Caroline Nielsen — July 14, 2010 @ 3:08 am
Enlightening and inspiring … I had no idea that I had so much grief stored away…. powerful stuff, lots of tears but much relief! Thank you so much for doing what you do!!!
Comment by Marie Phillips — July 14, 2010 @ 3:49 am
Thank you for posting this. I am suffering depression brought on by grief i didn’t even know I was suffering from, or hadn’t thought that what i was going through was classed as “Grief”.
Carol is right when she says it affects everyone differently. It is also brought on by such varied circumstances in peoples lives. I feel i need to listen to this again and do the tapping sequences over & over. I was wondering if there is anyway you could make this available as a downloadable recording or even better do you have a transcript?
Thanks again for your generosity in posting this. i really wonder if you know how many people you help in doing this especially with such an important topic as grief. Nick, you and Jessica have my deepest appreciation.
Comment by Cindy — July 14, 2010 @ 3:54 am
This was very insightful. Thank you very much for sharing. I will use for myself and others. Awesome!! Jan
Comment by Jan — July 14, 2010 @ 4:05 am
Dear Carol, Jessica, and Nick,
A million thanks. My heart is heaped up with the many feelings of lost. When I saw Nick’s email on grief, I knew it was a sign. I tried to tap before, but nothing came. I just lost my Daddy, who was so very dear and close to me. I have gone through two floods, and today I found out that the college I have been studying at is closed without prior warning. I feel like I am sinking and need a life ring. All day I prayed and asked God to help get me through this. When I saw Nick’s email on grief, I knew that this is the life ring. Yes Carol, you are right, grief is so very painful. However, I know that I am going to work this out. Indeed it is a process. I thank you for sharing this with us. I thank you too, Jessica and Nick, for making this available. It has helped, so much. A million thanks to all of you. Thaida
Comment by Thaida Stovall — July 14, 2010 @ 4:51 am
Dear Carol, Jessica, Nick,
Thank you so much for this! One of my closest friends died unexpectedly about 6 weeks ago and I the grief still comes in waves. Shortly after my friend’s death, I also decided to end a relationship once and for all, which was also painful. Since then, I have been having problems focusing, I feel scattered and now my place is a mess too. I’m having problems sleeping, and have gained weight. And everyday I still think about both of these two people who were in my life and are now gone. So Tapping for Grief was exactly what I needed. (I love how the Universe provides!) I didn’t realize that you don’t always need to do a set-up.. just tapping helps. So thanks for that very useful information Carol. I also send my heartfelt condolences to you, and your family, regarding your own personal losses. That goes to fellow readers as well. Peace and Love to all.
Comment by Katie — July 14, 2010 @ 5:13 am
Thank you so much for sharing this interview! It gave me many insights to different issues of grief, and how one often tries to avoid it because one is “supposed to be over it”.
Comment by Kerstin Allemyr — July 14, 2010 @ 5:27 am
Hi Carol, Jessica, Nick,
Thanks a lot for this interview. My mom died when I was 10. (I am 37, fat, single). I was not allowed to cry on that moment. I cried later when i did landmark advance course…. I analysed myself a lot and got that i started putting on weight after my mom died n when i had to take responsibility of my dad, 2 younger sisters (ofcourse my grandma was there) but I lost my childhood. on top of that i had guilt that my mom died because of my wish (my grandma in her frustration had told me once that u mom is not dying n letting us live in peace n she was cranky sometimes though she loved us a lot. so i had wished as a 10 yr old for a peaceful home….) There were times i blame my mom for not being there for me…. I am there for my dad, my sis but who is there for me???? I had blamed her for my fatness also for not being married etc…….
I did all the tapping just now with carol n it was helpful.
Purnima
India.
Comment by Purnima — July 14, 2010 @ 6:57 am
Thank you so much for posting this. I’m going through a very intense process of grieving for different losses in my life that until very recently I have found it very difficult to grieve for. The pain has felt too intense to feel. Over the past couple of weeks I have allowed myself to feel the pain and it has felt overwhelming. When I got your message with the title “grief hurts” I knew I needed to come and listen to what was offered. I wasn’t clear on how to use tapping to help with these feelings of grief, but having listened to this pod cast, I have a much clearer picture of how tapping can help me move through the feelings and not feel overwhelmed by them, or stuck in them. Would it be possible to have a downloadable podcast of this recording so that people who need to can listen and go through the tapping as often as they need to? Thank you again for this wonderful resource.
Comment by Emma — July 14, 2010 @ 7:28 am
Wonderful interview – thank you so much for these insights. I’d just like to add that grief & grieving can occur on many occasions where death is not the issue – for instance it could be the experience of violence or divorce or seperation etc – but all the wisdom & technique & phrases can – and should! – still be applied. Once again, many thanks.
Comment by Caro Eardley — July 14, 2010 @ 8:10 am
Dear Nick, Jessica and Carol,
My son recently lost his best friend to sudden death at age 33. As you state in this interview, there are no words to describe such devastating loss for those left behind. What a timely gift this has been!
Thank you so much.
Blessings to all,
Dorothy
Comment by Dorothy — July 14, 2010 @ 9:30 am
Excellent in-depth discussions of specific tapping processes, breaking down one crucial idea into manageable components.
Comment by Mavis Lloyd — July 14, 2010 @ 9:55 am
Thank you it was great listening to this. I guess for me there is no grife of some one dying but of some one ( my husband leaving me) & althouhg this happened over a year a go I’m still struggeling with heart pain, sadness, anger etc. I still getting over the shock of what happened. So this was helpful. Also 2 people I knew quit well died within the last week & I have been thinking of the fact that life is temporary, & it kind of made me feel sad that really here on earth there is nothing that will last for ever.. or people that will always be there, or anything..so it is good to know & learn how to deal with grife of lose.
Thanks again.
Fay
Comment by Fay — July 14, 2010 @ 12:35 pm
Hi!
Thank you so much for this grief tapping. lost my husband of 42 years 1 1/2 years ago.And you are so right, one never knows when the grief strikes you,but I have learned to allow my tears and it usually only lasts for a minute or two.
I too as many of the other commentors cried during the session, but it was a good cry
Best regards from Norway Hanne Iversen
Comment by Hanne Iversen — July 14, 2010 @ 12:36 pm
Hello Nick, Jessica and Carol,
Thank you Nick, your words of urgency to listen now were valid. Carol’s approach to the process of grieving is healing. I find the information gleaned from this interview priceless and of immense value to me personally at this time in my journey. Wishing you all blessings.
Warmly, Cora
Comment by Cora — July 14, 2010 @ 12:55 pm
Hello Carol, Jessica and Nick,
Thank you so much for making this information available. I have been tapping since the 2010 Summit and because of it I’m continually getting phenomenal relief for my life challenges. I am also aware of ways to share with others who are encountering heavy burdens in their lives. It is difficult sometimes to share with others helpful methods for handling challenges. Some people need to experience the deepest lows in order to eventually realize the highest elevations beyond the trauma.
A man in my work group lost a grandson three months ago and he is really broken. There are some who feel that enough time has elapsed for him to manage this death in a less visiblly weakened way. I understand the process he’s undergoing and know too that no two people experiences grief in the same way.
My spouse ended his life in 2003 and I’ve heard a few very insensitive things from people. You say comments aren’t meant to be intentionally hurtful and I’m sure that’s true for many but for some, they intentionally seek to injure. Things were spoken with seemly great conviction in their accusation and lack of sensitivity. I am sharing this with some of the people in my circle so that we can better understand how to be less insensitive.
Nick, this is so wonderful of you to share. Magnificent on every score!
MEJ
Comment by MEJ — July 14, 2010 @ 1:48 pm
I recently received the news of the death of my ex-husband. He lives in another country so I had to break the sad news to our children and that was the most difficult thing I have ever had to do. Their father lived in another country so they were not able to attend his services. Closure will be challenging. I am grateful that this timely and pertinent tapping session has been made available for those of us who are experiencing this difficult and painful transition. Thank you.
Comment by Cristina — July 14, 2010 @ 2:19 pm
Dear Nick, Jessica and Carol
Thank you so very much for this sharing. Only yesterday I learnt that my beloved pet cat had been run over and killed and I find myself in a place of profound grief. This programme was beyond timely. I have only had one bereavement prior to this so feel so unfamiliar with how to process such deep sadness. I think with pets its even harder to allow yourself to grieve because you know there are some people thinking its only a cat. The programme gave me more permission to express my sadness and the posts have helped me to remember the tears will come in fits and starts – sometimes a minute or two and sometimes longer but whatever it it is its OK and I can handle it.Also what helped was to remember to target the different elements quite specifically and be aware to tap when a trigger to the grief takes places. So once again thank you all.
Comment by Ankhara — July 14, 2010 @ 3:39 pm
Thank you for sharing this interview. I have experienced several deaths in my lifetime of family and friends. I lost all of my grandparents and my favorite aunt by the time I was twelve. My two year old daughter passed away when I was 23, while going through a divorce. We never found out the cause of her death, but it was sudden with out any warning. She called out mommy in her sleep and she was gone. In the past six years my brother , mother and father past away suddenly. I became very ill three years ago, when the moisture in my body dried up – no tears, I couldn’t sweat, no moisture in my eyes, nose or saliva and I would drink liters of water at a time. I couldn’t stand light, noise, sound or smells. I was bed ridden in the dark for almost three months and in terrible pain. I turned to Natural Remedies and Acupunture when four MDs and several Specialists didn’t know what was wrong with me or how to treat me. After discovering BodyTalk and going for several sessions, I learned that the cause of my illness was suppressed grief and feelings of betrayal.
I listened to your EFT conference through Mercola last month and I was able to release several emotions that I had suppressed which were the cause of my illness. When we do not deal with our emotions and try to bury them, they will eventually turn into illness. I always wondered why I frequently experienced colds and flue like symptoms before my illness surfaced.
As I worked through this session today I feel lighter and at peace inside. I have used EFT on a regular basis with Body Talk Sessions and feel the two modalities work very well together. Thank you for opening this session to the public for free. I wrote out all of sessions today so I’ll be able to access them as a guide as needed. Thank you for the good works you are all doing.
Susan
Comment by susan — July 14, 2010 @ 3:47 pm
Thank you…. from my heart…. it helped.
It was very generous of all of you to share this session with all of us.
Peace and Love,
Christine S.
Comment by Christine S. — July 14, 2010 @ 4:29 pm
I loved Carol’s tape about not judging how people grieve. We all do grieve differently. Nor is divorce or being deserted necessarily any easier than the death of a person, in fact, as it usually involves choice on the part of the other person it can seem worse. Lots of what happens to us in life can be devastating…
I have gladly recommended tapping to several people since I first learned about it, about nine months ago, as a tool to help through various crises.
Comment by Anna — July 14, 2010 @ 7:44 pm
THANK YOU!! i didn’t realize just how much I was holding onto. Thanks for assisting me and helping me to release the pain,anger, and the feelings of guilt.
Comment by Linda — July 14, 2010 @ 8:55 pm
To the EFT Staff, I heartily applaud your continuing efforts to help peole heal themselves and this planet. Eft works! For more than 20 plus years, I taught acupressure at a local college and at my own massage school. The electro magnetic grid/field of the meridians/tsubos work! I am very happy to see this form of healing spread to the people, and to their helpers. Comment by Janet
Comment by Janet Y DeVore — July 14, 2010 @ 11:06 pm
Thank you Nick, Jessica and of course, Carol. I’m so glad to see this work in the world and how people are responding. And I’m so grateful that support for the healing and grieving process is available. D.
Comment by Deborah — July 15, 2010 @ 2:21 am
Thank you so much for your generosity in sharing this. I couldn’t believe the timing of this audio, it has helped so much. Carol really hit the mark here especially about guilt and having a broken heart.
Comment by Emma — July 15, 2010 @ 5:32 am
Thank you so much Jess and Carol! It certainly hit home.
Comment by Ulla — July 15, 2010 @ 3:29 pm
Thank you so very much for sharing Carol Look with us on the topic of grief.My adult son died 9 months ago and wow-don’t know what to say-he died-how can that be? i notice that time is differnt for me as in the concept.like somehow i have not been here since he died. i want to escape-food has been my emotion stuffing choice and of course now its a matter of hating myelf for getting so fat…………………..listening to Carol as always was help full and insight full. I would like to know if you not only have the
r ecording available BUT I would love the transcript especially the tapping so I could print it and read & tap with this.
again thank you
Comment by Joy — July 15, 2010 @ 4:14 pm
Thank you so very much for making this a download.
I lost my daughter in a car accident almost a year ago and although tapping helped me a great deal with the whole trauma and related stress I still had to go through an painful emotional grieving process. I found that the grief came in waves. Sometimes almost overwhelming. I can see why some people without tapping as a tool could consider “checking out” just to avoid the pain. Yes, grief certainly does hurt but we can use it as something we can grow from too. How else can we know what someone else is feeling unless we’ve ben there ourselves. All things are lessons God would have us learn.
Bless you Carol, Nick and Jessica for sharing this with the world.
Comment by ellen — July 15, 2010 @ 4:25 pm
Thank you so much for giving us this incredible audio as a download. It will be of incredible value to so many with Carol’s down-to-earth approach to coping with grief. She shows us that we no longer need to carry guilt about not conforming…brilliant!
Comment by Pauline — July 15, 2010 @ 6:04 pm
Thank you for this wonderful piece… my wife and I have been involved with Hospices for many years and are planning on using EFT with these patients. We know that when fear is removed – peace can be restored… With no fear – dying can be a precious experience and a time for the miraculous to happen! As an EFT practitioner I have been very blessed to be able to help people and as importantly – help myself!
Comment by Hank — July 15, 2010 @ 6:09 pm
I think that the process of grieving (in other words, feeling the feelings of grief) is one of the most critical abilities to have as a human and remain healthy. It is helpful to have the time and privacy you may need to just wail—to be insane with grief if you will. (In biblical times people would head into the “wilderness” to grieve.) Tapping may be helpful, but the goal should be to be free to express your grief rather than suppress it. So tapping isn’t a substitute for feeling your feelings, but it may help you come back to yourself faster when you are knocked over by the big waves. Short-term therapy can be useful as well. To really get to the other side, you have to allow the truth of loss have its way with you for as long as it takes. The problem with suppressing grief is that it inevitably recurs in the form of illness or depression.
Comment by Monica Rix Paxson — July 15, 2010 @ 6:55 pm
Thank you for this free opportunity to listen to Carol speak about grieving and the process. While I don’t know what some terms mean (e.g. “Karate Chop” or where this involves…hand on hand, or what), I did pick up the other places and could try to do some “tapping.” I really related to Carol’s lovely words and descriptions of giref and the different stages and acceptance of ourselves and our own individual way of coping and showing grief. It was very helpful to learn that certain comments or statements or comparisons are NOT HELPFUL TO THOSE GRIEVING. I had friends who expected me to “entertain” them and to “keep a stiff upper lip,” when all I wanted was to talk about the person I had lost. I needed to remember them. This was more helpful than any other advice I’ve received. Thank you so very much.
Patricia
Comment by Patricia — July 15, 2010 @ 6:57 pm
Thank you so much for deciding to allow us all to have this as a downloadable recording.
It is such an impactful recording to keep as “Grief” is something that can effect any of us at anytime, many times in our lives for many different reasons so having this “resource” of a tapping expert to follow along to is invaluable. I am hoping it will help me to finally be able to become “unstuck” from my grief and be able to move forward, or look forward, to living my life, instead of just existing, or going through the motions, day to day.
Again, you have my deepest appreciation for your generosity.
Comment by Cindy (Sydney, Australia) — July 15, 2010 @ 8:05 pm
Thank you so much Carol. Jessica, and Nick for letting to download and listen to Grief. When I found my husband dead almost three years ago it was such a shock…I am still going through the process. Your words, dear Carol, and wording for tapping resonates fully with me. I will tap and tap again. I have had some emotional release. and think more will come.
God bless your work!
Comment by Aldona — July 15, 2010 @ 11:36 pm
Dear Nick, Jessica, Carol, and all those who are helping,
I am so deeply grateful, yet again. I was blessed to be introduced to a practitioner with a most beautiful soul who, in turn, immediately alerted me to the Tapping World Summit 2009. I have one particular issue that has been very difficult to uncover, and have been working on it with what seemed like slow but good success. As months have passed, and many distractions, I haven’t been able to keep track as closely with you “guys” lately, but kept the e-mails. This one jumped in my face. I thought– “I don’t really have time” and “hey, I’m doing mostly well – probably don’t need much help – don’t think I really have any grief issues”. Yeah, right. Divine Hand at work. Suddenly, a huge crack has been opened in that one particular issue that seemed “under control” and checked off my list, ESPECIALLY AS OF YESTERDAY. Now, what this little gem helped expose are felt but unacknowledged aspects, which came out like an avalanche. It doesn’t go as well when you try to do too much by yourself, and then you get handed the right answer anyway.
Wow !
Blessings to all of you for the blessings you are bringing to all of us !
Comment by Justin — July 16, 2010 @ 12:06 am
Wow! Thank U, thank U, thank U!!! It helping me a lot. Thank U again.
Comment by Eleaquina (Ellie) — July 16, 2010 @ 1:29 am
Thank you for sharing this recording. I am deeply grateful for being so generous.
Comment by Erika — July 16, 2010 @ 1:45 am
That was really informative and helpful Carol. Thank you!
Comment by DEDE — July 16, 2010 @ 4:43 am
I was very encouraged by the grief tapping. Our son died at age 12 twenty years ago and his birthday was this month. I had some melancholy feelings and just felt sad. I will think I am over it and then something will set me off again. At the time of his death, I found that many people really didn’t know what to say and sometimes I just wanted to talk. I didn’t need anyone to judge either. I found the tapping just made me feel more relaxed. Thanks, Carol. And thanks Nick and Jess for allowing us to download it. I have already listened to it 3 times and will do so many times more I am sure.
Comment by Janice Gagnon — July 16, 2010 @ 9:03 am
I so appreciate Carol Look’s wonderful and profound comments and feelings about this topic of grief. So helpful ! Thank you.
Comment by Chip — July 16, 2010 @ 12:09 pm
Thank you so much for this…it is especially timely, as I have 2 clients dealing with
protracted grief PLUS a family member waiting and watching his wife die…As an aside, while tapping along, I found some remaining issues surrounding my Dad’s death…17 yrs ago.
Comment by Stefani Sherwin — July 16, 2010 @ 5:03 pm
Hi, what most struck me in the whole tapping process and actually started me crying was the phrase: I FULLY love and respect myself.
So often I settle for a quick feeling of sadness, swallow it and go on with my busy life , but then suddenly it hits me in unexpected ways that I am still sad.
So thank you for this hour, it opens up and tears can be washed away, much Love & Peace to everyone listenig!Sarah from Holland
Comment by sarah — July 16, 2010 @ 5:51 pm
I just want to say Tapping Insiders Club is a superb way to immerse yourself in the form of energetic clearing, they are also great, Jessica and anyone else involved, look into it!
Also, grief I would say no matter who you are, this is one we should all just plain tap onjust to make sure, so THANK YOU for this! Many blessings
Comment by Nicole M — July 16, 2010 @ 6:07 pm
Carol, you are amazing, and I have benefited greatly from your professional advice and walk-through tapping. Bless you and all your efforts.
Comment by Ruthanne Stewart — July 16, 2010 @ 7:50 pm
Thank you so much for this interview and tapping. You didn’t mention estrangement but I feel it is even worse than death because there is no finality or really explanation when it happens. My son, who had been my best friend and often spoke of what a wonderful woman and Mother I was, starting leaving my life after my Mom died, the last of my birth family. He has left three times now and this last time he has been gone for 3 1/2 years and I have a new grandson I can’t see. He has turned against me and re-written our entire relationship and does not respond to any calls, letters, gifts or emails. I have done much work around this but like you said…grief is a process. I have faced grief over and over and over throughout my life and you are correct in that most people do not deal with grief at all….or really any strong emotions. Thanks for your honesty and for looking at the grief process in a different way.
Comment by Katelon — July 16, 2010 @ 9:07 pm
Thank you so much for posting this. I look forward to the posting of the transcript also. I have been through many losses that were not grieved at the time and this has been very helpful.
Comment by Susan Myers — July 16, 2010 @ 9:36 pm
Great work comming out of the Tapping Solution.
Keep up the greagt work, I know it is truely appreciated by all.
Comment by Emily — July 16, 2010 @ 9:53 pm
Amazingly, 2 days after I listened to Carol’s presentation, a friend came by who was visiting from another state. Her son, who I knew quite well, died last year from a drug overdose, and she was still grieving. She asked me to help her deal with this through EFT, and Carol’s suggestions were spot on. This recording could have been made just for me to help her. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Comment by Joy — July 16, 2010 @ 10:24 pm
Thank you so much for your generosity in allowing everyone to download this amazing presentation. I know that I am losing my Mum and it won’t be long now but somehow I know that this information will get me through. Thank you, it is greatly appreciated. Bless you all.
Comment by Bev — July 17, 2010 @ 3:30 am
Thank you, thank you, and thank you for the audio download . I truly appreciate your thoughtfulness and kindness. I am deeply grateful.
Comment by Thaida Stovall — July 17, 2010 @ 6:22 am
Thank you for your comforting words. Your words are so true. One can never get over losing someone. I lost my baby and my father within months of each other. My marriage is on the verge of breaking-up. I am told by well-meaning people that it was maybe for the best that the baby did not survive. But they do not understand that baby was a part of me and meant, still means a lot to me, no matter what. I wanted it. I loved it when I had her in my womb as she was created with my husband who I loved at that time and still do. Even today, I cannot look at a pregnant woman without thinking about what I lost and may never have one more in my life. I try to ‘get over it’, but it just comes back with a rush at times and then I just cry my heart out. People tell me to get over it and move on, leaving me with the impression that I am stuck in this rut that I have to get out of. And all this sort of makes me scared to be around pregnant women in case something happens to them because of me. I am scared that I am jinxed, you know. Thank you so much.
Comment by Sujatha — July 17, 2010 @ 11:50 am
It seems Divine Intervention guided me to this site and experience with Carol Look and Jessica this morning regarding grief. Because of crisis in our family in addition to a vehicle accident and health overwhelm I have not checked my email for some days. I find I have missed precious offers AND, am grateful that this tapping experience was up and available to me today. I turned it on and listened because though this morning I have been very upset, I DID NOT REALIZE it was because I was feeling grief because it is not a death but tremendous grieving of a mother for a son who has ADHS, PTSD, Bi Polar and Multiple Chemical Sensitivities (like his mother ((which I had not known until he told me yesterday)).
I was able to tap re. his homelessness, his vulnerability, .. ….. It is helpful to know it is grieving for me. I had NO IDEA. I can now open myself to allowing this and crying my loss and feeling of grief that I could not have been able to help him in his life journey over these 48 years. With heartache and tears, Meg
Comment by Meg McChesney — July 17, 2010 @ 1:13 pm
When will the transcript be posted, please? I am more of a visual than auditory learner, so a visual transcript will help reinforce the audio. Thank you for all your work.
Comment by DeniseC — July 17, 2010 @ 1:20 pm
Dear Carol, Jessica, Nick and everyone else at The Tapping Solution,
Thank you so much for your generosity in allowing everyone to download this amazing presentation. It has been so tremendously helpful. It was helpful too to know I’m not alone in how I’ve been feeling.
Comment by Nina (Sheffield, U.K.) — July 17, 2010 @ 6:50 pm
Thank you for this! I am still so overwhelmed by the the grief over losing my beloved cat a year ago. It’s also the guilt. I had to have him put down (killed!!!) because I didn’y have the money the vet wanted to try 7 save him! They wanted $900.00 for the first 24 hrs., just to try! Then another $3,000.00 beyond that. MY ncome is $1400.00 per month. He was my faithful companion for eleven years. He was there with me through all my other losses. My oldest daughter, my mother, my spiritual family, the group I ran. etc., etc. etc.! My whole life has been about loss, since I was 18 months old & lost my Dad. I’d always been able to cope & move forward. but this time was just too much! I have no one to help & I am ill & lost. My resources are tapped out! Reiki, E.F.T., Psych-K, meditation. none of it has helped! So, I hang on, as I do love life. But life without him is so hollow & empty!
Comment by Katrina — July 18, 2010 @ 4:18 am
Wow! This is the first anniversary of my husband’s death to cancer and having just listened to and identified with the audio tape, I, at last feel normal in that the pain is still there. Yes, we do most certainly have to be kind to and look after ourselves. Thank you all!
Comment by Janice Muir — July 19, 2010 @ 5:53 am
I facilitate a Grief Recovery Group and this has been a wonderful help to those in the group. Thank you!
Comment by Jan — July 19, 2010 @ 10:51 am
My mother died July 21, 2002. Today (July 19th) is her birthday. She would have been 83 today. My grief is and has been so intense. Thank you so very much for this transmission. Your validations have been invaluable to me. My emotional pain still exists. Well-meaning people have said various things to me throughout the years, and no one has really addressed the fact that grief is individual, there are no rules, loss is loss and can be painful, and there is no “getting over it.” Yes, we move on. Holidays are still difficult for me and I still cry. Grieving for me is and has been a process and at least I don’t cry every day any more. I miss my mother. I suppose I always will, and that’s OK. Thank you so much for helping me to know that everything I’m feeling is alright to be feeling.
Comment by Jane — July 19, 2010 @ 4:27 pm
Hi, Nick, Jessica
Thank you so much for giving me chance to listened on the Tapping process on griefing with
Carol Look. Infact I lost my elder sister last year in january I didn’t believed because three days befor her death she called me from Africa and we talked, but she wasn’t sick strong woman went to wrok in morning and in the evening she died without any sickness it was a shocking to me because I did talked to her that’s what hurts me the most, For almost two year I weaked up at three in morning and never sleep again, but when I got the email with griefing process I Tapped along with Jessica, two days now I weaked at mid night and go back to sleep normal thank you so much Carol Look and Jessica, I don’t know what to say and give
But God is great.
Comment by Tereza — July 19, 2010 @ 8:05 pm
I lost my boyfriend 3 weeks ago, he committed suicide. I had broken up with him and asked him to leave my home. We had been together for 6 years. He had been in a bad depression for over a year after losing a job he had been at for 19 years. He had been laid off several times and was just beaten down. I just got tired of the doom and gloom everyday. Also his brother committed suicide 6 months ago, which he was so distraught over. I feel guilty cause the day we broke up is when he did it. He gave me little warnings but I thought he was being dramatic. He said if I go, you will never see me again, nor will anyone else. I feel I could have prevented this if I had paid attention. If I had known, I would take it all back, I did love him. I listened to the grief audio and it did help. Thank you very much, DJ
Comment by DJ — July 19, 2010 @ 11:26 pm
Hi guys,
amazing piece of audio. Thank you so much for sharing it – really helpful as a personal tool on my own journey.
angel hugs to you all
Aimée (Ireland)
Comment by Aimee Scanlon — July 20, 2010 @ 4:33 pm
Carol, Jess and Nick – thank you so much for making this audio and transcript freely available. It is really generous of you and I found it so helpful. The sensible, clear way in which Carol speaks about the grieving process is the most articulate, comforting and understanding description I have heard. Thanks for being so open about your own experience.
Best wishes to all of you from a very grateful listener.
Comment by Eleanor — July 21, 2010 @ 12:02 pm
Hi,
I do not believe in a Hell, however it is the word I think of when I attempt to explain my life since November 1, 2003 when my daughter died instantly, thank God, when she was hit, head on, at 65 mph. I have four other children. The next month my uncle crossed over after a horrible battle with lung cancer. Two weeks later, his wife, my aunt, of the same. The following month a neighbor and good friend who took care of us for two weeks after our daughter died, joined her after an accident on his motorcycle. Two weeks later my dog of 15 years needed to cross over as well. We could see it in his eyes.m The next three months we lost two of my husband’s co-workers. One to brain cancer, one on a four wheeler in the mountains of Colorado, our home. I then lost my job which I loved dearly as the company had to shut down as so many have. I took a break for a breather and traveled to visit friends in Florida. On my way to spread some of my daughter’s ashes on the beach, while stopped at a red light, I was hit from behind and now have cadaver bone and titanium holding my neck together. While waiting for a decision on surgery, I was able to work with a list of restrictions. I was counting candy bars for invetory for a chocolate company. While standing in a lower end department store doing just that, 66 bottles, 20 oz. each = 130 lbs, I weigh 104) of a sports drink fell on my left soulder, from, behind and off a tall, unsecured pallet. Since then, I have broken two ribs, the sacrum of my lower spine, my right ankle and just last Sunday, my left leg. My marriage ended, my friends were not able to stay with me and support me, my worker’s comp pay was suddenly cut off at the end of June, and the person I was room mates with (a best friend for 36 years), suffering from the disease of alcoholism, simply left half way through our lease. I know that every morning when I wake up, if it is light out, that means the sun is somewhere and it is a good day. I am unable to work, unable to pay my bills, and have to decide: food or gas to get to Dr. Appointments…fascinated by this opportunity, I wondered if anyone, anywhere, would feel comfortable letting me borrow this documentary film. I am good, I understand that I am moving to a new season of my life, yet I currently need all the help I can get. I commit to returning it to you in a reasonable time frame. I grieve daily for the loss of the tangible, yet I also feel that most of what I have been through I have handled well. I would hate for my current medical conditions be on a mom with toddlers at home, or a single dad with kids to raise. I am alone, I am free to take it on and it feels as though I am helping…in some odd way.
Okay, so that is my dissertation…I would love your feedback and I am hoping that at some point I might learn the techinques.
Peace to all…..
Kim now living on the gulf coast of Florida..okay to have my e-mail: sandybeachin.it@hotail.com
Comment by Kim — August 8, 2010 @ 7:21 pm
This is a great resource for… well… for just about anyone. Managing this process is one of life’s inevitables.
I’ve made the link to my Calendarwallah blog above. This is important because today, Friday Aug 13th, 2010 is a date when other cultures take some time to remember ancestors:
Obon – Japan
It is celebrated in honour of their deceased ancestors. Japanese light lanterns and hold circular folk dances.
Vietnamese call it Vu Lan. Known as Wandering Souls Day, offerings of food are prepared, shoes and dresses made of paper along with votive papers are burned in homes and pagodas for the dead and for the wandering souls who have no families.
Chinese name it Chung Yuan or Feast of Lonesome Souls where food is laid out and money is burnt for the souls.
Comment by Eric Snyder — August 13, 2010 @ 3:44 am
Thank you so very much for Carol Look’s interview, “Grief Hurts.”At times during your talk I was aware of old pains that wanted to encroach even on this learning process and could tap with you. Her compassion and kind words, even while she is still experiencing the pain over your sister’s death, is profound. Peace to you.
Comment by Mary — August 13, 2010 @ 9:17 pm
Carol,
YOU have been one of my favorite EFT masters since the beginning.
Now that I know more of you personally—I am in awe of how in touch you
are with the power of grief to affect one’s whole being, personal dynamics.
I felt like a zombie after losing my Neely who had just turned 5 to a genetic disease
I had never heard of. Since 1987 I have had a broken heart, lack of memory, and guilt
of not doing right by her body or learning her soul’s journey purpose….
I had great releases through the connection you offered from your first hand
experiance…I will use my EFT more for sure now…..god bless you and your wonderful young sister’s….journeys…and THANK good for EFT…..INternational Peace day means even more now today for me………
Comment by trudy — September 21, 2010 @ 12:52 pm
Thank you Jessica & Carol. I’m currently assisting a Mum that has recently lost her son through suicide. Excellent words of advise from Carol – thank you again. My client was told by a professional person that her son was selfish. Imagine how this mum feels now? Will post again once I’ve worked a few tapping sessions with her. Just for reference. I did tapping on the school children that are good friends with this lad and it was awesome the results I got from the tapping with these students. Not only did we shift the grieving but also dealt with past traumas successfully as well. Brilliant interview – highly recommended! Brightest Blessings..
Comment by Debby — November 15, 2010 @ 1:28 am
Thanks to Jessica and Carol for an excellent audio presentation on grief. I don’t think the tapping part will help me,but the just the audio of how Carol dealt with her grief was a big help. As my email shows I WILL miss my Tina forever. My wife had myotonic dystrophy and was confined to a wheelchair for 18 out of the 31 years that we were married. I cared for her all of those years and had to put her into a “long term care” hospital in our state. I built my life around her and when she died I found myself “drowning” in a sea of grief!! I am currently going to a “grief ” workshop at the local VA hospital but this video and some of the other videos from Jack Canfield and others have helped alot!
Comment by Tom — February 21, 2011 @ 9:51 pm
Nick & Jessica,
You did a wonderful job on The 2011 Summit.
Thank you… Thank you…Thank you…
Invaluable information and is greatly appreciated.
I just wanted to share a few quotes with you…
Our Own Conscience is The Key to Our Life Persuit.
What makes a person brave is…. Not letting their fears stop them…
The kept coming forward in my mind as I was learning from you,
I am meant to share them with you…
Once again many Thanks,
With Love
Diane
Comment by Diane Kuefler — March 1, 2011 @ 4:17 pm
Dear Jess,
Watching snowed in I noticed how very beautiful you are. I seem to have a higher awareness now. Thanks for your beauty and love.
Love Helen Gauhlxxx
Comment by helen gauhl — March 9, 2011 @ 3:01 pm
i’ve been born to a grief filled life which for a master angelic is not easy lol!!! my mom hated me and told me, my entire childhood was filled with loss, death and physical abuse…while i became an astrologer and channeled the AM’s all my life – losing my dad to cancer, my brother to ALS, my husband to cancer, my career in mortgage banking and then my good credit and the comfort of my family who decided i wasn’t worth the ‘trouble’ of helping me and my 12 yr old grieve, instead we were faced with bankruptcy, survival level fear, and the ‘system’ gave us ONE week…the first year was a blur…everything carol says is correct…there is only the way that is good for our selves…and the system will run you over if you don’t explain – and even when you do most don’t seem to care….so getting selfish and pampering yourself and doing what you need to do by not ‘SHOULDING ON YOURSELF’ AND TAP YOUR ASH OFF!!! IT’S AWESOME!!!!! THANK YOU!!!
Comment by cat — April 22, 2011 @ 5:15 pm
I really needed this I would like help, my daughter suffered a loss at 7 months she had a stillborn little girl called BLISS we were all left shattered as she has already suffered 3 miscarraiges before this, everything was fine the pregnancy was going well, then she went for a check up to be told the baby had died.
the grief i have for the loss of my grand daughter was immense i appear to be dealing with this however, i cant seem to deal with the hurt i feel for my daughter a whole different los, i feel her pain so much and this is so difficult to cope with the tapping helps but i get so emotional i cant speak should i just keep tapping and just let the emotuions flow?
Comment by mary — October 24, 2011 @ 5:11 am