I live in Newtown, CT… (some thoughts and how you can help)

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Monday December 17, 2012
by Nick Ortner

I never thought in my communication with you that the fact that I live in Newtown, CT would be relevant in any way.

Unfortunately, as you know, that all changed on Friday. My brother lives here as well, with his wife and two young children. My mother is a school psychologist in the neighboring town of Danbury, at the elementary school. She used to work with Dawn Hochsprung, the principal who lost her life, when Dawn was previously working in her school district.

I don’t feel it’s my place, especially at this point, to try to make any sense of what has happened or make any wise philosophical pronouncements (they seem trite in the wake of such awful tragedy) All I can think to do is to mobilize in any way I can, to help those most deeply affected.

I do think there is an opportunity (and that’s not the right word for this situation, but it’s the best I can come up with), to take a new approach in helping relieve the pain, trauma, and sorrow this town, surrounding towns, and the world at large is feeling. We’ll be working this week to bring you resources to help relieve any pain you’re feeling, including a meditation from Jessica.

On the ground here, I’ve been on the phone the last two days coming up with a plan on how we can best help and serve. Unfortunately, it’s not as easy as going in there and saying, “Everybody tap!” It’s a delicate situation on so many levels, so I’ve been talking to trauma experts and other people with experience to see how we can best serve, while respecting the existing channels of support.

Just this morning we formed what we’re calling “The Tapping Solution for Newtown: Stress and Trauma Relief Project.” Dr. Lori Leyden, who you might recognize from her incredible work with genocide victims in Rwanda, has already agreed to fly in from California to lead the support team. That team and its approach will grow in the coming days.

Our intent behind “The Tapping Solution for Newtown: Stress and Trauma Relief Project” is to:

A. When appropriate, work with those affected, directly or indirectly, in Newtown and the surrounding areas.

B. Establish a “train the trainer” model, where both professionals and lay people can learn how to use tapping for themselves and for others.

C. Create new approaches and protocols that can be used here and then modeled in other similar circumstances.

As you can imagine, such an effort will cost money. From flying people in, to housing them, feeding them, perhaps advertising to spread the word on the support available, and so forth. To that effect, all this week we’re raising money to support these efforts. I got together with my sister, Jessica, who many of you know, and my brother Alex, who works behind the scenes running things at the Tapping Solution, and we’ve each agreed to donate $10,000 to support this work. So we’re off to a good start with $30,000 being raised to help.

Now’s where you come in!

We’d love to have your support in raising money for this very important cause.  If you donate $15 today you’ll get a copy of our film “The Tapping Solution” as a special thank you gift.

If you’ve never heard of the film, you can see the trailer below.  Furthermore, while I personally plan to work with people here, none of the funds raised will go to me in any way, shape or form.  I’m laying this out in so much detail because it’s important for people to know what’s happening exactly.  100% of the net proceeds (after credit card fees and shipping and handling) will go to helping the people of Newtown.

Our fulfillment company, a Connecticut based company called Fulfillment Works, LLC, has agreed to donate their time on this project so additionally some of the shipping cost will go to the project as well!

Please support us by clicking on the “Contribute” button below to donate $15 (or use the blue links below to contribute additional funds)

“Based on my clinical experience and my reading of the research literature, EFT is the treatment of choice for rapid intervention in traumatic situations like Newtown that trigger overwhelming emotions in individuals and groups. Its use can prevent the future development of full-blown PTSD by empowering people to develop control over their own nervous systems.”

– Eric Leskowitz, MD from the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School

100% of All The Proceeds Below Are Going to
The Tapping Solution for Newtown: Stress and Trauma Relief Project
 

 
Donate $75 and Receive 5 Copies As a Thank You Gift to Share with Your Local Community
Donate $150 and Receive 10 Copies As a Thank You Gift to Help Those In Your Local Community
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Please Share This Message…

After you pick up a copy of the film, please share this page with others via email, Facebook, Twitter or any other social media site. We need all the help we can get in raising funds so your support is extremely appreciated.

How you can help Newtown and your own community…

Also, if you happen to already own a copy of The Tapping Solution, and donate and get more, it would be wonderful if you can share it within your local community. Perhaps pass it along to a person in need, a psychologist you know, or a church, or a library that needs it. Who knows what your action to spread this positive message might do to change the future.

If you want to personally get involved in Newtown, CT…

I know many people are interested in how they can personally be of help in this situation and these efforts. If you have experience with EFT and trauma relief, or other associated projects, please contact us at Newtown@thetappingsolution.com. Please be as descriptive as possible with what you’ve done, your qualifications and how you can help, so we can organize accordingly. One of the challenges in times like these is that so many people do want to help, but we need to do it in an organized manner that best serves the population.

Also, if you are from the local area and know people in official channels, such as the Red Cross, etc., who you think might be open to learning about using EFT within their work, please let us know that as well. Again, email us at Newtown@thetappingsolution.com.

Thanks for taking the time to read this and doing whatever is the right fit for you in terms of donating and supporting this important effort.

Much love to you and your loved ones.

Nick

 



 

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  1. As we are Parents and Grand Parents to see little lives are lost for no reson at all. Keep on doing good things. We are proved of you.
    Narsinh Mistry.

  2. And, of course, there is always the option of doing surrogate tapping!

  3. […] started an awesome initiative as a thoughtful response to what happened on December 14, 2012. “The Tapping Solution for Newtown: Stress and Trauma Relief Project” will (when appropriate) work with those affected, directly or indirectly, in Newtown and the […]

  4. Cheryl Drown says:

    Hi Nick,
    I didn’t know you live in Newtown. I’m in Southbury right next door. Do yoy ever have any local meetings?

  5. Judy Andreas says:

    Hi …My grandson attends Sandy Hook Elementary. He was hidden in the bathroom but his angelic teacher ….Kaitlin Roig. Thank God he’s alive………but so many of his friends are not..
    Thanks for your effort…
    Judy Andreas

  6. Teri B says:

    Thank you so much for being there for the families and comunity .. and so sorry for the loss of you freind and former collegue at the school.. it is a tragic and sad event for the families, community and the world when a person does something so senseless .. I am grateful there are people like you and the wonderful repsonse teams that were present that day to help them start to mend the broken heart strings and recover from the horrible events that will never leave the hearts and minds of so many.. I am sharing this page on my site to help you raise as much as much as you can.. and help as many as I can who may be able to use the tools you have to help others recover from their own pain and trama they may be experiencing.. Thank you for al you do ..

  7. Linda Shea says:

    Please forgive me. I’m sorry. Thank you. I love you.

  8. I appreciate what Nick Ortner is doing here. Normally I do not watach news since most of it is bad news, and I cannot change it by watching it. It doesn’t mean I don’t care, but on the contrary, I do, but that is not my way of demonstrating it. This particular tragedy has, however, had it’s effec on me emotionally. I cannot read about it or hear about it without tears welling up in my eyes.

    Yes, there are toools that can help people through this trauma, and meridian tapping is one of the many tools available. There is also Berry Kauffman’s Option Process that can do this, too. These people can use all the help they can get. Kaufman’s book “To Love is to Be Happy With…” was a blessing to me at a time when I most needed it and he and his work are still an inspiration. The Option Institute is in Sheffield, Mass, and I am sure he is involved in helping these people with this trauma. The fact that it took place at Chrismas lends another demension to it in that Christmas will never be Chrismas again to those friends and relatives left behind. They will need all the help they can get, and I am willing to do whatever i can. These are critical days just at the closing of the current cycle. Suicides have become quite common these last four years. So Thank you Nck for your concern and efforts to help. I too can be counted on in whatever way i can be of help, if it is only with a donation. (i am physically disabled and will not be able to traavel

  9. Diana says:

    Thank You for your support to this community! May God Bless you and yours!

  10. Dear Ortner family,
    I am so sorry for the terrible loss of so many in your community.Please do not let ONE of these children that survived this go any amount of time without the help you have to offer. At 9 yrs. old I watched my sister die from a gunshot at the hands of a cousin, the same age as her (12). I could write a book about everything that has happen in my personal life and relationships ( not to mention the hell my cousin has suffered everyday of her life since) that not recieving any help from family, professionals or church can do. Please DO NOT let ONE child go without the help they need! The shock is numbing. What comes after is lonely and painful without the family and community to help heal.Survivors guilt is hell to live with, and kids do not realize it is NOT thier fault. But it stays with you through life and keeps you from everyday happiness. What you have to offer has been such a help and blessing!I am now 40 yrs. old with 4 children and have just found you all this last 6 mo..Thank you so much for doing what you have been led to.Please keep this special going through Friday. That is when I can afford to contribute to the blessing you have to give. Jennifer Brooks

  11. Jondi says:

    Hi, Nick. I left you a personal response for this. Sure, glad to help with boots on ground as part of the StressProject.org and Operation:Emotional Freedom volunteer team. Let me know how to serve your community, and I will. Kind regards – Jondi

  12. Ann says:

    Great initiative. But…. I already have the DVD. Is there a site or possibility to
    just make a donation. I am unemployed at the moment but still would like to make a contribution so “Tapping” can be spread to help others as it has helped me. God Bless.

  13. Malathie says:

    Nick, I wish you strength and courage.You are blessed!

  14. Thank you Nick for organizing an opportunity for us to contribute in some small way. It’s unfortunate that it takes so many unnecessary tragic incidents to galvanize the country. We need multiple means of better protecting the most precious in our society.

    Keep us updated on your awesome efforts. Prayers to all in Newton,Ct.

    Thanks,
    Lupita

  15. Chris Farina says:

    You guys are amazing and Tapping is too. The person who brought it to me is a spiritual gift and it is obvious you are too. I can speak to Tapping with my children and it has been an amazing resource for them. Thank you for all you do!

  16. I am an EFT practitioner and I am so glad Nick you are doing this. I want to do it as well here in my community as it is affecting us very deeply. I will be following what you do and how it’s working out. wishing you all the help and support you need.

  17. Thank you so much for your article and your efforts to try to help those who are suffering from the effects of trauma, including the horrible tragedy in Newtown. I myself have used EFT/Tapping for several years, and as a therapist trained in trauma, I have taught it to many clients to help with a variety of emotional issues, including PTSD. I would highly recommend and encourage the word be spread about EFT and that it be utilized, along with other proven trauma resolution and relief therapies, to help the families in the wake of the shooting in your town. It is very helpful, easy, and it works! I hope others will buy your CD and contribute in whatever way possible. In the midst of darkness and tragedy, we need healers and helpers to step forward. Please let me know if I can be of help to your efforts in any way.

  18. Judie says:

    I use tapping in conjunction with my hypnotherapy sessions, with amazing results. Nick, thank you for the opportunity to support the people of Newtown. I hope that my Facebook friends will take up your wonderful offer to purchase the tapping film knowing that 100% of the proceeds will indeed reach those it is intended for. Meanwhile, I send my prayers and healing energy to everyone in Newtown. Blessings Judie

  19. I agree with the person that said it was not an accident that you live in Newtown. They need you there and you can do the most good from your home base. I can’t think of a greater gift or how you could do it better. I will do whatever I can to lend support. God Bless you and this effort.

  20. I have been using tapping in conjunction with hypnotherapy in my clinic for some time now, and am happy to say that the results are amazing. I will post Nick’s information to my Facebook page and encourage my friends to help support the people of Newtown. Meanwhile I send my prayers and healing energy to everyone affected. Thank you Nick for this wonderful opportunity to help. Blessings Judie

  21. Verena says:

    Thank you for your initative. This is great. It shows the people that they are not alone with their grief and it helps them to cope. This is very generous and caring.
    Best wishes with your work.

  22. Gord Wiles says:

    I never know what to donate to as there are so many scams out there. All people want is for there donations to go the people and places it was meant for. There are so many extra expenses that they are paying for and not aware of. Nick Ortner and his family seem sincere in what they are trying to accomplice and so they have my donation.
    Peace

  23. Diane Marie says:

    What an amazing synchronicity that you live there!
    THANKS so much for providing the rest of the world an opportunity to contribute in this healing endeavor as well as with sending our love and prayers.Tapping is amazing and has helped me with grief and pain.After seeing the video of Gary helping Vietnam vets get over their trauma of daily hell I knew I needed to learn this. I think a link to the video of the children in Uganda doing tapping to get over the trauma of their families being killedwould be clarifying of the work.
    Also, you might want to get some flower essences for trauma. The Flower Essence Society( F.E.S.)has PSTD for trauma relief and Grief Relief and Magenta Healer These were shipped and used during the aftermath of 9/11 for the firefighters families as well as ground zero workers.They have been used for the health workers during the genicide in Africa as well as for children and families in the Tahiti and Chinese earthquakes

    Much love to you and your family.

  24. I am so RELIEVED to know that you generous Ortners are bringing EFT to Newtown, and kudos to you for doing it in such a professional, controlled way. I offer to those of us who practice EFT in other states, or countries, “How about using this time as an opportunity to motivate ourselves to do EFT outreach in our own communities?” There are so many people in pain who would benefit. I may not be able to serve in Newtown, but I can in Asheville. Blessings to all.

  25. Mark Naseck says:

    This is truly amazing. Very awesome to see you folks taking action to help with the trauma there.
    I will pass your message on.

    Many blessings,
    Mark

  26. Danielle says:

    Hi,
    My first thought when I heard the news of this tragedy was “some major healing has to take place on these little ones and the entire community. You guys are awesome. It would be great if people can make a monetary donation aside from purchasing products – already own the film. Just a suggestion. Thanks!
    Danielle

  27. Thank you Nick, Jessica and Alex for doing this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the community.

  28. Mike Morales says:

    Nick, Alex and Jessica…

    Perhaps the surrogate tapping with teddy bears would also be appropriate here?

    Just a thought.

    God bless your efforts.

  29. I´m very greatful for the posssibility of being part of the healing. Thank you Jessica and Nick

  30. Hymie says:

    Found article very moving,very compassionate. Have been deeply touched by this event. Have prayed for all those touched by this great mystery. Great to see that something positive is already starting to blossom.In my native land(Ireland) there is an expression, “God never closes a door without opening a window”.Regard it as a privilege to offer to help in such an enterprise.

  31. Vasiliy says:

    Our prayers goes to the families of Newtown CT.
    I really hope EFT could help those families!

  32. I agree with CJ from Ontario, Canada about the 4th option of making a surrogate tapping DVD. I would love to give my energy to this cause. I and I am sure others are feeling so powerless around this situation. I am
    contributing with the video on tapping but would like to do more.
    Betty

  33. Jan Yordy says:

    A big Thank You to Nick and his family for being ready to organize and bring much needed healing to so many who are devasted by this tragic event at Sandy Hill. My heartfelt prayers go out to everyone who has been touched by this incomprehensible act.

  34. Carol Flato says:

    It warms my heart so much to know that someone will step up and
    offer to help in this most heartfelt and practical way. So much suffering.
    So sorry but also seeing the blessing in bringing love and compassion full
    circle. How mysterious this process works…suffering then acts of immense
    altruism. which let us know how united we are in wanting love and peace to prevail.
    Thank you Nick.. I ordered the tape and will use it even if it’s not in Newtown, CT.

  35. CJ says:

    Hi Nick and Jessica, I think this is a wonderful approach yet I feel there is a fourth option. I own the dvd and think it would be great to have the option to donate any amount in the effort to help these horribly traumatized families.
    I also feel that many of us could join in surrogate tapping to help everyone involved in this tragedy. Perhaps you could make a video for surrogate tapping that is specific to this trauma and we could get together each day at a given time to help from afar.
    So much love and blessings of relief are being sent your way, CJ Ontario, Canada.

  36. Jenny says:

    Are these closed captioned or subtitled? Thanks. :) And I *am* sorry you are all dealing with this in your geographic area.

  37. Ann Kapsch says:

    I will be contributing without buying a product for me. I know the fire department has a site where contributions can go directly to serving those in need for any help towards healing. This is a tragedy but it is also a wake up call to do for others. Thank you.

  38. Linda Graham says:

    Tapping was the first thing I thought of after the initial shock of Friday’s shootings. Many people think PTSD only happens to soldiers. Wrong. Combining the Tapping, along with some matrix re-imprinting techniques will change the world as we know it. Isn’t that what is promised for Dec. 21st? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the new world, after Dec.21, would include an easy, inexpensive, quickly mastered way to help those grieving and those who know someone with a mental issue that they fear might be a next shooter? Congrats on your efforts. Remember that remote tapping works as well, so all can help, even without flying to Connecticut.

  39. Kaya Bromley says:

    Thank you for doing this!

  40. Deep gratitude to you and your team Nick. As an EFT trained psychotherapist/coach in East Windsor,CT I’m honored to offer my support in any way that will be of service to any of those impacted by this horrific event.

  41. Kersi says:

    Deasr NMick,
    thank you for your very kind generosity of support to those affected by the herondous act in Newtown.I have in a different way contributed towards the assistance these folks’ needs, however your support and assistance will go a long way to give them all Spiritual strength and healing they as well we all need, not only in Newtown but Globally.
    Shanti, shanti,Shantiheee!
    Kersi. Australia.

  42. Julia says:

    Hi Nick,
    When I opened your email concerning the terrible events there and learned you are from Newtown,I just had to respond. Not only does my heart go out to you and all the people there- it hits close to home for me as well,because I was raised in Redding. With all the people in need,I am thinking: What a wonderful thing you are doing and what a small world we live in !
    Love & Blessings,
    Julia

  43. Alison says:

    Nick, I’m so glad you gave us this opportunity to help!

  44. Von says:

    You really have to experience EFT to appreciate just how powerful it is! I was surprised. ‘Stuff’ that I’d tried to deal with for years seemed to simply evaporate with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting …and seemingly permanently! I’m still enjoying the benefits of the EFT sessions I’ve done; still smiling every time I accomplish something I would previously have found nigh on impossible – it’s amazing.

  45. Mark McCoid says:

    Thanks for all you guys do, it is truly inspirational!

    I already have the tapping solution and have given copies to my family members. I would just like to donate money, don’t want anything in return.

    Maybe you could set up a paypal donate button too or an option to just donate the copy to an individual in need.

  46. Barbara says:

    Thank you, with Love and support, and Many Blessings

  47. Peggy Mangan says:

    I feel I am alive today due to EFT. I was given 1year to live and have celebrated my 7th year in September.
    I am a certified EFT practitioner and work with people affected by cancer. My website is: http://www.joyaftercancer.com I volunteer my services to the folks of Newtown.

  48. Nick, Thank you so much for your leadership on this. I’ll be passing this on to my community – this is definitely a time when coordinating energy in this way is a huge service. We can all feel so much more powerful working synergistically like this. Thank you.

  49. Celia says:

    Bless you for your unconditional gift of love to those involved with this sad situation.

    Your tapping video unsurfaced a 10 year old trauma in my own family and I will be eternally grateful for the work you do.

    My prayers and blessings to each and every one of you for who you are and what you do from your heart.

    Can we do remote tapping for all of you and those involved. Do you have a suggestion for a tapping exercise we might do here at home. Thank you for your time and love for others.

  50. Mary says:

    I am in agreement with Fern about tapping surrogately for the victims and their families. Knowing the difference that tapping has made in my life…healing in all areas…I pray for others to find this wonderful tool for living. I’m very happy to be a part of this and grateful for your actions.
    May God bless and keep each and every one affected by this tragedy…enfolding those who have lost loved ones in angel’s wings.

  51. Betty says:

    Thank you for helping all you can Nick. Thoughts and prays about such a loss close to home will be sent your way. Whatever intervention works out best.

  52. Cassandra says:

    hi Nick, Jessica,& Alex –

    I deeply appreciate your work in general and that you are now organizing for meaningful healing support in Newton.

    I offer that Ignatia Amara homeopathic is good for shock and grief. Would do at least 200c acute level. Molly of Green Hope Farm in New Hampshire might contribute flower essences that can help trauma see http://www.greenhopeessences.com. These are both very gentle relief measures.

    As a tapping practitioner, I wonder about doing a large scale surrogate tapping event for Newton, I would welcome participating in it.

    May your efforts be divinely supported in everyway.

  53. Nick, I appreciate what you are doing to help the Newtown survivors. This tragedy has touched the entire nation, and certainly my thoughts and prayers are with your community. May God bless you and your work.

  54. Lotti says:

    You are wise to tread sensitively with the specialists on the ground.
    Unfortunately, there are plenty of people who need Tapping now.
    It is a major gift that the 3 Ortners are there in Newtown.

    Along with our donations we can all be doing surrogate tapping.
    Any guidance will be well used by this generous community
    of caring folks Thank you for organizing this effort.

    May peace prevail, inside and out.

  55. If you are new, or skeptical, about tapping, please know this works!!! If you feel funny about it, try it when no one is looking. Put your voice into it. Put your heart into it. Things will shift, and continue to improve with every time you tap. And group tapping for LOVE, PEACE and UNDERSTANDING does help.

  56. Thank you for taking the time and care for this cause. I am an EFT Coach & practitioner and use this tecnique with all of my clients.. Trauma and Grief are a very tender area for people to work with. I appreciate all of your work and I will continue to share this for the people of your community. Sending love and light .

  57. Than You Tapping Solution for generously giving of your expertise to this community in their time of need.
    Are there any Rabbis that may want to be there? Is there a need?

  58. Sally Myton says:

    I am glad you will be there to help those affected by the tragedy. I pray they will find peace.

  59. Kate Whorlow says:

    Hi, I would love to order the DVD but I am in the UK so will it work on my DVD player? I understand that different countries have different zones for DVD’s. Great idea though to help your local community, my love and prayers go to everyone involved and the families and friends grieving at this time <3 xx

  60. May God be with all the people of Newton and you all, with best wishes from Iceland.

  61. Fern says:

    Maybe we could all tap surrogately for the victims and their families.

  62. Cindy D says:

    WOW, now we know why Newtown, CT. the home of the best trauma resouce on our planet today.

    I’ve been using EFT for about 8 yr now. I am a practitioner and volunteer for the organization give an hour. they contacted me to ask if I can help, I can via skype.

  63. Liz says:

    I am so very deeply feeling for the unspeakable loss and trauma you have all witnessed – all my prayers thoughts and love to one and all at this immensely painfilled numbing time XXX

  64. As a DBHRT Team Leader and EFT for War Trauma expert, I have lots of experience with helping groups and individuals in this very difficult time. Please count me in in any way you may find fitting.
    Ingrid

  65. Hi Alex, Nick and Jessica,

    I just sent you guys an email to the Newtown email address you gave in the post, please give me a call if I can help. Michael Shook

  66. Hello Nick,

    This is absolutely painful to think that it’s even possible for something like this to happen. I pause and wonder about life sometimes. The joys, the losses & the path to make sense of it all. I have my own thoughts on life and the spiritual path, yet it does not take away the intense grief of these families. Bless them all and you too Nick!

    Vicki

  67. nomi shannon says:

    BRAVO. I am behing you 100% and will ask my list to support you.
    Much Love, Nomi

  68. Sloan Lewis says:

    I think this is a great idea,and my heart goes out to all that have been affected by this tragedy. Another good idea, is if you send out a script on your email list for children that have heard of this horrible event. Certainly the children closely involved can benefit, but also children that are just hearing about it. It’s so scary for them. My daughter is 9 years old, and she was clearly upset by the idea that this could happen. I certainly re-assured her, but really, it could happen anywhere. We can’t live in fear, but we can use tapping as a way to release the fear and anxiety from it all. Thanks for all you do!

  69. Hilary says:

    I live in Brookfield and have used EFT and Thought Field Therapy for myself.
    If there is anything locally I can do to assist in serving people with this education, let me know.

  70. Nick Ortner says:

    Wonderful- thanks Marietta!

  71. Marietta says:

    Thanks, but I already contibuted today directly to School.