Using EFT to Survive Your Family

Surviving your family is what people have been trying to do for thousands of years and sometimes it feels harder than dealing with your enemies. Sometimes it feels like you are dealing with your enemies! And the way your family is with you is just the result of old strategies, created years ago.

Tapping Into Forgiveness With EFT

Forgiveness is tricky territory. If we forgive someone, does it mean that we are letting them off the hook? That they have got away with it? That we are condoning what they did?

The Controversy Over the EFT Set Up Phrase – I Love And Accept Myself

I hear it all the time from clients. They ask, “Do I really have to say ‘I love and accept myself’ when I tap?” This is like saying, “I love riding my bike and I can’t wait to get in shape, but I really don’t like the uphill parts. Can I skip them?” To me, loving and accepting ourselves it at the core of most, if not all, healing.

How to Stop Cravings Fast in 15 Minutes or Less! (With a Tap-along Video)

When it comes to cravings, it’s helpful to get clear on why we have them in the first place. If you think about it, most of us have cravings for sugary carbohydrates. Interestingly, sugary carbohydrates help tryptophan – the “feel good hormone” — get into your brain. And guess what? Stress depletes tryptophan, so it’s no wonder you reach for carbohydrates when you are feeling stressed!

Using EFT When The Block Isn’t Obvious

If you have a specific complaint such as ‘my back hurts’ or ‘I’m angry at my boss,’ those are easily tappable issues using EFT. In fact, you can just start tapping and talking in order to begin to get relief on those issues. However, what if the problem is more general, like ‘I don’t have the money I want’? In situations like this, I’ve had many people say to me “I know I have a block about this, but I don’t know what it is.” It can be very frustrating to try to overcome a block using EFT when even the problem itself is hidden.

A New Way To Approach Compulsive Eating

In my over 30 years of affiliation with compulsive overeaters, I have seen a common phenomenon occur. Some call it “fat serenity.” This unflattering description refers to people who no longer eat for emotional reasons and are serene with their eating and their bodies yet are still overweight. Sometimes obese. They are serene and fat. But why isn’t someone who is serene not automatically at a healthy weight? Because the thoughts that make a serene mind are not necessarily the same thoughts that result in different eating behaviors. The thoughts, “I love myself just the way I am” and “I’m willing to eat only one serving of this fattening food” often don’t go together!

Life Transitions Made Easy with EFT!

Life is all about changing and learning. When we aren’t growing we can get hit with what I call the “cosmic two by four.” These types of traumas in our adult lives can look like the breakup of a relationship, being diagnosed with a frightening disease, or the loss of a job. That kind of journey into the depths of despair can also be seen as life throwing us into a full course correction. Many traditions speak of the momentous shifts coming from these traumas as a “Zen Slap” or a “Shaman’s Blow.”

Science and the Field of EFT

In trying to find out for myself just how EFT works, I spent hours reading research on the science of EFT in journals like the Energy Psychology and Explore, diving into the great works of Fred Gallo, Richard Feinstein, Dawson Church, James Lane and many others. I believe that science of EFT is an approach to explore and understand; it is not a belief system.

The Psychology of Food Cravings and Emotional Eating

Why Do We Have Food Cravings? One important factor which may influence appetite control is the notion of food cravings (Blundell & Finlayson, 2004; Strachan, Ewing, Frier, Harper, & Daery, 2004). This overwhelming urge to consume a particular food appears strong in overweight dieters, and many theories has posited why this is so. The nutritional and homeostatic role of food cravings is described by physiological theories and explains why cravings might be more present in people who are deprived of food (Wardle, 1987).

How Progress Happens: 10 Lessons Learned from Working with the Feeling of Anxiety at Work

Recently I was working with “Kelly.”  We had been working every week or two for 30 minutes at a time on the issue of anxiety she was feeling at work.  When we started working she described the anxiety as being present from the moment she walked in the door until she left.  There were moments that she just wanted to run from the room screaming.