Can you not complain for 24 hours?

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Wednesday September 11, 2013
by Nick Ortner

Do you consider yourself a complainer? Do you feel like you’re somebody who complains a lot, or do you feel you make a conscious effort not to?

And I’m talking about all forms of complaining: Do you… protest, grumble, whine, make a fuss, object, criticize, find fault, kick up a fuss, raise a stink, bellyache, moan, snivel or gripe? :)

Complaining can be really powerful to release some emotions… when you’re tapping, but the rest of the time…not so much.

I’d like to invite you to explore just how much complaining may be affecting you, and how much better life can be when we take out the complaints, with a special 24 hour challenge…

Are you up for it? Better said, are WE up for it? I’m joining in as well! :)

Check out this quick 2 minute video with Jessica to learn more:





It’s only a 24 hour challenge. I know you can do it. Watch the video and join us. :)

Until next time…Keep Tapping!

Nick Ortner
P.S. – Just another quick reminder on the replay of the Financial Success and Personal Fulfillment webinar. If you haven’t seen it, make sure to check it out here:

www.thetappingsolution.com/webinar-replay-page

Are you up for the challenge?
Let us know by commenting below. Then make sure to come back after 24 hours and let us know how you did and what came up for you. :)

 



 

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  1. Julie Corrine Audino says:

    Do I really have to not complain for 24 hours. Haha. Just kidding, great idea. I will take the challenge!

  2. Jenny says:

    Yes am up for this change love the tapping

  3. Shauna says:

    I’m up for it!

  4. Robin PAbst says:

    Just saw this challenge – you are on. I will report back tomorrow

  5. Janet says:

    Fabulous idea! Thank-you! My daughter was crinkling her nose at me yesterday when I started complaining about something that was dumb.

    I am doing the 24 hour no complaining, starting now.

    Again, thank-you!

  6. DeAnne Girton says:

    I find that what I complain (in the form of criticism of others) about is what I am most insecure about in myself. Growing older, age 51, and with so much presure on women to remain unwrinkled, skinny and in shape, “perfect,” in other words. I find myself criticizing, models, actresses, news anchors and reporters as those on TV are always expected to be airbrushed perfect. I love it when I find a REAL (not photoshopped) photo of a famous women where you can actually see her wrinkles or bags under her eyes. I feel so mean but too much pressure is on women to look good no matter what the age — nevermind that we can’t all afford spa trips, facials, facelifts, botox, liposuction and other expensive cosmetic procedures like the rich and famous can.

  7. MaryAnn Lowe says:

    This is a great idea and a great awareness tool! Thank you! Starting now – 9:05 AM. 9/18/13

  8. fatima says:

    Idont know eng lisg very vell listening is very hard for me but i follow your video and love your programs

  9. LILIAN says:

    2 THINGS ABOUT COMPLAINING , I FIND THAT COMPLAINING IS FINE EVEN NECESARY AT TIMES , THEN …..TURN IT AROUND AND SEE EITHER SOMETHING FUNNY / GOOD / OR THE GIFT IN IT , TO LOOK AT SELF …. WOW WHERE DOES THIS COME FROM …….!!!
    EXCITING STUFF JESSICA , THANK YOU !!!!

  10. suz says:

    so it’s almost up… my 24 hours. first 6 or 7 hours were easy… i was sleeping! :D

    walking dogs at the park early this morning… normally peaceful and quiet woods.

    yesterday morning, we delayed our walk to watch a family of deer cavorting in the soccer fields next to the woods. babies and mom bowing down to challenge each other, then popping up and running toward, then away from each other. jumping around, often backwards(!)like kittens or puppies playing. hilarious! never saw anything like it.

    today some group was setting up for an event… pounding music blasting from a temp canvas shelter … yadda, yadda… BIG contrast is the point.

    Boy did i complain about that to my hubs as we walked in the woods! it was likely only today. i’m sure tomorrow morning, it’ll be back to the quiet, peacefulness.

    so what was the big deal?? other people are allowed to have an athletic event! it’s not MY park! yikes!!!!! :D

  11. janet y devore says:

    I have tried tapping before and it works. It is simple , easy, quick and fun to do and be!

  12. Laura Johnson says:

    Well, this was an eye opener! I thought I was pretty positive, but I actually complain to myself quite a lot. Will continue to work on it.

  13. Brandon says:

    I am a big complainer and sometimes catch myself. I certainly would like to stop. Thanks for the suggestions. You are beautiful btw.

  14. Robyn Langhorst says:

    What an amazing exercise! Living in (somewhat) rural Maine, I spend a lot of time in my head. I found that my complaining shows up, not just in conversations, but in my thinking process. Doing affirmations
    helped take my mind off the complaining thoughts, and when I was in conversation with someone else, I
    shared that I was doing this 24-hour challenge. It not only helped me stay on track, but I think others
    were inspired by it, as well. I am trying to keep it going – taking it one day at a time. It is truly
    challenging, but eye-opening, too. Thank you, Jessica. : )

  15. Sharon Fattor says:

    Complained only three times, but caught and stopped myself
    at least five times. Great idea! Going to try to implement this
    daily. Forgot to tap on it when I slipped but did at end of day.
    I think one time was justified, I tipped over my vegan protein
    shake all over livingroom table and some on tv remote and my
    iPhone!!!!! >: [ I think phone is ok.

  16. Linda says:

    I am going to take the challenge. I hope I can do it.

  17. rebecca says:

    Complaints draw us to what is not working well in our lives. It alerts us, so that we can choose to focus on solutions.
    One way is also to write out the complaints and its accompanying feelings.

  18. Monica says:

    Well, complaining is almos a national sport here, so I’m totally in. For 24 hours I will be aware (or try to)of not complaining

  19. suz says:

    excellent idea! starting now! just after midnight… now Sat morning, Sept 14.

    thanks for sharing this, Jessica! :D

  20. Winona says:

    OMG I am such a complainer…I try to be conscious of it but holy cow…HELP!

  21. Cynthia Smith says:

    Great idea! Creating a more positive world is always a good thing! Complaining can be contagious!

  22. teresa says:

    I,m up for this challenge. I will be at work and with one of my children who is a colleague. Hoping we can make this real fun!!

  23. nancy says:

    Great idea — for both reducing various forms of complaining and for identifying things to tap on . . . thanks, Jessica!

  24. Marie hudson says:

    I promise to do this without comparing myself to others or asking them to do it too…and keep the list to use constructively to help with my instant judgments of self and others

  25. Nicolas Massu de la Carrera says:

    Hi there:

    I always have a reason to complain with many people but specially with my mum. If I can stop all the things that she has done to me and the things she still doing to me I might not have solve the problem but I will know how to tackle the problem if I don’t complain and don’t think about the problem for 24 hours. Then I might know how can that 24 hours not complainig did to my brain and well being so that I can focus on the things I can change not on the ones that seem imposible to the human eye to solve and change.
    Thanks Jessica ane the Tapping Solution

  26. Shirley says:

    Great idea. I’m ready, starting now!

  27. Catherine says:

    Ahhh… I couldn’t believe it. I lasted a few hours – like six and then out it tumbled!!! I shared with my husband that I was participating and he was delighted. He seems to be the main point of my mumble grumbles as … and I’ve had a real problem just …(deleted text). Hell, am I complaining again? Bummmer, huh? OK, so I’m starting again. A new 24 hours until I can get it. Good luck one and all.

  28. Caryl Hill says:

    What a great challenge. I am in.

  29. Rose says:

    Okay..starting at 9:00 P.M. Sep 12, 2013. My last complaint: There’s NOTHING to talk about without complaining. lol …omg

  30. Paula says:

    Willing to give it a try! Here’s to 24 hrs. of no complaining.

  31. Diana Lampkin says:

    I’m guilty…from the weather to the workload, I can easily expound on the “downsides” of things. Thanks for shining the spotlight, helping us to be mindful of this negative banter.

  32. mary ann purnell says:

    Starting now!

  33. marilyn says:

    Excellent idea. I am the world’s expert at complaining. Often it is to fill in a gap of what on earth to say next, but sometimes out of frustration that my idea of the world does not match reality accurately enough!

  34. Margaret says:

    No complaining for 24 hrs- sounds good to me. I will try it starting now.

  35. Sue Thompson says:

    I really believe in Appreciative Inquiry as a process for many many things, and I try to live appreciatively. I don’t *think* I complain very much, but after listening to Jessica, I now suspect I complain more than I thought I did. This will be a good discipline for 24 hours!!

  36. jennifer says:

    I realised doing this a few hours before you posted the challenge when i have started to change the way i feel about a difficult situation by tapping on it and letting it go. So well done and I am joining the 24 hour challenge of no complaining (criticising) here in Blue Mountains New South Wales Australian time at 7:19 am.
    thanks.

  37. D says:

    I will start today, it is 4:00pm I except the challenge of no complaing for 24 hrs.

  38. Julie says:

    If you really want to make it a lifestyle change, and really open your eyes, check out acomplaintfreeworld.org. Imagine the potential.

  39. Suzy says:

    I am currently doing the E2 activities with great success, so this challenge sounds like it will be a real eye-opener as well. Thanks!

  40. Mia says:

    One of my friends complains (!) that I groan and moan and sigh a lot. Are these wordless sounds included in your challenge? (Obviously that’s up to me to decide.) My friend interprets these sounds as an attempt to solicit attention and help. The only thing wrong with that idea (which may in fact have some truth to it) is that I make the same sounds when I’m alone.

  41. Rebecca says:

    Hi Guys! Am going to try your challenge after just getting off the phone with a sister after I had been complaining about our father…. Oops!
    Here’s to the next 24 hours.
    Rebeccca

  42. Suzanne says:

    This will be a challenge for sure..particularly in the environment I work in..so today..I head off with this challenge..and I’m looking forward to it :-)

  43. Marieke Van Coppenolle says:

    I’d love to give it a try, I’m in!

  44. Holly says:

    Excellent challenge, and the timing is divine :)) Will report back in 24 hours!

  45. Martha says:

    I am totally in!!!

  46. Jackie Danley says:

    Wow. I’m going to pick up this challenge! I’m a little scared–it might be a very quiet day!

  47. Cindy P says:

    I’m in! I love finding ways to focus on the solution and not the problem – this will help. So far, my AHA! moment was when Jessica made the point of saving the complaining for when we are tapping. It will REALLY help me to know there is a time and place to use complaining as a benefit(i.e., complaining while tapping can help improve the tapping experience and the results of the tapping session). This is awesome! I get to NOT complain to others for a day and I DO get to complain more when tapping. I have often stopped myself while complaining during tapping and I tell myself to quit whining. This has caused me to tap less. Now, I think it might just help to improve the quality of tapping, which will cause me to increase the frequency and improve the consistency. Totally awesome!!!

  48. Josy Dumoulin says:

    I was just talking about this today at lunch. I’ve noticed that I don’t feel as aligned lately and that the stress of the last year has taken its toll on me therefore I’ve caught myself complaining. In the last year my husband and I have been through a move in a new area, a death, a new business venture and although we are familiar with different life coaching approach being in the field we are still human and it is in recognizing and learning how to deal with a new set of challenges that we can be of better service to others but more importantly to ourselves! Love this initiative! I’m glad to join! So is my husband!

  49. Sharon says:

    My 24 hours started. I do stop when I notice I am complaining. Everything is going to be just “peachy dandy”. Thank You!!!

  50. David says:

    This is great guys. It’s always good to listen to your quick videos. Even though I was already complaining about doing this 24hr challenge, that’s when my conscious kicked in and caught myself complaining – scored!!! Well I am going to do it and definitely keep track record of my complains throughout the day so I can tap on them. Cheerss!!!

  51. Anne says:

    complaining is often a socializing element in conversations, e.g. at work, when everybody is complaining about the boss…
    I will start tomorrow morning and live a complaint-free Friday (and perhaps whole week-end, who knows?

  52. Cyndi Myatt says:

    OM gosh! I’m always complaining about how busy I am. It’s like a broken record. I’ve listened to my mother constantly complain about the same thing my whole life and it drives me crazy since we talk about 4 times a week. I even complain about “her” complaining! I think it’s something I learned from my mother and she probably from her mother. Thanks for the challenge, I need to make this change for my sake and those around me (-:

  53. Claudia says:

    Great challenge, I’m in. There is an issue that is hooking me into a complaining state, so am keen to find out more about what I may be missing :)

  54. Karen says:

    Do I HAVE Toooooo???

    Okay, You’re right, I can be a
    big whiner… Thanks for the help!

  55. Debby says:

    OK, Starting at 11:25 this morning…. no complaining! ! I’ll write them down instead…Tough one! Ooops, starting at 11:26 LOL

  56. Flo says:

    I’m ready for the challenge. I’ll e-mail again in 24 hours. Should be interesting. PS my husband will be happy lol

  57. Carlin says:

    A great idea! I tried stopping all complaining about a year ago – what an eye-opener! And it had a very positive effect on my energy and state of mind. I’ve got away from that since then – it takes discipline and attention to try to make it a habit, so tapping will likely be a great help – thank you!

  58. Ania says:

    I’m up for the challenge. I start right now :D
    Thank you for the great idea <3

  59. Cindy says:

    Wow- that timing was almost creepy! lol. I just posted in our little tapping community about a complaint I was having that kinda escalated yesterday. It was wonderful to be validated and supported in our group, but for the people I was complaining to- I couldn’t seem to make a difference. When I saw this in my email today- I was thinking I would love to do the challenge, but …already with the “but” the manager is calling me back today…How can I voice my concern without it being a complaint? Here lies the challenge. This may be a breakthrough. I got passionate about my complaint, because I want something to change and become better, but I handled it so badly because I wasn’t feeling heard at all. My therapist always says, that the person who is most grounded “wins” – so like you are saying, Jennifer, if I can complain with myself and tap through it, I will be more calm and grounded to actually instill a change. I hope. Thank you so much for your beautiful and well timed message!

  60. Cecil Davis says:

    My time is so limited at the moment, but will try to keep up with you guys. Happy with the 24 hour no complaining plan; aver good concept.
    Thanks.

  61. Barbara says:

    I like the thougt and how Jessica shared her experience and “steps” on or toes. Thank you planting the seed; I will do it as well: 24 hours not complaining- Juhu/tralala Barbara

  62. Maria says:

    I don’t think I’m a complainer but anyway I’m up for the challenge

  63. Gayle Bunge says:

    Wow! perfect timing. I just hung up the phone with my business partner. We spent the last 30 minutes complaining. My 24 hours starts now!

  64. Becca Pronchick says:

    Thank you Jessica. I’m in! Always a good practice to be more aware of my self-talk.

  65. Dotti says:

    This thing about complaining – I’ve been practicing this for many years and at least 99% successful. It’s really not that hard – state your issue and then immediately look for the solution.

  66. Nattip Boonthanakit says:

    I’m in! Thank you for coming up with this!

  67. Susanne says:

    It’s definitely what I need just now. Thank you, Jessica! I wonder what’s going to happen…

  68. Shirley Pedersen says:

    I work hard on not complaining so doing this with the intention of writing down the thoughts will be vey good for me. I am in!

  69. jackie says:

    I welcome this challenge! when do we start????

  70. Brianna says:

    I’m definitely in. Great idea!

  71. Christina says:

    Great! I am in! There is even a book out : a complaint free world and they suggest that you were a rubber band around your wrist and every time you catch yourself complaining you move the rubberband to the other wrist.

  72. kathy says:

    I’m going to give the challenge a try. I’m entering thinking that I’m not a big complainer… we’ll see. I’ll be back in 24!

  73. Christina says:

    Great! I am in! There is even a book out : a complaint free world and they suggest that you were a rubber band around your wrist and every time you catch yourself complaining you move the rubberband to the other wrist.

  74. Lavanya says:

    I actually caught myself the other day when i was talking to my friend. I was telling her how much energy she has and how she is able to do so many things and how i can never do what she is doing etc.. the same night, i was reading “Four Agreements” and the first one was “Be impeccable with your word”. I realized how i was selling myself short and trying to convince her that i was somehow less than her. that was my aha moment. I was not particularly on guard for 24 hours though. it would be interesting. i often times finding myself saying things that weren’t uplifting and it is hard to stop. and i tell/convince myself that i was speaking the truth. I am committed to doing it today. Thanks for the inspiration.

  75. Janet says:

    Can I have a few minutes to complain before I get started? OK – ready, set go!

  76. Lisa Hamaker says:

    THANK YOU! I so appreciate how you are constantly giving us these “small” changes that make a big difference. Like many people I try to watch my negative attitude, so this will be a great project!

  77. Barbara says:

    Ooooooooh I have definitely been the voice of complaint lately and am so ready to be done with it. I’m all in.

  78. Cindy says:

    Great Value…simple yet powerful tool to use complaints as tapping material….love it!

  79. Adrienne says:

    Great idea! I have my notebook ready and I accept the challenge!

  80. Miramarmora says:

    That was a great coincidence! I just promised myself today that I will stop complaining to my boyfriend. I’ll definitely join, and I hope I’m able to stay conscious and not fall into old habits! Complaining is just poison to any relationship I guess…
    Thanks for that one, Jessica!

  81. Kyla says:

    Complaining has kind of become a way of socially relating to people. I know I sure do it a lot when I’m out of things to say, “oh it’s so gross outside” etc. I especially complain about my job and some of my co-workers. So not automatically doing that is going to be quite difficult. But I know it’s not healthy to carry around this negative energy. So if I can’t leave the job, I better leave my attitude.

  82. Kitty says:

    Oh Yes, I’m complainer….inherited and quite adept! I’m definitely up for the challenge.
    Good luck all.
    Kx